Okay, I know this may sound stupid, but I just don't really know what to do. I've thought about it for the past two days, but I'm still not sure. Well, I met this boy, his name is PJ, about two months ago. He is very artistic, outgoing, but not too outgoing, sweet, smart, funny, and always there for anyone. Well, I've been crushing on him for the past two weeks, and according to his closest friends that also know me, he has a crush on me too and is planning on asking me out. Well, I was a bit happy when I heard that, but sad also. The reason I was sad is because two of my other friends, Kathryn and Jessica, like him. I don't think Jessica or me like him as much as Kathryn does though (She's almost close to obsession). =/ Pretty much what I need help with is if he does ask me out, what should I do? Like, I promised myself if he does ask me, then I would see if it's okay with Kathryn and Jessica first, but Kathryn isn't the type to let that stuff really happened. Kathryn, she isn't spoiled since she doesn't ask for much, but if she doesn't get what she does want and someone else does, she totally hates them. I've known her for a year, so I think it would be better if maybe I just say no to PJ, but that would hurt -not only him- but me also. I wouldn't mind staying friends with him, since dating isn't a big thing for me just because I'm 14, but it takes him awhile to make up his mind, so I'm not sure how he'd react. I asked my other friend, Jessie, and she said that if Kathryn is a real friend, that she would be okay with it. But is she right? I just want to know if I should say yes or no to PJ, but see if it's okay with Kathryn and Jessica first. That sounds like a good idea, right?
I'm going to assume that you are in HS. If the guy asks you out, you know he has a crush on you and you with him and you CHOOSE to ask your friends if they are ok with it sounds to me like you are rubbing it in their faces. I believe that you mean well, but look. I've been there for HS. I survived it. If you want this to happen and he does, then there is your answer. If you are having second thoughts about it, then say no. If you are having second thoughts and say yes, then you are only opening yourself up for drama down the road. That is the short and sweet approach.
I'm gonna be honest: accept it if he does ask you out, regardless of your friends. True friends will be there for you in the end, even if it hurts them for a while. If they get pissed and stop being your friend completely and don't ever re-think it, there's no point in it. If you have a shot at something good like that, take it; your friends will understand even if it hurts at first.
