Teen Sex: should it be allowed

Teenage sex is going to happen, whether people lay down the law against it or not. It just is. The whole point of adolescence is that the bodies of girls and boys are changing and they are becoming sexually active and aware. The hormones are going and teenagers become curious and ready to explore.

What adults can do, as well as teens though? Adults should teach kids about sex and what is happening to them so that teens aren't so lost, confused and they get what's going on. Teens that do not know should look up things and ask questions because if they don't get it, really, they aren't 'mature' enough to be having sex. Some things teens should know before engaging in sexual activities:
- STDs are highest in teens. The spreading of STDs because many teens practice unprotected sex and also switch partners as they are 'dating' happens. Don't assume that just because your potential partner is young that he or she hasn't been with someone else and that he/she is ok. Adults learn to ask questions about a person's sexual prior activities as they are getting to know the other partner -before- having sex. Some adults even go to get physicals before so as to make sure they are clean. Teens don't have the luxury of going for a physical except for the school requirements so make sure to use the one thing you can do, which is ask and hope the partner is truthful with you. Also, read up on signs of STDs so that if you are with that person, if there are some weird things you note, you can say no and that the person should get checked out before you will consider sleeping with them.
- Pregnancy is another thing to think about. Many people will say teens should not have sex because there is the possibility of it. The best thing adults can say to teens is that it -can- happen and that if you are going to sleep around, know that if you do so unprotected, you are going to end up with a kid. Teens should realize that there are other things to do too that can be as gratifying as full intercourse. They do not have to go 'all the way' every time. Whether you like protection or not, if you have unprotected full out sex, a baby can occur. Be cautious in that way.
- Relationships lasting? Some people seem to think that if you have sex in the relationship, it's going to make it last longer. I would have to say that this is not true. Teenager relationships tend to not last that long as many start up in school and then die when summer hits. Some last for quite a short period of time while others, the students actually can see each other and continue things and like each other enough to do so. Often, there are petty reasons why teenagers break up too. Sex doesn't make relationships last longer for adults or teens. If anything, when done too soon, the mystery of what sex would be like with that person is over. If you were in the relationship because you were gaga over some girl or guy and obsessed, often, that obsession can die after having sex even once if you do the act too soon. It's far better to get to know the boy or girl you are interested in other ways, kiss and do some light stuff in the beginning, and -then- move onto sex because you will know your partner more. No relationships whether when adults do them or teens, last long when sex is all the two people know each other for. Remember that there is a difference between what passion/obsession is and love. Having sex always changes the relationship and sometimes it can make things last, other times no. Most of the time if the sex is done too early, you can say the relationship is probably going to die. It's a very intimate act and though people may not have intended it, feelings change after.

Knowing those things, I would say teens should be allowed to have sexual relations. They are going to no matter what. Being sexually mature is going to encourage it. I would just hope that any teens that do also are mentally mature enough to handle things so yeah, to help out with that, I wrote what I did since some adults won't bother saying it point blank. As long as teens do what 'smart' adults do (since not all are so smart or caring) and they know what to watch for and what they are getting into, they are as prepared as they are going to be.

 

precisely. I totally agree with this statement.
As long as you are not forced into it, and you are not doing it because other people are.

 

Problems involving irresponsible teenage sex should be tackled. However, banning it without a second thought is not the way to do so.

Unfair generalisation: achieved. A lot of teenagers, especially late teens, are mature enough to know the consequences, the ins and outs (no pun intended) of sex. Information is abundant as well.

Alsp, just because their brain is still developing doesn't mean they can't have reached the level of maturity required to understand that there is a time and place for sex, and an "etiquette" to go by it.

It seems Generalisation is a popular major in Awful Argumentation class.

Also, getting married just for sex? Having sex just to feel love? You should cut back on Oprah and Dr. Phil. No one at all is to say teens actually think like that. In fact I know quite a bit who don't and very few who do, no more than adults actually.

Very wrong. Sex being an emotional "glue" in a relationship is a widely accepted and shared opinion. And those tend to be of more value than yours. Most couples agree that sex is important in a relationship. Also, the physical tenderness is often the embodiment of the emotional proximity.

