im the 2nd user of this profile btw. the 15 year old. my 16 year old girlfriend wants us to get married in 3 years and shes serious. i was friends with her for 7 years. i love her but i dont know how 2 react. plz help me. just dont tell me to break her heart. plz dont
What's the problem? Tell her you're not ready to make such a life changing decision yet. Simple. oh yeah account sharing can get you banned so i suggest you stop ._.
1. This should go in the Help With Life section. 2. 3 Years? That's a long way off, plus, you're still both young, you shouldn't be thinking of marriage at 15. All you can really do is see how you feel about her in the next few months and years, feelings may change by then. All you can really say to her is, to wait and see.
It's a great thing that you've known each other for so long and had a good relationship so far. However, I think I'd have to tell the girl honestly that you are only 15 and she's 16, and that you would need more time to think of such a serious thing as marriage. Let her also know, if you feel it in your heart, that you are committed to the relationship, but marriage is something to be serious in thought about down the road and that you have plenty of time to think of. Right now, explain that you have other things to worry about like getting through with school and what do you want to do for an occupation. These are things to consider and set yourself up for so that whether you are both wanting to get married later or not, both of you should have these other things set up for yourselves. I wish you luck and I hope that she understands that you are not saying the relationship itself means little to you, but if you explain it right, perhaps she will see your point of view. Marriage is one of those things best reserved for when life otherwise is stable and you do not have to skimp out on the details of setting yourself up for stability so that marriage is actually an enjoyable thing. Rushing into things isn't the smartest and it's good to think things through. That's my thought anyway.
You two are WAY too young to be thinking about marriage right now. That's completely insane. Look, just tell her that you're not ready to make that kind of decision right now. You guys are still kids for crying out loud!! Three years is a long time, and a lot can happen between now and then. Tell her that you're not saying you never want to marry her, but that you think that this is a topic that should be brought up again a few years from now, when you both actually have a plan. And when you are at least both out of high school. This isn't the 15th century. People generally do not get engaged when they're fifteen. You may not be proposing, but if you both are agreeing to get married in a few years, you're practically engaged, which, again, is completely and utterly insane.
How old is he/she? I personally think that if you're still in high school and under 18, then you're too young to be engaged. You have your whole life ahead of you, and people tend to change after high school; the person you thought you knew well enough to spend the rest of your life with in high school may turn into someone completely different. High school kids may think that they know what they want, but really that is likely to change. Because they're kids; that's not a bad thing (I wish I were still a high school kid), but kids often don't really think things through...
On the contrary. Your teenage years are a time of massive hormonal floods, making you think things about people (especially physically attractive people) that may not be true, and making you sugarcoat any flaws said person has. Once your hormones die down, you may see a vastly different person than you see now. So yes, from a biological standpoint, age does matter. A lot.
Thank you so much for contributing to this conversation. We obviously made such a breakthrough here since you made such an input and are obviously not postwhoring. A million thanks to you and I hope that you will not post here again because any posts you make now will only take away from the epic breakthrough you have made here.
Deleted the last few posts for being spam and reaction to spam. Anyway, I'd just wait. A lot can happen in three years time. Who knows how either of you will think about it then? It's silly to worry about it now actually. @TMMM: I haven't seen you contribute much, if anything, in this thread either. Although I'm sure "I'm going to be surprised if you actually are still together 3 years from now." and "inb4b&" was very helpful to him.
Actually, statistically, the younger you get romantically involved with someone, the shorter that involvement usually is, due to things like hormones and shifting from high school to college and other similar things. So yes, I personally would be surprised to see these 2 together 3 years from now also.
Just tell her you love her and that such a serious commitment thing isn't something to be thinking about right now. I mean, assuming she trusts you and loves you, this should be easy for her. It's about attitude.
It doesn't matter if he's correct or not (as a matter of fact, I agree wholeheartedly). My point that it wasn't helpful in the least still stands.
I thought I was helping. I'm putting the idea in there that they probably won't be together by the time she hopes to do this, I thought that may be useful somehow.
People who are in love think it'll last a long time. More often than not they won't heed such an advice. Also, Kenni-chan already said it in a way. :p But you did convince me of your good intentions. For a moment there it looked like you were trying to bring them down. My mistake then. Anyhow, back on topic...
