My parents never take time to listen to me. Suppose my brother does something wrong and it wasn't my fault they would still point their fingers at me and get blamed for it. They never give me time to explain things. Sometimes, it's like I am not their daughter. Do they care about me if: 1. They go outside every night with their friends 2. Drink all the time 3. Shout at their children for no reason 4. Keep making me think I'm a mistake 5. Never help me in school but always expect me to get good grades 6. Barely spend time with their children Help me....what am I supposed to do?
Are you the eldest for one thing? I would still try to talk to them and let them know how you feel.You are still their daughter and of course they love you. Don't ever feel like they don't. Try to help them out perhaps and get on their good side. If you need anymore advice don't hestitate to ask.
I go through that same thing all te time almost,sometimes they are A-holes,my dad drinks,and some other stuff I cannot talk about,but my mom is super nice,but dad is such a @$$!
Everyone has a simular problem like yours. My parents blame me because my bro did it. Not fun. Just hang in there and try to cheer them up.
I feel similar even though I'm an only chld I still get blamed for things I didn't do. Once I got blamed for something my mom did and my mom was the person that blamed me. She never spends time with me unless its to do chores and thats just cuz she feels embarrassed when her friends pay surprise visits. She makes out that she hates me. My step-dad doesn't act lke he hates me but I guess he doesn't know he says a couple of words to me each day and when mum's NOT out he's at the pub. I get through it by going on the computer talking to friends playing games, just doing the things I like. OR If you know anything tht makes you hyper when I get hyper I forget about my worries and doubts. When shown neglect by my parents I just shrug and say "Sure okay seems fair" And they get steamed and walk off. So I hope that doing things you like and getting hyper works for you...Sorry thats all the advice that I have...
Where do they go?A bar?On a walk? It's not healthy for them to do that, but you can't stop them. Try to hide the drinks from them. Are they drunk when they say this? If they are yelling at you for no reason just ignore it and walk away until they are in your face. If you are old enough you should be able to ask for help, if they say no, go to extra help.It isn't fair that they won't help you..but if you really want help then you must find it for yourself.All parents want their kids to succeed and get good grades.
Ask your parents not to drink. That seems to be what's causing the frustration. My dad didn't get drunk when he used to drink but I was still scared for his well-being so I pleaded him to stop drinking and he did. The only time he drinks now is on special occasions
Your situation stinks but it is one that a lot of kids go through. It seems you get neglected and get some verbal abuse so well, if nothing else, be grateful you aren't being beaten the tar out of like some others are. Your parents are obviously just well...being selfish right now and want to do things to keep together but aren't necessarily seeing the impact on you and probably your sibling(s). Maybe they need this time to get their own relationship to work. You don't know that for sure. All I can say is that though the situation sucks, stick with things and take care of yourself. See their mistakes for what they are and learn them so you don't duplicate them later on in your life. If talking doesn't work with them, I'd focus more on yourself and who you want to be and what you want to do. Work on yourself and your own goals and perhaps try to watch out for your sibling(s) too so that they feel someone at least is there for them. If they don't get this treatment as much as you do, and your parents are somewhat there for them it might be because they feel you are older and more independent, or not necessarily needing them as much. It seems like they, your parents, have some growing up to do, but unfortunately you aren't going to be able to teach them. You have made it this far with them being as they are so in the end, all I can suggest is to keep it up and put your chin up. Don't expect things from them that they just seem too stuck on themselves to give. You can make it in this world if you plan for it and you'll do fine. It takes effort but it's what I had to do and several other kids have had to do and maybe in some ways it makes us a lot stronger when we put our wills to it and strive to be more. If you need people to talk to about it, we're here to root you on. I wish you the best. As said, keep the chin up, ignore any words you hear that are cutdowns but think through constructive criticism so you don't become arrogant. Don't let those ugly things like 'i never wanted you' etc to bring you down. You are there and you can make things happen. If it gets on your nerves so much when someone says to you that you were a mistake, tell them that it's their fault for not using protection. The look is priceless as you run off and worth it. xD.
