There probably isn't much you guys can help me with but I really hope you guys can help the slightest bit.. I'm basically explain everything you guys will need to know.. Basically My family is a group of 5 almost 6 people.. the youngest is my little brother Liam.. he is very nice at times but is evil at others.. Everytime I try to do something fun that makes me happy.. he brings up some thing that ruins everything. Next is Eoin. He has problems, as in.. if it was any worse..it would be autism.. then there's me..not much you need to know.. then there is my dad and my mom.. my mom is pregnant currently... okay basically.. the drama.. My mom now works.. a long time..and I have to watch Eoin and Liam.. and due to being a 'nerd' at school.. my life already sucks as it is.. when my mom gets home.. all she does is complain about how hard her life is.. so when I want to talk to her for advice.. she yells at me and says I ruined her appetite.. or gave her a headache. So when I want to ask my dad for advice.. it doesn't work out..he isn't a mom.. do you guys know what I mean? I'm getting beaten up emotionally and physically.. I have guys..asking me out.. who when I say no.. start annoying me.. I've been throwing up.. and my mom WILL NOT listen to me.. what do I have to do!!
try talking to your school counselor and if your dad actually cares about you then ask him. It may not be good but he'd be the best person to soothe your mom's emotions as for the guys thing..is it khv or rl because if it's KHV then talk to a mod and if not then get your friend's help
Well first thing you have to do is stand up to your mother and tell her that just because she's pregnant it doesn't make her the center of her own little drama play thats going on in her head and to actually act like a mother, next tell your little brothers that your the boss and they should calm down or you'll (insert whatever threat you want), next you should just calm down and consider the guys that ask you out and maybe go out once and see what happens because otherwise you'll never know. if it doesn't work out just say that you can't be anything more than friends. Last, if none of this works out confide in an adult relative you trust and they can help you out. If that doesn't work go to your school counciller. Those are the only things i can think of at the moment and i hope i helped you out.
Genital mulitation please And I'm stumped for help here. I'm having pretty much a bad 'give advice' day so listen to him. But maybe you can stand up to the people calling you a geek and stuffs. I was called that until I stood up to them. Now, even if I'm top of the class, no one shouts 'BOF!' or 'GEEK!' at me.
Because her mom definitely don't have her own problems, what with the person growing inside of her, hormones driving her emotions out of balance and messing with her body, oh and on top of that, she's still working. Your mom is going through her own little adventure right now, you need to make sure she's comfortable. Yeah, that'll be tough, but remember she's PREGNANT. I find it amazing for women to work while pregnant, for whatever reason. You're at school, your mom's at work, she has her own drama and problems. Give her space, don't lean on her, she's the one that needs support. And people are calling you "nerd"? You're 12 (according to your profile). Oh well! I assume they call you that because you know your stuff. So you're smart Be proud of that. They call you a nerd, because they don't know what you do. I don't give a damn what people called me in high school, my grades are getting me through college with almost no personal spending. My debt after graduation will be relatively small compared to others. It may sound mean, but you're going to have to learn to care less what people say about you at school. It'll only get worse for you in high school if you let it get to you so easily. Guys asking you out? What do you mean by they annoy you? They're persistent? I don't know what kind of relationship you can have at 12. Mine at that age were pretty innocent. Just say no, you don't like them, and to leave you alone, if they're not your friends. They keep it up? You have teachers and parents for that. As for your brothers, that's tough. My sister is the same way. All I can say is get your dad to talk to them and then tough it out. You'll soon have to worry about another little kid. Don't take what your youngest brother says to heart. And anyway, what Knight of the Azure Sky said, talk to a school counselor, or another relative. I find it almost impossible to open up to my mom, but I have my aunt and uncle and my older brother to help me. They're easier to talk to. Another of my aunt lives across country, but she always listens when I call. Hope it works out.
