It's weird, but someone named N joined a roleplaying forum I'm on and he openly admitted he's bisexual and it got me thinking. I've never been turned on by women and it doesn't do anything for me but I've seen guys wearing like muscle shirts and thinking that he looks nice in that shirt. There's no evidence of homosexuals in my family and it's scaring me. I've never been with a woman or a guy and I'd like some advice as weather this is normal for me or if I myself am bisexual.
It's completely normal to have these feelings. Everyone goes through this stage. I've gone through it myself. I won't get into specifics, but let's just say I had dreams where me and a random male friend of mine did stuff. If you don't want to feel so nervous about it, though, you could always talk to your parents and / or a counselor. I hope this helps.
Thanks, I'm just wondering if I should experiment and find out for myself. My parents said that they wouldn't hate me but they would be disappointed.
Shouldn't really be dissapointed, there's nothing wrong with someone being bisexual. Yeah, like Amuary said, everyone goes through it at one point or another. Well, mostly everyone. I know i haven't really gone through it. If you are, it doesn't mean anything bad about yourself, it just means you're different to the general stereotype associated to a person.
It's good that your parents told you they wouldn't hate you, but still...As Wigglz said, they should probably be accepting enough of you not to be disappointed, either. Not judging them. I know my parents (or family in general) wouldn't be all too accepting if they knew I was bisexual. But it's a good thing you at least mentioned it to them. I suggest you don't dive into anything straight away. Your thoughts are perfectly normal, and if you're bisexual than that's just another part of you to embrace, though some may argue otherwise. There is nothing wrong with you at all. Don't force yourself into anything. There's no rush to figure out your sexuality, just be yourself. When the time comes, you'll just know. You can experiment if that's what you feel you need to do, but don't make yourself do anything. Just take your time, and if you meet a really nice guy sometime and you feel more for him than you think is normal for someone who's straight or asexual, then you know. If you ever want to talk more in detail, feel free to message me. I'm willing to tell you about my own experiences with my sexuality and how I realized that I was bisexual, etc, etc. Good luck! :)
Being a happy homosexual myself I have some advice to impart myself: Like Crash said everyone goes through a phase of thinking more of the same sex, it's a normal way for a person to discover what they find attractive in a mate, don't get upset about it at all. But you may wanna think if you find no attraction to the opposite sex maybe your gay and not bisexual, but to be fur that's only a subject to look into when your sure about yourself. Don't take anything lightly cos you wanna make sure you know yourself before you let others know you... Hope you find out
Perhaps this will explain quite a bit: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality There are more sexualities than just Het, Homo, and Bi after all. It's very possible that you are asexual.
When your parents say they would be disappointed, it doesn't mean in you. It means they would be disappointed that they may not have biological grandchildren (or grandchildren at all), for example. Also, about your sexuality, when it comes to experimenting, it depends by what you mean by that. If you mean actually having sex with both guys and girls just to try, I'd say no. However, if you feel attracted to someone, regardless of their sex, give it a shot. Also, as the Pumpkin above me mentioned, there are many types of sexuality. (Also; just because a woman hasn't turned you on yet, doesn't mean you're not heterosexual, it just means you haven't found a woman that does that to you yet. Not that if you're not straight there's a problem.)
I think you're a bit confused. http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Asexuality Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction with varying degrees to either sex. You could be romantically attracted to someone but have no desire for sexual activity(like me). Don't imply that the OP is asexual when they say they're attracted to one sex. [Excuse me if I misinterpreted your post. I'm tired and had a rough day.] But to add to what others have said and I have not told either of them that I am asexual. I fear the disappointment but I haven't felt a sexual attraction to anyone. Romantic attraction yes. I can say a person of either sex is cute/handsome but there's nothing deeper than that. I have no reaction to pornography aside from to laugh at it because it is so cheesy. Sex scenes in movies do the same thing. It's just a scene in a movie. Just don't really sweat it. You are who you are no matter who you're attracted to.
That isn't true at all. Anyway, don't jump to conclusions and don't beat yourself up based on whatever it ends up being. Its not bad at all to feel the way you do. No worries.
From how I read it, it looked like he was't attracted to either sex, but rather just finding one to be more visually pleasing than the other. Visual preference doesn't necessarily mean sexual attraction, and it seemed to be the former that the OP was referring to. I know quite a bit about asexuality. It was actually in doing research about it that I came to the disappointing conclusion that I am heterosexual.
