Talking to your exes, acceptable or not?

I think it entirely depends on the relationship you had previously, the nature of the relationship itself and how it ended that determines that in my opinion.

I don't think you could patch stuff up and just be friends right after or overnight the break-up (that'd be a little odd) but some people part on amicable terms because the arguments and emotional fall-out has already occurred and all that is really left is to officially declare it over.

I don't speak to any of my exes any more but that was because I discovered them to be clingy creeps from dating them. That's another factor too I guess, are they the same person after dating?

Relationships and factors are so complex; I think it can happen in some cases but I agree mostly that after break-ups it's not good for you to be around them much and you need space to properly adjust to the relationship ending and moving on properly. In due time and stuff I guess after a while if you can put the past behind you and the break-up is liveable then you may become good friends I guess.

 

You're my ex, darky. We don't talk. And the reason why Sabrina and you are still so close is because one of you wants that relationship again. As far as my experience with exboyfriends, there are some who never let go, like Glynn. He just tried so hard to get back together when it wasn't working out in the first place. In that case, I cut off all communication until a year later, spent a day with him and it turned out he still liked me, so we didn't talk anymore once again. As far as Darky and me, we don't speak because it's been years and we've fallen out of contact. I don't mind so much. In those cases I never really spoke to my exs, maybe a bit of small talk here and there but nothing substantial.

And then there's the relationship that happened between Trigger/Jerome and I. We would break up, speak for a week, get back together, break up, not talk for a while, speak for another week, get back together. It went on and on like that for three years. It turned out to be a bit of an abusive relationship, I became controlling and he started lying. In this case, once we broke up we both should have stopped talking. All it would take was one conversation to rekindle our feelings.

Now it's been just over a year since we last broke up, and i'm with my current boyfriend for about 11 months now. Jerome and I have started talking and I think we've given it enough time now to both be over each other.

I guess over all, it depends on the person and the relationship on whether or not it's right to speak with your ex. Nathan doesn't mind me speaking with Jerome because it's been so long and I'm open and honest about everything I do. As long as there is trust in the current relationship and there has been enough time since the relationship with your ex, talking to an ex shouldn't be a problem.

 

All in all i would say that someone you have a romantic relationship with you cant be regular friends with. Whenever i break up with someone they're generally out of my life for good, not out of spite but for emotional reasons, if i stay friends with someone i share fond memories with ill likely be swept up by those memories and do something foolish. For the good of both sides i'd say id be best to stay away once you break up with someone.