I need to vent before I go through with this. Approximately 20 minutes ago, my father came to deliver a child support check that is around 7 months late. Not only did he not pay the full amount, but he decided to start fighting with my mom. You see, I'm used to this, parents being divorced and all. But when somebody lays a finger on someone else, things get ugly. After being tired of waiting for child and constant fighting with my mom, I was already ready to explode. My mom is the first to raise her voice, and my dad is the first to push her against the mirror, shattering it. My mother did not bleed or get injured, but that was enough for me to punch my father squarely in the jaw and knock him out. I started to help my mom, and in the heat of the situation, she says "Fuck off." I start to cry and she tells me to man up, and that we should bring my father's unconscious body upstairs to the guest bedroom. I respond by running out of the house, and after running for 12 miles, I hail a taxi to my friend's house. And that is where I am at right now, where I always keep a suitcase packed with clothes and photocopied documents as well as a prepaid $3,000 Visa card that I saved up for since I was 5. I don't know what to do, guys.
Holy cow, man. I'm kind of going through a similar situation at the moment (my parent's aren't divorced, but I really wish they were). First off, I think you need to let things cool down. Just don't do anything tonight; stay at your friend's house and stay away from the situation. In fact, don't even think about it. Give everything some time to just cool down; there's no way you can change what's happened. In the morning, once you're mind is clear from all that negative energy, you can try to think of an idea. I would say that once everything is cool down to talk things out with your mom. Everyone does dumb things when their angry, especially parents. It may not seem like it, but she'll be worried about you.
I agree with V@nit@s, people do and say stupid things when they don't really mean it at a heated situation like that.
*sigh* You have a point. I'll do that, but I just can't stop thinking of what I did to my dad and what my mom said to me... Half of me is hoping that things don't settle down, and that I really get a reason to run away. I'll be free from that hell called divorce...
I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with such a situation. Like others have said, stay at your friend's for tonight, and, in the morning, once things have cooled down, return to your house, but don't act upset or anything to prevent potential agitation from your mother.
I agree with Tummer here, let things cool down first. I think that's the best thing to do. I feel like in this moment and situation, it's okay for you to get away a bit but you have to go back - and hopefully soon (not necessarily tomorrow, though that can work, but when you're ready. Just maybe not a week bro). You need to just talk things out with your parents first. Tell them how you feel, things you possibly want to do in your life, and maybe bring things up about what just happened - but speak to them in a calm environment. If they start to raise their voice don't be afraid to tell them that you don't want to be spoken to that way. You have a voice and you can use it - just remember respect. Even if they don't respect you, which is terrible, you should respect them. It can be hard to do, but it's what you should do. You will receive the respect you deserve. Just make them realize that what they are doing affects you - and it affects you greatly. Now, just please don't make any big decisions as of now. I suggest you speak with your family first and maybe in time, then you can make bigger decisions. It's good that you're prepared though, but right now, especially with this situation you're in - just try and work with time and let time do some healing. I hope that I didn't sound too odd with this, but I kind of know what you're going through in a way. I hope things get better for you, Teddy. Really.
You... you don't know how much better that made me feel, Din. Thank you... so much... Things is, I've told both my parents to never raise their voice to me if they wish to engage in conversation with me. My mom doesn't care, and my dad always forgets. So yes, most of the time, my parents do not respect me. And of course I respect my parents. I hardly ever raise my voice. Ever. I've talked to my friend's mom about this and she said that I can stay as long as I want, and she'll call my mother in the morning. I don't want to talk to my mother... much less my father. Could... could I be put in juvi for hitting him?
I'm not an authority on court laws and such, but I know enough to think not. It sounds to me like you were trying to protect your mother, so no, you don't need to worry about that at all. You did what I would have done to protect my mother, I'd think yours regrets saying what she said and will want to work this out. I don't know what to say really though.. but you're my friend and I'm worried about you. I hope and pray it works out somewhat and you don't have to do anything drastic. I'm here for ya Teddy bro.
@ Bold & Und.: That put my nerves at ease for good. Thank you. .... I'm being completey honest when I say that if it weren't for you guys, I would've been already out the door. Thanks for everything, guys. Especially Tum, Din, and Droid, buddy. Love you all. I think I'll stay on here just so I can take my mind off the situation for a bit. But I'm ready for tomorrow, when reality kicks in. Again, thanks for everything.
hmmmmm..... i am not married. but i work with divorced daddies. and i know the number one reason for getting a divorce is over money issues. 1.the divorced daddies often complain that the money is not being spent on the "kid". they dont trust the mommy. 2.the divorced daddies sometimes lose their good paying job,and work a for much less later on. but a court judgement still demands they pay what they were paying before. a new court date needs to be ordered to readjust the payments to the new smaller paycheck. alas this costs money and time to arrange. not tomention it lets the mommy know they make less now.thats not something they want people to know,much less their ex. 3. some of the daddies have more than one ex. so several kids and several mommies make those weekly checks smaller. personal note: adults... are just older children.
