Parents: Divorcing Problems

Im kind of Surprised No one made a thread about this. People made threads about how there parents did stuff to them but no one have ever based it on the real problem: Divorce and how they affect you.
Just to clarify, you don't really have to go, deep into your life, just the basis of it, if you want to.
My Problem:
My parents. Sometimes, I just feel bad for them. Arguing all the time about stupid stuff, it makes my head hurt.My brother is in the 8th grade, and he got into Laguardia High School for 9th grade for singing, and I got in for 10th grade, for singing, and they diidnt even congragulate me. All they do is argue and argue and really Im getting sick of it.

 

Divorce can be a really hard thing. My parents got divorced when I was young, but even before that they would fight every night. I was a little too young (about seven) to fully understand the situation so they didn't really tell me much, but one thing I learned was that it gets better with time. My parents would argue over the phone over the littlest things and my mom even called the cops on him a few times, but that was a long time ago.

Just try to avoid having the two of them together, talking, or anything along those lines. If you have to work out visitation with your dad (or mom), try to call him instead of your mom doing it. If you really can't avoid it, stay around them. They might not fight with you around.

 

i feel sorry for you,......really , i do,

but this will continue on........its sad.....

but, hey , its good that you got into a (i think) singing school!!!,

i wanted to go to one of those for some time now..............but i cant.

try to be strong, you will need to be , best of luck, or you can show them how miserable it makes you seeing them fighting....

 

Not always the case, my mum and step dad fight in front of me and my little brothers (although they're no longer married) and even when I'm in another room I can still hear them fight over something stupid (normally to do with him drinking or my little brothers) And I still I hate hearing them fight (since it brings back painful memories) but since I'm on my laptop most the time, I can just put my music on so I can ignore them.

Anyways sometimes divorce is good because who would want to stay married to someone they always fight with? And I've know kids who want this since they don't like their parents staying together when they fight all the time.

 

I understand how ya feel, singstar. my parents' are divorced right now. my brother's 15 turning 16 in two months and I'm 12. I'm actually getting quite used to it, but it's hard aswell. I'm living with my mom right now, my dad wasn't really actually like a father- he wasn't really ever home. All he cared about was his job and all that yadayada...and when he was home, he'd hurt my mom and sometimes me and my brother too. My mom was the exact opposite, and I'm glad. So if you want, just tell at least one of them how you feel, best to tell the one your closest to. They're 'bound to understand how ya feel. As Chevalier said, try to be strong. One of the best advices someone could give (go Chevalier!)

 

i know how you feel my parents are exactly the same fighting about stupid things but not only is it my mom and dad it's my brother too my dad is always picking fights with him and at the dinner table they usually all curse each other out but my parents have'nt got a divorce but one of these days they will push it to far.

 

Kewl im in 10th grade and im in a show choir...

anywayzz... are your parents getting divorce? Mines already did...when i was in the 3rd grade.

Try talking to your parents about how stupid the things are that they argue about.
Too scared?
You should talk to your counselor about this... get to know her/him... trust me, they're really great people...

 

thanks!, but , its the thruth, pain hurts(duh!)be it fisical or mental

i only can pray for you (i will)

im sure youll find inner strength and courage to tell them , even for their children , they should understand....

btw, im in a choir too, and in a band(not an instrumental) ,my choir director flipped when i said i wanted out, XDD...off topic

and im in 10 grade too!! , my heart goes out to you ,all of you suffering from divorces......

luckily,my parents never fight,they might get mad ,but resolve it ,because their bond is stronger than all that.....i should stop this is too corny...........

 

I remember two years ago when one night my father was attacking my mother, about beat her half to death. Then once she left us there, that's when he unleashed on us. Two weeks later, he drove my older brother and I into the city, parked next to the sidewalk, and said "Pick a spot." We then got out and he drove off. We later went back home to see our mom returned, but she left the day after. We then went to live with our aunt and we've known her as our mom ever since.

 

My parents don't argue.. but I have been in situations that some of my friends' parents in RL drag them into the argument and making them agree with which ever parent. I've had my friends call me about how they can't take it anymore of their agruing and have to stay in their room with her brother and sister. I'm actually sick of it, when they bring their children in. First of all, it's not the child's fault... and they shouldn't drag them into their own problems. Be ****ing adults and fix it yourself

 

Yes, that is what's the problem with most parents. When a spouse makes them aggravated, the other spouse takes it out on one of the kids. My father used to yell my mother's name, shouting vulgar words while he hit my brother with a thick leather belt. He still has many scars on his arms from trying to protect his face from the blows.

 

im really sorry to say this but.........

your parents , didnt care , for you or your brother..........

im glad youre ok,now, it must have been hard..........

thats something no child should live...........


really, parents should at least have some consideration with their children.........

and, not make them pass through so much, only by involving them they give their children so much stress.....

if your parent comes to you to tell you to pick sides just keep listening to all they say, they might only just want you to hear why they think they are "right"

 

My parents are divorcing and i've been feeling really depressed and i'm not even allowed to tell anyone... only my older brother is taking it well... it's hard not being able to talk to someone but one of my friends found out and i can talk to her now.

Well what i am trying to say is talk to someone... I wish someone told me that

 

BUt you know, my parents care about me, they try to find attention for me but......i dont know what to do....its so confusing.

 

lol at least your always positive that your parents love you... half the time i think they hate me... mainly my dad

 

You shouldnt say that...its just so hard to see my parents fight all the time....and its so easy to see that they arent proud of me....

 

One of my best friend's parents recently went through a really nasty divorce. She's my age (14) and sided with her mom. Her dad kicked out her mom out, and she went, too. She moved away and I missed her so much. Luckily, she was able to move back. But it was a really brutal divorce. She doesn't talk to her dad anymore, and doesn't see her sister very often. Divorces can be devastating. But eventually, you will get through them.

 

My parents divorced when I was 4 years old, but I really don't remember anything about it. I live with my mom and my dad lives in another state. I guess the reason the got divorced with because of "unreconciolable(sp?) differences".
Since I can't remember what happened, I can't really say that their divorce was devastating.
But some can be though.

 

Anyone, have a parents fight have gone...like a bit to far...? Because it happened to my friend...and her mother was in the hospital for like 2 wekks.

 

I'm sure it is just the stressful situation that is making them appear to not love you. They really do, but when things get tough, people's priorities get all screwed up. Are they the type you could have an intelligent discussion with?? My mom isn't that type which is why I ask, but if you can, definitely try to confront them about it. I'd be willing to bet they could easily change something to make you feel more comfortable around them.
Good luck&stay strong.