Truth or lies, which of the two are more important? From my experiance, Lies are more important because i after my first time with depression i told myself that i would be completely truthful and expected everyone to be completely truthful to me. I did this for 2 years and yet...all it brought me was strife and difficulty. I might be stronger for it but it makes me appreciate lying more. From my experiance i think it is actually important to lie more than it is important to be truthful because lying is the only security that can be given to you as you grow. your thoughts?
I think sometimes lying can be the best thing, we tell small lies (white lies) with good intentions, such as not wishing to hurt someone else's feeling etc, but I think if you make the decision to be an active liar over a lot of things you will find it bites you in the ass very quickly. The importance of one over the other? Well both have their place and their purpose, I don't think one is more important than the other, but I think it is best to try and be as honest as you can. We are all human, we have all and will all tell a lie at some point or another, that is pretty much fact, but I think lies can be a lot more harmful than truth.
total honesty brings pain, complete lies bring pain...theyre both something we need you just have to get the balance right dont force yourself react naturally see how things swing.
let me rephrase the question, if there was a choice between total lies or total truth without a trace of the other, which would it be?
Knowing that the lies are lies? Total truth. Lying always leaves room for interpretation, more so than truth at least. It's a double-edged sword; even if one person benefits from a lie it's no guarantee that someone else would react the same way. An example. Suppose someone asks: "Why don't you like me?" That person receives a mild but untrue answer, which he knows is untrue. They may have been told "I don't like the way you dress." while the real reason could be much deeper. Now there are two categories of responses to this: 1. One is content with the lie and feels relieved. 2. One still questions the real reason and keeps feeling insecure. Both reactions are common but personal experience has taught me that #1 may turn into #2 over time, more so than vice-versa. Honesty and dishonesty can both hurt and heal, but honesty at least removes the uncertainty. I'll go with the truth any day.
Which is more important? Lies. From an individual scale to a grander scale, I don't think people can handle the complete truth. Which would I choose with no trace of the other? Total truth. Then people would either have no choice then to get over their feelings hurt or living with it.
The truth shall set you free. If I had the choice between the two, truth is my answer. But then again, could I be lying to you? The problem with truth and lies is that our own minds and perception can make things true and untrue. All senses tell you aobut the outide world, but it's your brain that puts meaning onto this information, whether it's right, wrong, true or not. They are personal views and not absolutes I wonder if there is even a thing like an absolute truth?
i'm actually really torn about this. i think it's ok to lie at times, like if you're trying to spare someone's feelings about something. but i don't think you should delude yourself with lies to make yourself feel better, like denying that you have shortcomings. i also kinda think people are happier with lies but i think that knowing and facing the truth enpowers you to change your ways. of course that last sentence only applies to dealing with short-comings, i'm sure that there are times when the truth would leave you feeling emotionally crippled when the lies would've preserved your sanity. so i'm pretty torn. i hope that made sense.
I was going to reply to this, but you did it yourself. I don't think people's feelings should be spared. "Does this dress make me look fat?" I can say no when it really does. If she believes me, she might be happy. Then she goes out in public and everyone else thinks she looks fat. That could have been avoided if I said "yes" and she changed.
A personally stand by peoples statement of "you can't handle the truth!" simply because people can't handle major truth, sure they can handle small truths but in the grander scale of things lying is the best thing for it. "As a man of truth i can see lies". Even though i speak truth i appreciate lying more than the truth for the simple fact that i've forced people to give me the truth and have been truthful and i know truth, it makes see lying as it really is, not that dirty gritty thing that people make out but, a shield crafted with great care.
Well. It depends on the whole situation. To people that matter in my life..(Family, Guardians, Teachers etc.) I realize they have more intelligence that me and I should look up to them. So in this case, I am truthful. For instance, my principal and vice principal got really overworked about my class's issue with bullying and thought I was a victim.(Usually I'm not a victim of bullying, I just get into slight conflicts which I find funny.) I was 100% truthful and honest towards them and they grew A LOT of respect for me after a single conversation. They even said they think I'm the most honest person they've encountered throughout the whole day. Usually I'm not too honest at points, but in this case I feel honesty has got me respect. Now lying on the other hand is useful, but a bad way to get out of situations especially with people that show everlasting respect for you. I lie a bit when it has to do with friends/acquaintances. But when it comes to people that show no respect for me, they don't give one **** about me. Then I'm a completely different person. I'm evasive, witty and I'll lie right in front of their faces. In my opinion, when I know I'm more intelligent than a person that has no respect for me and treats me like I'm a ******, I play mind games, lie to them, and just make them look like fools in the end. Usually I just ignore them anyhow, but when I'm moody I'll calmy talk my way out of their idiocy. My opinion on this is that they are both as equally effective in the long run, but when to use them and how to use them is what counts.
