Should children call their parents by their names?

I think personally it all depends on the child's point of view. If they don't see them as someone they're close to, someone they can trust, they should just call them by their first name.

 

I'd slap the hell out of my child if he called me by my name. I would never call my mother anything other than "Mami." My 26 year old brother still does.
If it's an uncle or aunt, I could understand, but to me, parents are always at least "Mom" and "Dad."

 

i don't see it causing any harm. i only think it's weird because i've been taught to call my parents by mom and dad. i guess it's kind of a cultural tradition? i see no harm in changing that tradition just because it's what people are used to but at the same time i don't see the harm in calling parents by the real names.

 

As long as they called they always called their parents by their first name, I don't really see anything wrong with it. Then again, I'm not a child psychologist, so I wouldn't know. In the book Inkheart, the main character calls her dad by his first name, Mo. They don't have any less of a loving father-daughter relationship because of this.

 

Personally, I'd rather my children call me Mum because that just brings about a family connection while if they just said "Katie" then it wouldn't be so personal, it would feel more like a friend talknig to a friend.

I have friends who call their parents by their first names onyl because they don't seem to respond to "father" or "mother" or they just do it jokily to which I do sometimes but to me they are Mum and Dad, nothing else. However, it's up to the individual really.

 

i would say if it was my biological child, i would make him/her call me 'Dad'. If it was a stepchild, i wouldn't mind him/her calling me by my name. Depends on the circumstance.

 

I don't particularly see anything wrong with it.

I don't think it depends on whether the child is close to their parents or not, but more of the child's personality and the parent's personality / parents' personalities.

The same could be said for teachers. Some teachers find it a little disrespectful to call them by their first name, by a nickname, or by their last name without adding Mr. / Miss / Mrs. before it.

However, there are some teachers that I don't mind it.
For example, my English teacher doesn't mind if he's called by his first name.

 

Personally I'd never be able to call my parents by anything other than mom/mother/motherbored/etc and dad. The only reason I'd see calling a parent there real name would be due to some circumstance like divorce or possibly adoption. Other reason would be if your parent had a high position or something, if you disliked a parent, etc.

I wouldn't want my children calling me by my first name, it just be weird.

 

It depends on the circumstances.
I always refer to my Mum and My Step-Dad as "Mum and Dad"

Where as I refer to my real father by name.
Why? Cause I hate the *bleep* (life long story, but meh)

Anyway, it's up to the child I feel. Many people have tried to get me to call my real father "Dad."
Which will not happen. At the same time, I call my Step-Father "Dad." Cause that's how I feel. My Mum will always be my "Mum." But those are all personal preferences.
I don't think you can really get away with forcing a child to call a parent by whatever. After all, freedom of speech and such.
Some people my say it's to do with respect etc, but that is a different can of worms.

 

i do have to say though. it would irritate me if my child called me by my first name. first names are for peers or people of a higher position than you.

 

I would punch you in the face for hitting a kid over something you did not want them to say. You cannot do that to fellow adults, and you cannot do it to kids especially.

Whatever my kids want to call me is their choice. If they are not comfortable with calling me something, then it is not my place to tell them what words to say. Acting more distant if I feel that they treating me badly is not beyond me, but forcing them to do anything is unsightly.

 

I would prefer to be called dad, father, papa, and whatever else. Like Ienzo said earlier, I feel like it creates a more personal relationship with your child. If they really wanted to call me by my name, I would at least want to talk about it with them to find out why, but I wouldn't stop them.

 

I wouldn't stand for it if my child called me by my first name. My dad didn't and my mom didn't. To me, it's a sign of respect, to the people who gave you life.

I can understand calling a step-parent by their first name, because I definitely would, even if they beat me for it, because they aren't my real parent. But calling an actual parent by their first name is a no go for me.

 

I'd rather have my children call me "Dad", of course.
It's all about how your child sees you, or simply what they like. If they call me by my name, it'll be a bit weird...But I can deal with it. Can't force a kid to call you something, y'know?
I've been raised calling my mother and father "Mama" and "Daddy", and'll try to have my kids do basically the same, but I can't control what they call me in the end.

 

I recall calling my dad by his name once because he wouldn't answer me saying 'daddy' over and over again, and he said, "The next time you call me that, you're the one who'll be paying the bills."

It was, of course, joke. But I think it's a sign of respect to call your parents mom and dad. Even if it's out of tradition. I would personally like my children to call me mommy/mom/mama, etcetc. I mean, it was hard for me to transition to calling my mother 'mom' from 'mommy'. xD I only call my dad 'dad' and not 'daddy' when I'm mad at him.

I do remember living with my father and my step mother, and I always called my step mother Gizzy. It was because she wasn't my mom, but I loved her and respected her. So I came up with my own 'term of endearment' for her. However, when I lost my respect for her I started calling her by her name, which apparently hurt her so bad. At one point she hung up the phone with a friend and came to yell at me about how I was not to call her by her name. That that was a name to call your friends, and I wasn't an adult so I couldn't call her that as an adult. So she said, "You either call me step-mom or something else, but do not address me by my name."

I feel she didn't have a right to do that. She wasn't my mother. ​

 

This. Mommy/Mom/Mami/Mama/Ma so on. If they called me by my first name, I'd honestly feel like I fail at being a parent.

I have two friends that call their parents by their first name, and I don't really see a problem with it. It'd only bother me if my child chose to call me other than "Mom". I still call my mother "Mommy" sometimes and my dad "Daddy" when I really want their attention. I mainly call them Mami and Papi. Hell, I even used to call my grandmother "Mami" because she took care of my brothers and I while my parents worked. I even called my grandfather(who wasn't even blood related) "Papi" a few times. I honestly see nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't like it if my child chose to call me by my first name. It wouldn't feel right and it'd only feel like I was talking to some friend or something.

 

And you think that she would have a right if she were your biological mother? It should be up to you to decide if your parents are worth respecting, not your parents themselves. Relationships should never be so forceful and one-way like that.

 

I don't see how this would be disrespectful. Well, I think probably the parentes would like the firsts words of theirs childrens be "Mommy" or "Daddy". I believe that it's more something like... "emotional". Like, the parents feels better being calling that way. And I can see a "respectful" way about calling parents refering them as "sir".

 

I personally believe that if I started calling my mother by her name, she'd have more of a right to ask me what was going on or request that I don't, than my step mom did. I could have at least understood it more if my own mother reacted that way, but not my step mom. At least back then when I was younger.​