It is very easy for someone to make a huge mistake causing them to make a bad first impression. Whether that is by making something stupid or seeming too intrusive. I began to wonder is it normal to give second chances? What do you all think? I made this in the Spam zone so more people can see it and comment.
Personally, I don't believe in second chances unless I know that a person can indeed change over time. Usually, even then I don't give second chances because I'd prefer not to go through the ****ing drama of the other person screwing up again.
Eh. I give them out sparingly. If it's something minor (an argument or w/e), it's all good in the hood. But for major things (legit threatening people, hurting someone intentionally, etc.) I have no tolerance for, and them's the brakes for that person. I'm usually a pretty good judge of character, so it's never had to come to the latter with friends and the like.
I've been getting better at distributing second chances to people. I think it depends on the situation and the person. I've given out too many second chances in my life to people who don't deserve it. I don't want to lose how I felt to people I was close to, no matter how much they screwed me over. It's just in my nature. However, I've recently learned there are just some people who are beyond second chances and you just need to give up on. It's their problem that they have to deal with; I can only help so much. If they want to be a certain way, that's fine, but don't expect me to be apart of it.
Second chances are only given by those who are willing to place their trust in a person who has broken their trust before. If they do it for more than one person, it's bound to become a habit. In other words, second chances are only for the weak. As for myself, I don't give second chances to anyone unless they mean so much to me that part of my soul would dissolve if I let them go. That's pretty much just one or two people, so good luck getting a second chance out of me.
It seems everyone feels differently about second chances here. Some don't believe while others would gladly give them. That makes this a most interesting place to reside.
I would always give out a second chance especially if asked but after that then I find it harder to give them a third chance. A third chance will depend on the situation because some people may just not change but the first chance screw up may just be a one off. Some people may not deserve it but I still do it simply because I know I would want one if I screwed up something.
I try to give second chances, I figure holding a grudge against someone will only hurt me in the end. However, I think there's a difference between giving someone a second chance and trusting them blindly. I think people can give a second chance to someone, meaning, they continue to treat them as a friend, without letting themselves be hurt. All it takes is a little caution. There are people that I still give "second" chances to that I don't consider a friend. lol, one person in particular (no one any of you know) has been accepting second chances from me and my family for near on five years, and although I give them gladly, I don't consider him a friend. More someone to be pitied and humored than anything else. Then again, I could be totally wrong. I guess it depends on the situation.
Depends on the offense, in my opinion, anything minor doesn't even need a second thought, give that guy a second chance. If it's something major it depends. The last guy I decided to give a second chance to, did the same stupid thing a second time, so I'd be careful on who you give it to.
Well there is always a risk when giving a second chance to someone but sometimes it is worth the risk do you all agree?
