Virtual Relationships

First of all, I am 23, and I am horribly shy and nervous about meeting people I know online. I find it somewhat amazing how calm you are about it.

Can you not compromise? Like, arrange to meet halfway and have your mother go with you? I know a couple of people from this site who met when they were about your age and their parents went with them.

I would advise that for now you let it drop, don't forget about meeting them, I'm not suggesting that at all, but if you show that you're willing to compromise and be mature they will be more willing to listen. If it is a strong friendship, you'll survive the time before you meet ^^

Don't listen to him guys, it is only because he wants to make me drink out of an axe and throw cats at skulls ;-;

<3

 

The reason I am not nervous now is because these things take awhile to hit me, emotions pile up like a stack of books and fall over at the slight poke of a finger. When I am emotional, I am very emotional. But the realization of meeting them probably won't dawn on me until once it has actually happened, and only then may I allow myself to be a nervous wreck.

That may work, she is visiting New York this summer. Our schedule is filled to the brim already, so maybe next year we could both try for New York...

Jesus, you are cynical, usually used with a negative connotation to it but I am actually smiling. Jaded by life, as sick as an old man. Funny. Just a tacky observation, don't mind me. Realistic, and admittedly I could use a little realism in my life. Still don't want to accept it, not willing to accept the facts. Close to no chance of us meeting, but whatever, I will play my chances. And as for them broadening their horizons, I am aware that that may eventually happen. Cannot expect them to stay same forever, people are fickle things and change is inevitable. Lacking words here... realize that but at the same time I simultaneously don't, a little bit of my heart holds faith that they won't ever change.

...Haha, I would rather you stuck with being "mighty old-fashioned", sorry, that analogy confused me. Need to reread.

Catch the Rain, the motherly overlord of KHV. Is it just me, or does everyone wish to see her? She shouldn't be so critical of herself, everyone loves her with an unmatched fondness. Self-deprecation attracts.

 

I understand, but my advice is that you don't place all your bets on that little piece of heart.

The gist is that your parents have put 13 years of effort into raising you and that you are irreplacable to them. Even a small risk can look mighty threatening if the stakes are high enough.

Think what you will of it. The plan was to get drunk beyond all recognition while I rant about how unfair Odin Sphere's unforgiving difficulty is.

 

I've been on this site for a little over four years, and I haven't met anyone on here.

I can understand where your parents are coming from. If I was on KHV when I was 13 (which I was...), and had asked my parents to go see someone I had met on here, they would have been very upset with me. It is not only a question of how would you work it out, but also a question of safety. They are honestly just trying to look out for you in the best way they can. They don't want any harm to come to you. That doesnt necessarily mean that you are going to be physically hurt by said person, but they are afraid for you possibly getting too close to someone that you can't physically be with (not be with as in like romantic, but friendship as well). I can completely understand their concern.

If you are set on seeing this person, you are going to have to do your research. Places to meet up, how to get the two of your parents talking etc. I do not suggest blatantly defying your parents wishes, running away and going to see this person. I can assure you that will not end well.

As for me, I am 16, going to be 17 in about a week. Are there people I would love to meet from this forum? Absolutely. I know a certain member (who isnt active anymore) might be going to the same college that I am. If so, we are totally rooming together. I introduced her to debate, and maybe if we are lucky, we will see each other at nationals next year. If I ever go back to england, you bet your butt I'm going to see Kay. If I end up going to Puerto Rico, I am probably going to photoshoot with Bivi. Honestly, I would wait to see this person. If the opportunity comes up, grab it. Use the time you are looking at colleges to visit a college near this person and meet up with them when you are older. In my opinion, you are too young to be meeting up with other people on the internet, regardless of how long you have known them. Just hold your horses and see how life plays out.

 

The only time I did that was an online bf. It was awesome but he lived hours away and neither of us could drive at the time. I was lucky that my parents were ok with us meeting but ONLY if he'd agree to meet me properly at my house to meet both of my parents and my step mom. Due to this he tried to get a friend to drive him up closer to where I live for a date...I'm still mortified when I was reminded by my dad just what being the baby of a military man meant...which in his case was turning it into a double date and putting a pocket knife in his pants. Anyways he gets lost for an hour and my dad, step mom and I search him only to find he was simply five minutes away from my house which we had a good laugh about. I remembered how he said he also loved seafood and said just two buildings down a restaurant had a cheap seafood buffet so we went there with my dad and step mom while he's friends ate some fast food next door. He was a pretty nervous guy so he was shaking as he tried to eat because....well, Navy dad and he knows how to intimidate. When we were done it was late as is and his friends were ready to go. He wanted to kiss me but hugged because...again dad making him nervous. It was great but his friend that drove him, and this was before gas prices were crazy, said the drive used too much gas and refused to drive him down again. *Sighs* It sucked because it was awesome and my dad actually approved of him but I have no regrets. We had fun and kept in contact for another year before we just lost touch.

I think as long as it's planned safely meeting someone you've met online, even if it's just a friend, is great. Really, I understand. I think it's that basic human longing to see someone face-to-face and have real human interaction. Maybe if you explain that to her she'll get it; that you just want to established a social life with one of your online friends outside of the computer.