Hey! So, this is the first post I've made for several months...I need to work on that. XD I'm just wondering, are there any guys out there who have asked out unattractive girls (or at least girls you who you think are less attractive than you)? If so, why? Was it because of her personality? Or something else? If you don't consider yourself to be very good-looking, did you ask the unattractive girl out because since you weren't more unattractive than her, there was a better chance of her saying yes? Was it because she was less likely to turn you down than the pretty girl you liked? LOL I just want to know what's going through guys' minds (good-looking or not) when they ask out a not-so-pretty girl. EDIT: Oh, and let's say you didn't know this girl very well. Like you only had maybe two very short conversations with her.
I don't know about anyone else, but I've learned that sometimes looks don't really matter, to me anyway. I just confessed my feelings to a girl recently, and I think she the most beautiful person I've ever seen, no matter what she says. I don't know if I would place myself as attractive, but looks don't last, a personality and a loving soul do. It is that "unattractive" and "not-so-pretty" **** that gets me. No person or a group of people have the right to say who is beautiful and who is not. And for those who think that way, I feel sorry for you. There's more to say, but I don't want to ramble. This is my opinion though.
Yeah, I know beauty is VERY subjective--what I mean is someone who you think isn't the best-looking person you've seen. And I just edited my post--supposing in this scenario, you don't even know the girl very well. That detail might be important. But I really appreciate your input! It's a great answer, to be sure. :D
I know I'm a girl, but I'm a lesbian, so I ask girls out alot, and well, I don't think every girl I fall for is the most attractive person, hell, I'm not either, but I like them for their faults. It's what their interests are that make me like them and want to ask them out. Looks don't matter much to me, well, they do kind of, but only because I will like something about how they look as well as their personality. Alot of times I like someone if they can put up with being around me for more than a few weeks, because alot of people that I live around can't stand me. Though that doesn't stop me from wishing I could have a girl that looks like Katy Perry, unf.
Well I was in love with this girl that wasn't as attractive as the other girls I had a crush on and really I say I'm about an average looking person, but what drew me to her was her personality, so basically looks can count, but it's really all about personality in the end because you don't wanna go out with someone who's pretty but is a complete B word to you. Really if a girl is unattractive, it's best to look at their personality, because their personality is what will determine their true beauty, and plus there's this eye of the beholder thing like two guys look at a girl and one guy thinks she's hot and the other think she isn't, that's basically a difference in a guy's personality and what they like. Hopefully I said all of that right and hope you aren't confused. If you are confused then here's a more simple form. I like girls that are average looking, they have to have a good personality and have respect for themselves and enjoy what they do with themselves. Some of my friends who find them unattractive I find attractive, not because of their physical features like their chest area but because of how they act.
What's going through a guys mind? TV, Food and Sex. But seriously, why would you want to know, it's nothing special. We are simple creatures, women are the ones who analyse everything in minute detail. We simply go like this 'she seems alright, I'll ask her out.' You might think there is some grand scheme behind it, but the reality is a majority of mainstream males don't think too indepth with things. There are a small majority, like myself, who do what women do by over thinking the situation. Thinking that there is a reason for each action, word, decision. It leads nowhere but worry and ruin in a relationship. If someone has asked you out and you don't like the guy, don't go out with him. Otherwise take the chance on it. And if you're thinking he's too good for you for attractiveness? Bull. That has **** to do with a real relationship, the only couples that care about looks are narcissistic, egotistical people who care nothing for you. One advantage of being unattractive as it were is that you at least know you're being asked out on something other than to look good for others. Might be more real then.
Yeah this is basically what goes on in our heads, this is a more accurate and kinda aggressive approach about it lol I mean man I was just laughing I was like my god he's telling her everything about us lol
