Real and Online friends in a conversation?

[Plums posting a thread in discussion? lol what is this nonsense]

Anyway, in MSN a few friends of mine on here tend to add friends from their actual lives into conversations with online friends. In the past, I've contemplated doing this, but never really got around to doing it, or I guess never really wanted to.

Have any of you ever thought about doing it? What do you think it would be like?

 

Uhh well I do have a real-life friend who I've added to online chats before. Really, it's not much different from adding a friend you met online, lol.

As long as this friend of yours is open to meeting your online friends and perhaps shares interests with them, it's practically the same to be honest. So, have I ever thought of doing it? Yes, because I have xD. And what do I think it's like? Not much different from adding online friends.

 

I was there 8'D

Personally, for me, I'm reserved about introducing online friends to offline ones. The way I act with them is just...different, I guess, than how I act on here. Offline, the group of friends I have usually talk jokingly about weird sh*t like horrible alien fetuses, the universe being some intricate self layering spoon or even about someone keeping a long haired, stereotypical gothic boy locked in their closet for their own sick physical fantasies.

On here, most everyone seems to be more...conservative, then that I guess. I mean, for example, Stardust, Chev and I whenever we talk do make sex jokes, but it's never "Hey Star u pregnant wif horrible mutated shark alien baby fetus that rot ur insides". And most of the time we do talk about stuff like songs, and video games and shows that I could never talk with my real life friends about.

So if I could, I would want to mix them both up.
But I can't see it working out all that well, haha.

 

If it makes you feel better, I'm VERY not conservative, so if you ever need a crazy, insane convo about pregnancy, sex or inside out shark fetuses being devoured by killer whales, just let me know.

As about your main question, I've done it and there haven't been any problems except some of them didn't like eachother. Not that it matters, because some people fit well together as friends, while some don't.

Do your Real life friends listen to music? (Sort of rhetorical question)
Do your real life friends play video games?
If so, you have common ground, you just have to be the link. I have been the "Link" many times when people are (very) different and it worked out fine. If you have decent social "antennas," there's usually no problems finding some common ground.

My weirdest link was actually a translator. I had 3 American friends where two of them had relatives in Norway they hadn't met before. The relatives were 60+ years and my friends were 18, 23 and 22. I had to come up with common ground/random stuff. It was a lot of fun, even though I had to lead the entire conversation (1.5 hours more or less). So as long as you want to, and your friends want to, go for it.

Worst case scenario; They don't want to do it again.
So, I've done it before, and I'll do it again.

Do it.​

 

And you haven't introduced me to these delightful people WHY?


Personally, I don't usually mingle my friends. I've done it once or twice, but only when there was something specific I wanted to ask them. In those cases, things went fairly well, but there wasn't much discussion between the two parties. It tends to be like inviting one friend group to hang out with another; it's doable, but it has the lingering awkwardness in the background.

Then I have my other friends, who are either convinced my online buddies are a bunch of paedos, or that they're not real friends. Adding the former could be very amusing for me, while adding the latter probably would not.

With IRL friends, I tend to talk to them specifically about certain topics. I don't joke around with them as much as I do with online ones. (With exceptions, of course. Such as when I'm given access to someone else's Facebook. 8D)

 

As the saying goes:

"Oh, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet."

I don't mix my irl and online friends. For one thing my irl friends are not that nice, for another, my online friends etc are my escape from irl. I come here to get away from them.

...I think I need a new social group.

 

I just couldn't, my real life friends think I'm weird enough as I am. They tend not to understand how I can talk to people I've never even met, they have the old fashioned idea that everyone I talk to online is a rapist/murderer so putting them in conversations would just throw them off completely. The people I'm friends with anyway tend not to like talking to strangers, they're quite shy and I wouldn't want anyone on here to feel weird about talking to my real life friends. However, I don't know why since I too have had conversation with KHV's real life friends and it was completely fine, they were very friendly and shared in the conversation, however I just couldn't see my friends donig that.

 

I love my friends in real life and my online friends. Mixing them together is actually okay. My friends both online and in real life know each other by name. Of course, only through the stories I tell them. However, like just a name and a simple story, it doesn't go that far. I guess, it never really rises into the conversation much after that. I don't have a problem with it of course. I talk about different things with my friends online and my friends in real life because not the same things happen. Like, in conversation - I don't say much after a name because it would be rather hard to understand what I'm trying to say or something like that. Plus, I'm sure they barely remember the names I tell them.

