What do you do when...

What do you do... When you completely ruin something you wish you never had brought up? When you thought you are right, and yet you were so wrong. You make a choice that you never should have made, and you want to un-make it; but you can't.

When you lose something you can't get back, you fight for it. You get torn down. The thing you are fighting for seems like it will never be in sight. Like you will never reach it in time.

I have a problem on my hands, which includes these many questions.
I need them answered. I can't find the answers myself.

 

if you cant unmake something you did, you have to forget about it and move on.
if you believe you'll get back whatever youre fighting for, things will probably end in your favor.
i dont know if that helps, but you have to find the answers. no one can really do it for you.

 

There have been many times when I have brought something up thinking I am right and been torn down so fast I didn't know what was happening =/ That's why I tend to keep quiet in school.
I have so many regrets I have sometimes wanted to relive my life to fix them. To deal with them I think there's nothing I can do now, it's happened, it was bad but it's over. I then try to forget about it. But the littlest thing can make me remember.

I'm sorry if that wasn't much help, all you can do is try to move on and accept that it has happened and there's nothing you can do about it (although it can be different depending on the context).

 

If your problem has gotten this devastating, I think the best thing to do is relax and let time pass over it. Even though life might be heartbreaking right now, you will most likely feel better in a day, week, or month. I know that may seem like forever, but it really is best not to live life with regret.

 

I have had these, what I do is try to forget them and never bring it up again. I began to get a crush on a really good friend and he found out and we went out for a bit but then our friendship has never been the same.

 

Some time life hands us these situations in order to make us beeter as a whole. Yes your heart hurts for a long time, but the best thing to do is not try and forget about it...but learn from it, take the opertunity to learn and you will never be in this situation again. I know it may seem hopeless right now, but things always get better. I do agree that if you are fighting for something, in the end you will gain that something, or something beyond your wildest imagineation.


So hey, keep your head up, the skies will clear soon, and everything should be just fine.


If you want to talk, feel free to PM me anytime.

 

You can't go back, so make up for your past, do what yu can to make the people have a better opinion about you.
If you really want to make up for something, you should put your heart and soul into it!
though, I know stuff that you can't make up for, something that you never get your friends back from, but anyway, It might not be that big, Can you tell us Angel?

 

I just suck it up and take it as a lesson,then I try not to make the same mistake in the future.
We are human beings after all,we are not gods,we are not perfect.

 

I normally fight harder. I don't give up on what I think, in that sense. As for being completely wrong I just admit defeat and learn up on it. There isn't much more you can do, don't argue back if you know your wrong.

Just keep your head up, and kick more ass life'll be good.

 

I mostly try not to regret things, we're all just human. We make mistakes.

I try to take a lesson from a failure and move on and live in the moment.

Be the change you want to see in the world.

 

Well, first I get disappointed about it and frustrated, because doing something like that and regretting it sucks. I try to think about the events that led up to it and use the hindsight now that I have the chance, and consider what all went wrong and how I could have prevented it. I then try to see if I have any possibility at all of repairing the error because if I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

However, if I have lost something dear because of it, I have to accept it, at least for a while, if no words said can make up for the deed. Sometimes just saying something that you are sorry works, and other times, it just isn't going to be good enough, so I have to let it go and move on. However, I do make sure I learned that lesson so I don't repeat things again, because I don't want others or me going through something like that again. If I can later, I'll try to make amends again, but at the same time, if I can't, I have to move on.

I hope whatever it is will get better for you and if not, you have friends here who maybe can aid you. If you'd like to message me on what the actual problem is, I wouldn't mind listening. Be well. We all make some mistakes and some really hurt bad for a while.

 

No offence, but that sounded really...really cliche.

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angel, I find that if you dwell on the matter too much, it can take a whole of you. You might even go to the brink of madness. I've seen it happened to others and it can just destroy them. As many other members said before, keep your head up and continue living your life.

Cause thinking about the past aint going to change it.

 

Exactly, dwelling on what happened in the past never helps. You get stuck with what ifs and buts that do nothing but drag you down into the depths of depression. I've been there, and I just kept thinking in circles trying to think of ways of doing it differently. What if I had done this or didn't say that. it helps no-one. The only thing you can do is accept that it has happened and move on. But you should never forgot, because these are the sort of experiences that you have to learn from to prevent them from happening again or at least limiting the damage next time.

 

if there one thing ive learned, its that time heals everything :)