The Murder Of Another

Recently in my life, someone has come to me and expressed concern about they thoughts on murder, they were sweating and expressed a scared tone in their voice, and I suspected that something involving a murder had happened to them in some way.
Yesterday, they confessed to a murder of a man, he was a local drug-dealer in one of the roads near where he lives, I was shocked, obviously but I had never dealt with something like this in my life before, one of my friends killing someone and telling me all about it, so I told him to calm down, comforted him, and even invited him to my house to sleep round, just to make him fell better, this morning we left for school and everything returned to normal.

At this point I am concerned if what I did was right, I promised not to tell anyone, and I, never break them, but this is something way bigger than me, and I am very confused at this point on what to do, so these are the questions I ask:

1. Is keeping a secret of someone murdering another person, right or wrong of me?

2. Should I have done anything something else?

3. What should I do now?

4. What would you do, if in my position?

 

1)Yes it's wrong
2)Yes you should
3)Try to persuade him to turn himself in.
4)No 3.

 

ouch thats a hard hitter
well first find out if the murder is 100% real and find out every detail, from there ask him several times to turn himself in, if he doesnt command it, if that doesnt work still you might have to turn him in

 

First of all,can you tell us all the details?ABout how he killed him and stuff?We really need to find if it's true first.In addition,was anyone there? 0_0

 

i doubt he'll tell us everything, cause whats to stop someone here from calling th police and reporting it?

 

From a legal standpoint you know about the murder, who did it, and are hiding it.
You're doing something agents the law yourself.

But I'm not gonna advice anything, since I don't know the whole situation.

 

No!!!I don't mean that kind of details!I mean abt the crime scene

 

That's a very rough position to be in. I'm sorry to hear all that.

1. I would say that this puts you in a rough position indeed, again. I would try to find out the reasons why he did such an act because it is a very extreme deed to do.

2. I think you did right in comforting him, but that is one helluva secret to keep in and if I were in your place, I probably would try to see if he would not confess the deed. I wouldn't tell others really, but I would try to see if he would actually do the right thing because if he confessed and it was a serious dilemma that inspired him to do this, he may not be charged so heavily. If they find out it was him and he did nothing...that could cause him a lot more pain and well, a lot longer in prison. Also keeping it held in could make the law think you are aiding a criminal so it does put you in a bad spot too if it's discovered you knew and did nothing at all.

3. Much of what I said in #2. Try to see if he will confess to it and perhaps he should try to get his evidence to support why and such. If you keep it a secret and he does, he has to live with it for the rest of his life hidden. If you do both keep it a secret and it isn't discovered, he'll be fortunate in one sense, but if it is found out, which it has more of a chance of such happening, he's going to be in for a world of hurt.

4. What I said above is what I'd do. I'd be torn but try to convince him to present himself. If that didn't work, I have to say I doubt I'd say anything for a while if I understood and could sympathize. I know others would disagree with me on this since it is a 'murder' but I'd really rather that person do the right thing and push him to it than just rat him out. Being as the guy he murdered was a drug dealer, it seems there may be some reasoning to it and if he comes forward it may be a lot easier on him. If he doesn't though, you may have to make up your own mind as to whether you can live with someone's death being caused by your friend and held in secrecy or not. Good luck with this PAW. I don't envy the position you are in.

 

First of all i wasn't there, second, I am breaking enough of my promise just telling this here. Third, I can guarantee, this person did kill someone, since he is acting completly different to how he normally acts, and the tears he cried weren't fake, his eyes didn't lie.

I just know that if someone trusts me enough with this information, I can't easily break it, he trusted me and I don't break the trust of anyone.

EDIT: All I can say on hy he done this is because the drug-dealer was about to hurt one of his customers, and so my friend defended tis person, but unfortunatly the Drug-dealer died instantly. I can not say anymore, so do not ask.

 

Well my friend,i think it's a law vs friendship issue...It totally depends on your character.Just think of the drug dealers relatives...Think how they feel...Even though,are you ready to double-cross our friend...?UGH DUDE!YOU'Re IN A BIg fAT PICKLE!!!

Edit:Nevermind,this can be taken as defence,so maybe there is a small chance that your friend won'go in jail.Just try finding a good lawyer.And find any witnesses...They can help you.

 

im sorry i know i sound awful for this but one promise and the trust of one is a bit small against a murder, you also have to think of yourself, what happens if word gets out that you knew about it? then what you would be charged for that and you could go to jail along with him

 

Thank you for everyones input, I konw I should tell the police but, I have known him all my life, e has helped me alot when we were younger when I was bullied and now he needs me, I just wouldn't forgive myself if he went to jail, I would rather go with him to jail, then to not help him.
I know that might seem stupid, but I know its what I should do.

 

hide hm well War, hide him well

 

I can understand that, which is why I think you should help him out but also encourage him strongly to do the right thing and turn himself in. You would be supportive and help him also during the trial and you could also see him if he goes to prison with visitation rights. Hiding it may be your option right now, but if he steps forward, he might get a lot less of a sentence for what he did. Especially if the guy is a well known drug dealer etc. It's very emotional and I hope you both work something out you can live with.

 

Man...this must a real hardhitter in ur life. Srry to hear about it. Considering how close you guys seem to be, I'd suggest hiding a bit longer before making a final decision...

 

Hiding? NO!

Regardless of who it was, the fact remains that your friend killed someone. Say you both hide it for now, maybe you get away with it for a while, maybe even years, but the guilt will eat at you every day.

The best thing you can do, is enourage your friend to hand himself in, going on the run IMO is the stupidest thing you can do.

I apologise if I sound very harsh here, but that is the way it is. If your friend goes to the police and hands himself in, explaining the circumstances, they will look more favurably on him than if they cauht him running.

Be his friend and help him, but neither of you can run or escape from this.

I am sorry that you have a problem like this, I hope it gets sorted out, no-one deserves to have to face this ****, especially a kid.​

 

Again, ithank everyone's input so quickly, I just wonder how things will turn out.

I have another question, if I could find the drug-dealers family, should I help my friend to at least say sorry or something similar?

Ha, i can't remember the last time I had a boring day...

EDIT: Do you me being the kid or my friend, CtR?

 

If you do that, PAW, that's as good as turning him in. His family is assuredly not going to just keep quiet about such a thing. It would be better if he went to the authorities instead and turned himself in, and if he wanted to apologize to the family, he do so then. Turning himself in is the best option. Going to the family would be a bad one.

 

You are the kid PAW and I mean that in an unoffensive way, but you are a kid.

I agree with Repliku here, if you go to that guy's family, you ARE basically handing him in, it is a bad idea. ​

 

True, but u should definately take the time to think over ur final decision...I mean, his life is practically in ur hands...