 

And you haven't introduced them to me or P? WHY?! xD

I'm pretty sure most of my friends know that I have a lot of online friends that I talk to. It's not like I try to hide or anything. Whether or not people think I'm weird doesn't really matter to me. You guys are cool xD. The main reason that I've never really introduced any of IRL friends to my online friends or vice versa is mostly because of the language barrier. I live in Brazil and most of my friends over here aren't fluent in English and while I usually don't have a problem being a translator, sometime it gets difficult because while most people don't realize it, English is hard language to translate to and from in my opinion. Now I do have some friends who speak English very well but I'm pretty sure most of them have the idea that the internet is full of pedos stuck in their heads and that the people you meet on it aren't real friends.

 

I think it all depends on the real life friends you add to the conversation. Very few irl friends know I talk to online people, I like to keep it hidden because most people are judgmental "Y u talk to pedsos Keahlllly?" Is the reaction I basically get if somebody is looking over my shoulder while I'm on khv or on voxli etc. I myself have added real life friends with online ones, I regret it so much. Most of my irl friends aren't all that nice, I prefer to talk to online ones since most of the time they understand me more then people irl do plus I find it easier to talk to them. i sound so sad...

 

It depends, the friends I have offline are all different really, some of them are the type that never talk to people online ever and would think the idea of having online friends as "them not being real", others are more into video games/computers and therefore have online friends too (and even then some are still wary of online friends) so maybe if they ever got MSN I'd choose a select few. I also tend to act different irl than offline too, I'm mostly really easy to talk to online but irl a lot of times I'm more quiet and a tad bit awkward. I'd need to make sure they'd get along and understand each other though, otherwise inviting them might just be awkward. My online friends wouldn't mind anyway if I added someone I could guess knowing them but it just depends on the offline friend.

 

Well it all depends on which people are in the conversation honestly. Most of my real life friends probably wouldn't get along very well with the majority of my online friends. That's mostly because they have such different interests and senses of humor. Most of my close online friends are more into anime/ video games and artsy stuff, while my real life friends are more into things like sports, blowing stuff up etc. Also most of my online friends have a more sick minded sense of humor then my real life friends, so if they coversed things might not go too smoothly. Sometimes its good to keep your online life and your real life life separated. It's kinda like separating church and state, or home and school.

 

I've done this a fair bit.
And now my real life friends are rather good friends with my online friends too.
Although, part of this may be due to the fact that I don't act that different on site from off site, so me bridging the gap between them because of that could be making things somewhat more comfortable.
Regardless, I see no harm in giving it a go, but if you're worried about how things will... um... 'blend'... I'd suggest getting 1 close friend from real life at first, and 1 close friend from online. Preferably ones who you can see as having similar interests and what not, and then introducing them to each other just to see how things go.
Proceed as appropriate.
I've yet to have a bad experience when I've introduced the two sides together anyway. XD

 

Had a three-way conversation with my best online friend and my best real-life friend once. It didn't go too well.

 

I really don't talk about the fact that I have online friends in general, though I don't deny it or anything if people ask, it's just I don't really see the point of talking about it with people. I did however invite one of my best friends into a convo with risk at a completely random time. It went pretty well, though I'm thinking that was probably because I had a sleep over and after a while we just get in this mood where everything is great and hilarious and stuff.

As a rule of thumb though I don't mix my offline and online friends, just doesn't seem like a good idea in general, they are such different people. Also the language barrier is a minor factor for why I don't.

 

I wouldn't really do it, it would be too awkward for my online friend and real life one. I'd have too many inside jokes with them both. And then the way we act online is usually different from that in Real Life, I might actually end up scaring my real life friend away. Or really freaking them outXD Now if it were online friends, you could invite anyone! I don't know why, its just a philosophy I've thought of.

 

i imagine the internet friends would get along just fine with IRL friends. most of them aren't socially awkward enough not to embarrass me. `u`

 

Oh come on, you love us.

I don't really have many friends irl because I'm...well I never made friends very easily. I have all sorts of friends on the internet though. Would I mix my KHV friends with the people I met on Y! for example?

Maybe. I think I'd have to explain that I met them on a forum dedicated to KH but we don't really talk about KH a lot.

 

Care to play it back for us? Replay, details.

 

That's an interesting point. People reading over my shoulder when I'm on the computer is something I cannot abide. It's one of those things that I find incredibly irritating. This probably says a fair bit about my view on mingling online and offline friends. I detest my offline friends 'getting into' my online life, as so many others here seem to attest to.

I'm not entirely averse to the idea; I've invited a couple of friends to this forum, and they've had MSN conversations occasionally, but overall I tend to avoid it.

Interestingly, the same sort of view is taken with online friends of different groups. I don't allow some groups of online friends to mix with others. It's an approach I know a few others also take, to the point of getting multiple MSN accounts, simply to keep them sufficiently secluded.