Alrighty then. I think that this is only the second time I've done this, but anyway. So I'm sitting at dinner, enjoying my chicken and chips and what-not when suddenly my Mother tells me(for the second time in two days) that one of my mates is going to TAFE(Kinda like Uni/College, for those that don't know) one day a week this year. I ask if this is her telling me subliminaly that I should go. She basically says yes, then proceeds to tell me that if I don't get A's and B's at the end of this year, I'll be going to join the Airforce with my friend. Basically, I said "Umm. No." She said "Yes. You are." And this continued for about five to seven minutes. Obviously, I left quite angry and haven't seen her since. I don't plan on letting her tell me what I'm gonna be doing after I leave school, as I'm legally old enough to move out now. Tell me KHV, what do I do? Stick to my guns and tell her that if she doesn't like what I can do when I do my best she can stick it, or do I fold like a pack of wet cards and not stand my ground? Help would be appreciated, hopefully before this time, one week from now.
Before I say anything else; what do you want to do? Because there are some options where it would be advisable to get high grades in certain subjects before choosing those (of course that doesn't give your mother the absolute right to decide the alternative for you).
I want high grades, but I take time to apply myself. I don't want to join the Airforce. I want her off my ****ing back all the time. She says she's only trying to look after me and she only wants what's best for me, but I feel suffocated. I've told her that, but she won't back off.
Have you told her explicitly that you don't want to be in the Air Force? Do you have an idea of what it is you want to do? If you do, then you should tell her. And no beating around the bush, be upfront and blunt. If that doesn't work, talk to someone IRL and see if they can try and reason with her.
If your parents are trying to control you and tell you what to do, don't give in and do what you like. They can't tell you to do everything in this world. My parents told me that I would never get through school and that I was to dumb to go to college, well look at me now Im at university studying computer science and hoping to get into the game industry. And I didn't get any A's If you stick with what you feel is best it should work out for you. I just hope it doesn't get to extreme. I had to leave home and move in with my mother... I hope things get better, Tom
