What women want

Guys, this thread is aimed directly at you. There's always been some kind of a border between guys and girls, particularly in one can't read the mind/interests/wants of the the other. So, we're looking at this in a 'reverse point-of-view' kind of way: I'd like the guys to say what they think a girl (in general) wants in a man. Girls, I'd like you to also point out if that isn't likely for girls to want 'this' or 'that', and also share a bit of what you find valuable in a guy.

Please note, I'd like more mature responses than 'to get laid'.

 

It really depends on the girl.
Some may want a relationship
Some may just want someone to like them but won't date them (God I hate being in this type of relationship)
Just the other day, I overheard a girl saying that if the guy she was talking to wouldn't screw her, she'd easily find someone else to.

 

Some women prefer a man who will give them competition in certain events (because some girls just want to have fun), some women want a man who can take care of them, and some women want a man to have that intimate inner-spiritual bond we know as "a relationship".

An importat concept to consider is that women also seek balance from their men. They want someone who will understand when he's "getting too close" amd providing no space, while some women want the opposite.

In general, women want men who catch on fast.

 

I don't think sex is the issue...but moreover the person...if you fall in love and get married then swapped interests would still work...moreover everyones mind works diff3erentrly millions of combinations on what women and men want...anything and everything could be the interest

 

To get laid!
Wait, Darkcloud already took that one...

Women want their fathers if you're speaking to a Freudian Psychologist. Wait, Freud has been proven wrong about many of his theories...

To be truthful, I couldn't tell what one women finds attractive to the next. The bad boy complex is the obvious one at a young age to fulfill sexual desires and see their options. Whilst mid way through life women want a family to settle down with, so look for the man most fitted for the job whilst older women feel they can't be picky about their choices and settle with almost anyone.

But truly iy is individual choice. Like any relationship, it's their choice and preferrance.

 

There are different preferences for each person. Some women want a guy for an actual relationship, some for just a label. It's hard to find the right person these days, not saying every girl is a bad person. Everybody has the potential to be a good partner in a relationship, the main issue is conflicting compatibility.
For instance, let's say you have a very outgoing person dating a dull and boring person, it won't work that well, at least in my opinion.

 

No matter what they may imply, girls generally fall for guys they can change a thing or two about. Women like to "brush up" their lovers, whether they are aware of this or not.
Those flaws however may not be too big or too prominent and must be removable in order for this "rule" to apply.

Some traits that may apply (but work as a turn-off on others):
- Shyness
- Impatience
- Laziness
- Typical male pride (not liking to lose to girls)
All in mild form. Note that having a number of these instead of one or few can lead to swift yet painful rejection anyhow so don't push your luck too far.

I'm not saying that you have to have these traits. I'm saying they "ain't so bad" and can actually work in your advantage. Perfect guys tend to scare most girls off.
Women are kinda like spiders: you hesitate to approach them but in truth they may turn out to be just as nervous when you do.

 

So far I know a few types of girls who want different things.

Some don't want to date at all. They simply dislike the idea of seeing a guy and kissing in public and being close at all.

Some are sex-crazy and really don't want a relationship. Or they do want a relationship (once they've attained an STD or something else, although this isn't always true).

Some want that really close bond. That's something that can be difficult to manage.

Some are traditional and move slow. Others rip through men like sonic the hedgehog.

But yeah there's way too many types of girls in terms of their interests for me to simply list. In terms of universal things? I think a lot of it pretty much comes down to physical attraction at first, then spiritual connection shortly after (to make sure there's compatibility). This varies from person to person, yes, but remains pretty much the same throughout, imo, and from my experiences.

 

About Girls...

This seems weird to post, but I just wanted some advice on this one. I never really had a girlfriend, so what are key points? What is it that girls like from guys? Below is what I do, so from what I said below...is there anything I do wrong or that could be improved?

1. They say that girls like it when a guy is a gentlemen. Opening doors and etc. It's something I always do for everyone, so that's not an issue.

2. What about sports? I was told that girls like it when a guys likes sports, but isn't that also a turn off? I mean it gets into a huge problem where the guy only cares for his sports. I was told that a girl wouldn't like me just because I don't enjoy watching sports on tv. I just like playing sports with friends. That's really it. I don't even care about going to a game.

3. What about being negative? I know I'm not positive, so I do bring on that negative attitude to myself, but not on others. I feel that I don't always like myself, but than how is someone supposed to like me then?

4. When it comes to my work, I'm very positive about that. I do a lot of work when it comes to my websites, reporting and voicing. I get into it, that I find myself talking about it a lot. More so to people that I know. I don't randomly talk about it unless I know the person well.

5. Let's face it. A lot of guys are in a relationship for sex, but that's awful. It looks like a guy is using a girl as a tool. That just pisses me off. For other guys who do that, I feel like it's a disgrace.

