Shouls the age of having kids be rised?

Okay I was just thinking, so many years ago it was alright to have kids while we were about 13 since we didn't live long but then it got move to 16 (or what every age it is where you're from) since people started to live longer, But now since people are living up to there 80's and 90's do you think that age for having kids should be rised again or is it fine as it is now?

 

Hmm...here, its 18, I think. Anyways, I think it's okay. But...theres one problem with it. Premature babies keep being born...that worries me, really. ome of them are blind, or deaf, and some don't live...and it's because of young teens having kids. But then again, I don't see how there's an age limit, really. If a 13 yeaar old get's pregnant, she'll still have + raise the kid, right? But the only thing that worries me is premature kids, and bad parenting/lonely parenting. So, yeah...I agree, anneixo_lexa....the age should be twentyish, in my opinion...

 

Well, people will be people, and people have sex. Wether or not the age is raised as recognized as the limit, there will always be people to stupidly have sex before they are legally able to.

And also, keep in my that the sexual peak for a women starts when she gets her first period, and ends around the ages of 25 and 30. (Not menapause as most people think). Which means, having a baby at to young an age is dangerous, but a majority of people aren't even getting out of college fully until the age of 24. It's supposedly much harder to have a child after 25. There's a fine line when it comes to things like pregnancy, and thruthfully I think that you should only do it when YOU feel ready to, not when a law says you are.

 

It's actually harder after your 40 to have a kid. In your 30's you should be fine, their would be a lower success rate, but not a huge difference compared to when your younger. Socially it's acceptable to have kids in your 20's, and it makes sense, you should have a good job, out of education have a home and mature enough to look after a kid.

I don't think it's really a law over here, but they say you can have sex at 16, but you hear stories about 13 year olds having kids and no legal action happens to them. Law may set a limit, but it won't stop people at a young age.

 

No one would actually care. Some people just do it behind other people's backs and you wouldn't know it so it wouldn't matter if it was raised or not because they would continue to do it if they wanted to or not, over here I think it's 16 or 17.

 

Wouldn't really matter, some people are hooked on Sex and just don't care... Also there is the sad reality of Pregnancy by Rape...

 

Yes lot's of people don't care and I don't think you can get pregnant by raping someone, you'd have to do it 100 times and you'd be lucky enough to survive getting caught by the Police.

 

Well the lega age for sex here is 16, but there isnt an age on having babies. Exactly like Cin said at the end of the day even if there is a law it wont stop people, otherwise there wouldn't be so many underage pregnancies now. I also think that age, although can play a factor, it is not the nost important thing in whether a person should have a baby. My friend who is 19 had a baby at 15 and she is a great mom whereas one of my other friends parents are awful (they think its perfectly alright to beat the crap out of their kids and use them). The most important factor is whether that individual (or couple) are responsible or capable enough to have a baby. Lol not that I am saying it should be acceptable for 13 year olds etc to have babies not in the slightest am I saying that, but I dont think an age should be put on it.


Also look at the rise in older women having babies, I think it is far worse that women in their 60's and 70's are having IVF to have babies. That kids life will be much thougher than if their parent was younger. Technology is going to keep on increasing and finding ways to make us live longer, but I dont think it would be right to limit younger people having children


So im rambling now I think I'll er just leave now :)

 

no, I knew someone who was raped once and got pregnant.
there is that sad reality.
also, if you ever once saw something about people dealing with problems you would see that there are teenage mothers who have been impregnated by rape.

so, it doesn't matter what the legal age is, people have sex.

 

If they wanted to have a baby they could of just adopted one, it's not like they have to have sex.

 

Actually as dogboyx says yes it is possible! It could only take one time to get pregnant! Look at how many people say "But it was only my first time" whether it was consentual (I think I may have spelt that wrong) is regardless.



And also most people who want a baby will want to have a baby that is their own, the process of going through the adoption procedures can be very long winded, I see nothing wrong in two people having a baby of their own if that is what they truly want.

 

the limit has nothing to do with life expectancy, its to do with at what age someone can handle the consequences and be able to support themselves. in northern ireland the age is 17 weird i know, but having a baby is all down to the person, some people are bad parents no matter what age they are at, some are natural parents.....as with most things it all depends

 

Well, I have no qualms with the minimum age being 18, and raising it only a few years wouldn't really matter. Just as long as it's not moved to an extreme, as the chances of birth defects increases with age in women. Besides child birth at young ages like 13 was introduced due to the lower life expectancies of the time.

 

Actually DA, there is a law, and one that the parents/slash person can choose to press charges for. The mother will not get in trouble, but the father will. Even if you are younger then the girl, even in you'r like thirteen, and you get a girl pregnant, the parents have a right to sue you for date rape. The age of consent law is mostly a law against males, which is rather sexist in my opinion, but whatever.

 

But look at it like this Cin. Would the judge honestly believe the male if he said something along the lines of, "We were having sex, but I stopped after remembering the law. After which, she pulled me back and MADE me do it,"? That law is literally made against males, yes. Though, I couldn't see a guy winning a case saying something like that.

 

It's a sexist law because oftentimes both partners, wether the law is in affect at the time or not, want to have sex. Then when the girl is pregnant, it's suddenly the male's fault.

 

I agree with you there actually! And I am a girl lol! But you're right it is wrong and should be changed! How can it be right if a 13 year old boy can get done for having sex with a 15 year old girl?? So I agree completely that law is Bull! each case needs to be looked at on its own before throwing stupid laws like that into it.

 

Ok, I understand that much, BUT.....say the law raised the age pe rse. How would that stop people from having sex Mr. Big Brain? It's a natural urge among humans, that most will not resist if given the oppurtunity. Most, will even go out to satisfy it. So once again, how can rainsing the age stop those specific people?

I just noticed....I repeeat myself. ALOT.....just not word for worf...

 

Fayth has a point. As opposed to worrying about whether or not a new age should be decided with regards to parental responsibility, more emphasis should be placed on the use of contraceptives. In the end it all comes down to how well you're protected. Condoms, birth control, etc. may not work 100%, but it's still better to protect yourself both from STDs and the chance of pregnancy.

 

I don't think the law should be raised...because it won't. In fact I don't even think the law should exist. It's really just a sexist law that doesn't do anything other then cause conflict. As long as people are smart enough to wait until they are capable of having kids to actually get pregnant, which is almost never the case when it comes to teen pregnancies. But like I said before, people are people, and people have sex, you can't stop it. Raising a law or making more will only increase tension.