Okay...so there's this girl that I'm practically, if not, in love with. And I've liked her for so long. One day, I thought it would be a brilliant idea to just spill my guts to her. Here's what I sent to her: I've got these intense feelings for you. I'm thinking that I'm in love with you, but I'm not gonna go that far. I've liked you since the very first day I met you. If you think I'm lying, ask _____ and tell her I told you this because she's known about my feelings for you longer than anyone. Also, the reason I wanted to know what you were doing on the first was because I was going to ask you to Homecoming as a "super late" birthday present by spending the day with you while _____ and your mom decorated your room and hung a giant sign in your room. Then ______ said he already asked you and then told me about the Applebee's thing and that you guys might be getting back together. Yeah, it hurt me but I got over it because I didn't want to be the guy to interfere with anything that might happen between you two. Then _____ told me that you were getting kind of angry with him at Applebee's because he was clingy and all over you, I guess? I don't know. Before you make the conclusion, no, I wasn't happy about that because you get mad at him all the time, so it doesn't really seem like it meant anything. To put the cherry on top of that, I got 13 phone calls at work and almost got in trouble with my boss because of it. And I know that they didn't know I was working, but still kind of irritating. Anyway, I digress. If you want to think something's wrong. No, nothing at all. I'm just trying to deal with these feelings I have for you and I'm trying to sort them out. I don't care if you tell anyone because frankly, I don't give a damn if people know that I'm practically in love with you because the thought of not having you as a friend would honestly hurt me more than anything. I sincerely appreciate your concern for me and the concern everyone else is having, it shows me who's actually giving a damn about me right now other than my parents. And like I said, if for some reason you think I'm lying, _____ can back me up on this. I hope this explains everything. The names were taken out for obvious reasons but this girl's name isn't mentioned in there either way. Anyway, this was back in August and I've been feeling this way for her for since literally, the first day I met her. Love at first sight, I guess. Ever since I told her that, we've had a better "relationship" but we're just friends. We do things to make each other happy, but we're not dating. People say we should and I think so too, but I have no idea how she feels for me. She changed the subject and we haven't talked about it since. Lately, I've been getting the feeling that she might like me, but if she IS giving that vibe, its so faint a freaking motion sensor couldn't pick it up. Like, a couple weeks ago, her and Alexis made me a cake for Christmas. Her and I have a lot of trust between each other that I feel so honored that she would tell me some of the stuff she does. When she got back with one of her old boyfriends(not the one mentioned above, they didn't get back together! Yay me!), I broke my knuckle punching a hunk of wood and denting it because I was so furious. But I was mad at myself for not telling her this sooner than that. But, it's just that it's not enough for me. I don't want to ruin what I have with her, but I always wonder, "What if?" If anyone can help me on this, that would be so fantastic. And I'm pretty touchy about this, so bear with me. And just so I don't seem like a total jerk, for Christmas I got her a scarf and some chocolate covered cherries. And she said she loved the gift... :)
Just a thought, but, if you aren't sure if she feels the same about you, give it time... If you want to be with her, ask her (when its appropriate), and go from there... Its best to not pester her... If you do it will only make things harder for you in the end...
Exactly dude,approach her slowly,and find out if she likes you.And if you 2 start dating,don't go too far or you'll lose her,take it slow and be gental.
God, just ask her already! If you're as close as you guys seem to be then there shouldn't be a risk to your friendship. Is she still with someone? If not wait, then ask her. She probably kept changing the subject before because she was nervous about that kind of thing infront of you. Right now...I'd say you're not in love with her, you love her as a friend and are lusting after her. Btw, good on you for getting her presents. Girls love that and it probably made her think of you more as boyfriend material :3
No, she hasn't had a boyfriend since the summer and it lasted a week or two. And trust me, I'm almost positive this is love. It's like, I don't need to spend every minute of my life with her to be happy, but it makes me happy being with her and hanging out and talking to her. I did lust after her when we first met, but then it grew into something so much more. And the present thing, I did for Christmas, but I kind of felt obliged to do it since I was 6 months late getting her a birthday present...which I originally wrote her an IOU for before getting her a stuffed bear and a CD.
Maybe gently approach the subject, but if she tries to change it, don't let her...let her know how you feel, and tell her you just need to understand how she feels. If she likes you, she might feel like she has to like someone else, and is feelinf guilty, or she might, *cringes* not actually like you that way....she might just want to be friends, and you holding on is hurting her....Its great that you both trust each other so much, but if you don't tell her how you feel, and find out how she feels, you will always be wondering why. Just don't expect to go out right away, she might be confused about how she feels about you.
