oh yea, I dare ask khv for relationship advice So I recently got kicked out of a solid relationship that lasted for over a year. This was over the internet and JUST within 2 months of seeing each other for the first time. So I'm a free guy right? Single, got over the break up etc. In another internet relationship now that also looks solid. Lots in common, great personality, lots of chemistry going on, and the girl is beautiful. My question is, because I'm not repulsive irl, or for that matter, insensitive (in fact I'm usually over-sensitive). Just wondering if I should really stick to these e-lationships. I don't mind them. Actually, it just seems to be my forte at this point. Only I worry because I'm 16 and I get plenty of looks from girls and everything, but is it bad I try not to take any notice to them? or the fact that I find the e-lationships more "captivating" because everything seems so much simpler? I have the ability to get a girl in real life and I know the girls that would be willing to go along with it, but so far, it seems I've been in more internet ones than real life ones. I guess my MAIN concern is, am I wasting my life on this while other people are kissing and having a good time while I have to stick to webcam and phone calls? I get that feeling from time to time, but just go along with e-lationships because they seem simple and not as serious I suppose. Also, am I bad person for thinking that way (thinking that internet ones are far less serious)? or am I just scared of commitment? idk I think Im far more a friend to commitment than most are And yes I did just invent the word e-lationships. fuck off xD
Dude, I swear you must have read my mind and typed what you saw. I'm pretty much in the same boat. I'm not super attractive, I'm not ugly, so I can get a girl. I've had plenty of girlfriends and I've done pretty much all you can imagine with most of them, so asking for relationship on khv isn't as crazy as you might think. I'm in a "e-lationship" right now, though it would be my only one, if we were to break up, I would never do it again. The reason I do it, is because I actually do love her. I know what you mean about the simplicity of things, with not as much pressure is involved, and well...you know the deal. I see nothing wrong with the ways things are going for you. I don't have too much advice to give, and I'm probably just rambling. About the commitment thing, you may be easier with it because it's not always right in your face, without going placing places and doing things, it focuses more on the connection of the relationship and not the entertainment aspect. I don't fuckin' know. I say, do what the hell you want to do, whatever puts a smile on your face. I'll end by saying good luck man, I hope everything works out for you, you'd be one of the lucky ones.
I don't necessarily approve of internet dating (yeah, I'm old school) but it's kind of "whatever works for you, go with it" type of thing. If you like dating people over the internet and it works, then go ahead. But if you happen to find that dating people offline works better for you, then that's good to. Personally for me, it's better that I see the person in real life because I can't read emotions over IM. Also there are certain mannerism that I find annoying that you have to meet the person to find out about.
its like you also read my mind aswell @_@ But to be honest with internet dateing...Well its not bad. If you REALLY care for the person and love them then its no waste cause you like being with that person. I have the same problem you do about being o the net while others are out kissing and what not and just liveing on web cam and phone calls. But I say if you guys both care about echother you'll end up seeing echother (maybe?) I honestly see nothing wrong with it you just gata be careful so if your happy then thats whats most important.
Are you....calling me un attractive. loljkily<3 I gotcha. People like you make me feel like what I do it loser-ish. No offense xD I just feel like I should go with the normalcy of relationships, rather than this. Like the chances of seeing the one Im with are pretty much in the red zone. Not looking too well.
If you really feel like your not getting enough from your current relationship tell your lover that with a deep form of sencerity and discuss some possibilities for more frequent visits over the summer, or doing an exchange program. Some people are better at online relationships than others, for example my High School friend who lived in Ohio dated a guy in Denmark for three years. She learned Danish and going to a university in Denmark to live with her boyfriend. She stayed strong to her commitment and saved up her money to visit him. He actually came over during the summer and left, then she went over during winter and spring break to see him.
I'm not sure what you mean. Are you afraid to be that commited? Or does love just seem pointless at this point?
Im just tired to say the least. Like Im not sure if i should delve into this much more than i should.
Thats the wrong idea my friend. Now I am not telling you to go bankrupt or anythign, but you should always try to go a little more than you should. That way your mate will see that you really care for them, and aren't just another player.
If you are talking about who I think you are talking about I will kill you. Bl I approve of elationships, It makes a much better bond between the two. You guys are not together for great looks, big booty or whatever. You are together because of awesome personality.
Personally, I prefer physical relationships over "e-lationships" (nice word). I was always against it, but ended up in one recently. I still think that an actual "in person" relationship would be better, but I've learned you really can fall for someone over the internet. So if it works for you, keep at it. But don't go JUST for those. Don't turn away from every girl in real life just because there might be someone online.
dohoho and who says Im not ;D (no jk Im not <3) I have been, but thank you for the solid advice. It does work, but it can get a bit depressing at times.
I was in an E-lationship for over a year (YES YOU KNOW WHO IT WAS NOW SHUT UP) and it didn't really work for me because of the distance. Personaly, I need someone who I can see and feel. (Get your minds out of the gutter >_>) But if you feel you can do a long-distance relationship, then go for it ^^ Your never know. Like Bueno said though, that doesn't mean you should ONLY have E-lationships. See what works best for you ^^
Never been in an e-relationship myself, but I have friends who have been. If their experiences are any indication, it's not really the best of ideas. 99% of the time it didn't even last a year, let alone half that. The strain was too much, they just couldn't make it work. Personally I don't see how anyone can say an e-relationship can be better than an IRL relationship in the long term (or even short term) unless the latter absolutely sucks. You'd be surprised at how much having your partner actually be there makes a difference. It's much healthier and easier on the people involved. I would say that yeah, preferring e-relationships over IRL ones isn't something good, in the long run.
ok well i've had BOTH and honestly? bum and jerk and /\ss. either way but it was b/c of the guy. i , as a girl, will go out with any boy as long as he is: 1. Nice 2. funny 3.Sweet 4. Confident 5. brave 6. loveable get it? internet relationhips are or can be like relationships. just that in the internet he can be a hacker and as for real ones, physco and idiot. on my experince.
Ah...I'm in an E-relationship right now...Don't really wanna be...But I find it too hard to say no or end the relationship (I am amazingly shy) But she asks me to do...Things I shall not mention through webcam...And sends me naked pictures...I totally dont want a girl like that...Trust me online relationships never end well...Don't do it.