And actually, having sex with no strings attached is very possible and rather...out there. So yes, it's quite ironic to see you putting up the "wake-up call" attitude here. You're really not in the position to do so.

According to your logic, sex pushes people apart emotionally. This would make leaving eachother after sex that much easier and one (if not both) of your "arguments" nigh invalid. :)

Hate to break it to you, but most married couples who have built up a firm relationship have had sex somewhere along the way...

 

I agree with Dalk. It should be allowed, but only if the couple knows what they are doing. I don't think un-protected teenage sex is such a great idea, but it should be allowed. I, too know a few couples in there early twentys where they have raised a healthy child, when the child was born only when the couple was around the ages of 17 or 18.

 

This really depends on what the cirsumstances are... i really think the age limit for sex should be lowered beacuse i do agree with you that it does lengthen a relationship but then we have the kids who have sex for fun xD hmmm hard question

 

we are talking about non-married couples

 

No we're not. Your quote in bold didn't target a specific group.
And even if it did, it's still quite wrong.

There is no linear connection between the presence and amount of sex and the duration of a relationship. There is no reason for one to be correlated to the other. Therefore it is wrong to claim that they are related. Unless you can give me a rational argument for an actual connection between the two. That would make me think twice of course. :) Go ahead, I'll be awaiting your answer.

 

i think it shouldn't be ALLOWED, but if kids feel the need, let them be. (at the age of 16, no less)

 

That's... what's going on now. And in case you haven't noticed, that's not all that effective.

 

Well this is difficult for me to answer... as last year ( my grade turned 16 which is the legal age here ) three girls ( that I know of ) had sex and became pregnant. Sure that was their choice, but it is a very young age to have children. Then again, if your safe and it's with someone you love and you knwo you want it... then I ask you not to be like my friend and talk about your past sex life EVERY 5 minutes.!

EDIT: Just been told that the last of the three girls just had a son with a really wierd name​

 

Pretty much sums up my opinion, as well.

Teenagers are going to do it, because our culture has instilled so much sexual activity in them to begin with. Disallowing it will cause more harm than it will goodness, as well, because keeping that kind of energy in you for long periods of time isn't really the most healthy thing to do.

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Welcome back Repliku. Haven't seen you in a while. :]

 

NO! ABSOLUTELY NOT! Teen sex does not do benefit the couple at all, maybe some warts on your genitalia, I think I'll pass. I've seen too many of my friends ruin their life making the poor decision to drop their pants for their so called "love of my life." They ended up in screwed over afterwards, an unplanned pregnancy, a courst case, and a case of HIV in some cases. My question is, why do it in the first place? To "fit in", to have bragging rights? I hear talk of people losing their v-card all the time in my school, of you were me, you couldn't give a f*** if they liked it, it's always the wrong thing to do.
Say a teen couple gets into an arguement, they make up, before you know it, bam, sex time. You know statistics say that if you slept with one person, you would have slept with more people than you could imagine, regardless of gender...Disugsting eh? Billions of dollars are spent on condoms every year, thousands of unplanned teen pregnancies occurr every year, the U.S. has more cases of HIV/AIDS than any other country other than Africa. I think you get my point, I am totally against teen sex, period.

 

Do you think some of your statistics may just be based on the ****ing gargantuan population of the US? Also, as a rebellious teenager, I can safely say that telling us that something is forbidden only really motivates us. And I am not speaking of individuals here, just the people I know and I.

 

Well, no one can stop teens from having sex....it is like putting a bunch of food in front of a dog that hasn't had food in 3 weeks......and you tell him not to eat....not going to happen......

 

no point in making a law since it can't really be enforced, but i DO think that there has to be laws to stop teens from molesting kids and stuff like that.

 

Er... I'm pretty sure molesting people is always against the law...

 

Ya, there are laws against molestation and child pornography......(sexting)

 

They do have laws for that.

 

Ya....but i don't know what they are called if they have names....sorry......

 

Laws don't need to have names XD