6. Cheating is so un-tolerated. I know so many people who are cheated on. Once again, mostly guys, which also makes us look like jerks. Well for me, cheating on someone is awful and should not even be tolerated.

7. Compliments. I think it's important to always let the girl know that you have an interest in her. I don't think it's bad to compliment each other. It gives a good feeling to others, right?

8. Keeping in contact. I may sound like a woman here, but seriously, I want to at least talk to my girlfriend a couple times a week. I wouldn't want to go only a week seeing her once. It makes me feel like she's not interested. Is that so bad?

9. Overall, I'm a guy who will forgive mistakes, but when it comes to lying and cheating, I defiantly have no patients for that. I like to be romantic. I'm very negative though about myself, although my work is a more dominate and positive outlook in my life. I do seek attention from friends and others, just because I think everyone deserves some sort of attention. I may want it more than an average person, so I guess that should be fixed. I'm very honest and caring. I will always hear someone out. I'm also someone who wants to be involved with that person's family. I think that's something that's great for a relationship. What can I say, I'm a family guy. Staying in contact is very important, so I always hope to talk often during the week.

I think that's it. So, can anyone point me to a direction about what I've said. Any advice?

 

Maybe I'm off the mark here, but from a cursory glance of your attributes it seems like you fit, or when the time comes, eventually will fit into the niche of "nice guy". Even if you're not, it bears to keep the following in mind anyway:

 

Haha this is interesting.
Well lets see...

From my point of view i like it when:
1. Guys give compliments
2. Are nice
3. Caring
4. Keep some level of contact
5. Guys tell girls a name of a song that is romantic or sends some sort of message, and tell the girl that it reminds the guy of the girl
6. Guys like you for your personality too, not just looks
7. Guys can play an instrument
8. Guys have manners
9. Good etuqiette (gentlemen)

Stuff I dont like:

1. When they are jerks
2. When they keep you a secret and dont show you to their friends
3. When they think that theyre all that
4. When theyre clingy
5. When they try to joke around but its messed up in a way
6. Too much into sex
7. When you try to talk to them and they stare at your boobs the
whole time
8. When they act like they like you but they dont
9. When they know that you like them but dont hang out with you
10. When they have anger issues
11. When they dont hang out with you
12. Have no respect

Some advice is to get more chick friends

The list goes on and on...

Hope this helps at all.

 

I'm confused. Being "nice" is too much?

 

Being nice is perfectly fine. Just don't let that be the extent of your personality, or you're not going to catch their interest. Be kind and thoughtful, but confident and charismatic.

 

From what i've seen of older teens and those in their early 20s, the general population of women go through the phase of 'bad guys' during this time. I have this one friend, she's 19, and her current and ex-boyfriends are both *******s on different levels.
The ex was an abusing, lying, theiving piece of ****, who stalked and harrassed her for over a year. The current guy is a lazy, demanding and unambitious person with no job, proper education and lives at her house, eats her food and takes her money.
My mother says that this type of woman will always pick this type of guy for the rest of her life. I don't know about that, but I have hope she'll mature out of it.

Anyway the point I was trying to put forward is that, at this young age, many women do not seek the 'nice guy' who is reliable, dependable and the such, they seek the thrilling, and dangerous relationship that is the 'bad guy'. ALot of women grow out of this state when they want a stable relationship and/or a family.
But that's not to say that alot of young women don't want the nice guy, it's just usually they are educated, sweet and kind, and unfortunately can be the less sociable type.
But it's not only the perosnality of someone that atracts one another together, the 'spark' when you first meet, can have a great affect on a relationship, especially if both people are attracted to each other.

I don't know really what to say. I feel the same way. I would love a stable relationship with someone I can rely on, and cares for me. Sex would be a bonus, but it's not a requirement, it'll happen one day.
Just don't give up. You will find someone. Unfortunately, you need to be patient about it. Just don't lose hope.

 

Didn't read all of the responses, but here's my two cents on the "nice guy/*******" debate.
Girls don't really want an ******* per se, they want someone who treats them differently. Every guy wants this girl so they try to impress her and be nice to her and crap. One guy treats her like a jerk, she falls for him because he's different than the rest.

It may not even be that either, they just want the excitement.

 

Basically, like I said, you have to be interesting. This doesn't mean you can't and shouldn't be nice, but it does explain why some girls pick *******s over "nice guys": usually they don't have much more to them than that. *******s often have confidence and charisma, which is attractive.

 

I've merged your thread with this older one, Mike. You might find out something useful when you read it. Sometimes being perfect in theory is not enough...or too much of a good thing. Hence why I think it's useful to read this thread and see just what girls look for in a guy.