Libueno, fine she's pregnant and she has problems but by what she is saying is that the mother is confiding in her daughter stuff you should never tell your child on top of the fact that when her daughter needs help she isn't there unlike her daughter is to her. It's unfair on her. theres taking crap because she's pregnant and theres taking crap because they are drama queens and it's the second one that seems to come out at me because she doesn't seem to consider that her daughter might need her. Theres hormones and theres narcissism.
Well gee thanks your nice.. I don't spend my entire life on the computer you know.. and thanks to everyone else it really helps..
Being a nerb is surprisingly fun. But I wouldn't classify you as being a nerb. I mean, you're being asked out, so you're clearly fairly high on the social ladder.
First off, don't listen to what Daxma said about telling your mom off. She is pregnant and working her butt off to feed you and take care of you guys. She does not deserve to be talked back to by someone who she is concerned about but she's got to help put food on the table. She probably -does- get headaches from the stress. Your problems are not as big as hers and they can be solved by not making your problems worse and chastising your mother. (Sorry to disagree heavily with you on this, Daxma but yeah.. that'll get a 12 year girl nowhere fast.) Your brothers are your brothers. You are obviously older than they are and so you are being asked to be responsible and help out in a situation because your parents obviously require more money to get you all what you need. Your mom -needs- your help so that she can go to work. Otherwise she cannot do anything. As an older sibling too, I know how it feels to have to watch the younger ones... especially when they are not helpful and sometimes just want to argue with you for no reason. You are going to have to buckle down and accept this responsibility but there are some things you can try so it can be more enjoyable for you. 1. Try to make sure you don't try to sound too much like 'mom and dad'. You are the older sister so maybe see if you can play a game with them or do something recreational they enjoy for a bit. Take the time to be an older sibling so that you and your brothers maybe get some more positive times out of the deal than just negative ones. If they are being really hard to deal with, yeah, you kind of have to put your foot down, but if you can, make sure you try to loosen up and go into this business of babysitting them with as positive an outlook and a plan as you can have. 2. Maybe try to teach them something if you can or have them help do small things to 'surprise mom'. Say 'let's surprise mom today so she can come home to a clean house' or something like that. Psyche them into maybe learning how to use the microwave if they are old enough, or to make chocolate milk etc. Doing participation things with them can help keep them busy and also maybe they won't be so 'annoying' as siblings can be. Being a nerd at school... Those kids may laugh at you now and call you a nerd but most 'nerds' don't get asked out either. That's pretty perplexing. Maybe instead you come off as a sort of 'know-it-all' and in the end, nerds may be made fun of in school for being 'too smart' or sometimes even seeming 'snobbish' but if you do your best at learning the material and can try to just accept people in school think stupid things about others, you'll do yourself well when you are an adult and out of school. Part of school is learning socialization and there's no other place around that can make us all feel like crap at times. Other students can really suck as they demoralize and bug the crap out of you. The thing to do is to come to terms with the fact that no one can live to anyone's super expectations and that you should just be yourself and do what you like to do. Don't worry what they think because none of those kids who make fun of you are even going to really be around after school. If you grow up yourself, those same kids that mock you won't get as far as you will. Nerds anyway, get the best paying jobs. xD If you are getting beaten up in school physically, you should try to talk to your counselor. Talk to your dad. Whether he's -mom- or not, if mom isn't feeling well, she just isn't. Try talking to her but not with a whining complaining sort of voice. Say you'd like her advice on how she would deal with some things going on and explain it as maturely as you can. If she still won't listen to you, talk to your dad. Men are not just oblivious to what goes on in a young girl's life and sometimes dads are actually more wise on things to do. If you explain here even on how you are being beaten up etc, maybe we can offer you some advice. If boys ask you out and bug you after, just say you want them as friends and move on. At 12, most of that dating stuff is a game anyway and they will get over it. Don't focus on it. Just be nice but also direct and if you have to, use the excuse of 'my parents won't let me date till I'm 15 or 16." That sometimes works. I hope things get better for you and you have a lot on your plate to do. Try to make the best of it and hang in there. Things will calm down after the baby is born hopefully and your mom will be around some more.