If I have to choose between the two I would say I would choose to be totally truthful over being a total liar. Both can bring pain. I, a majority of the time, believe truth is dodged so much by people that feel they need to hear what is a lie to comfort them. I don't think people deserve that treatment and it babies them. I may now and then sugarcoat things, but most of the time I do not bother. I'd rather people hear the truth from me and even if sometimes they don't like it, most people appreciate it or they wouldn't hang out with me at all. I have people bugging me constantly so I guess it is a thing so people do actually do. I cannot however say I do not now and then lie. Why? Because there are times when basically I feel that a situation can be dealt with and get someone to move without some traumatic experience if I do. I.e. if someone is in a building on fire and panics easy, I may tell the person the boss said he/she could have an early lunch so the person evacuates the building with little trouble. Yes, when the person gets outside and sees the other side of the building with smoke coming out, he/she is going to know it was a lie. Ah, well. I can live with the repercussions. The person is safe and sound. Another lie.. Santa Claus. I find it fun to let kids believe in it until they are old enough where it's silly to. I do not feel it scarred me in any way and it felt like a right of passage in a way to learn that Santa was not real, but real in another way that adults were giving and gave me some imagination. I don't see it as particularly harmful in any way. As I was growing up, sometimes to avoid talking about my family situation that sucked, I would make up things I did that were like other kids around so I was not so out of place. Nowadays, I really could care less what other people think of me so I grew out of that habit, but back then it gave me access to being more sociable and 'one of the crowd' because being in school meant that you had to be 'cool' or you were a loser, so I felt. My last couple years of school, I basically canned the idea as not being worth compromising myself because I didn't feel I should be so ashamed as to lie. Also, I started to break free of my mother's grip over me so I could actually make truths instead. In the end, we all lie and some people do it a heck of a lot more than others. I can generally tell when someone is lying to me and can say often I overlook it unless they are being ridiculous and I'm just fed up with it and challenge them to answer why they are lying and do they think I'm that stupid. White lies don't bug me really, but when someone is dodging issues and it is actually harming them to do so, I feel I should say something so I can maybe help them out. Seeing as how I know for a while lying helped me cope with my reality at school, even if now and then the lies caught up with me, I do get why some people do it. I just can't really make myself bother with lies though unless it is to protect someone that I know is too fragile for the truth at a moment in time. I am just not wired that way I guess.
The two can't be separated by importance. They're really equally important. The situations determine the context of importance, in my opinion. For example, someone might lie to save them the trouble having to deal with the pain of something. Of course other variables in this type of situations are there, but generally speaking, this would be a case where lying is appropriate. Being truthful is a lot more painful but in the long run it builds foundation. And from my experience I am absolutely sure truth is the way to go if you think it is worth it later. Also, the truth allows you to recover and not make the same mistake. Which is why it occurs so much in history; lying and deception of processes result in repetition of events and patterns. And that repetition itself becomes the pattern. The common manifestation of this scenario is something like religion, santa clause, political ridiculopathy, or if there is a complete hegemony of the state where a population is ruled. In it's current state, I can hopefully say that society isn't the far latter, yet. XD It varies on importance of the situation.
When I First saw this, I immediately thought "Total truth", but after reading what some other people said, I began thinking. I mean, it's natural to tell lies sometimes. With my friends, they tend to show off if they get something new. My natural instinct is to say "Yea, well, I got that *ages* ago." or something along those lines. Yet what I find with lies is that they will someday find out - another example is one of my really close friends who I completely ignore now. I found out that basically her whole entire life was lies towards me and my other friends - everything she got, everything she did, was just a tower of lies that built up over the years but is now a pile laying shattered on the ground. Still she keeps asking us to forgive her - of course we did, but we still ignore her. Once a liar, always a liar. Especially since we found out that she told another bunch of lies before hand. Everyone knows that the truth hurts, of course it does, but would you rather be brought up with the truth and get over it, or find out that you've been lied too (maybe throughout your whole life, depending on a situation) and then finding it hard to trust that person again? I myself would rather be totally truthful, although as we're human, you can't always expect to stay that way for the rest of your life. There's nothing wrong with slipping up a few times and telling white lies to make everything seem OK.
