Okay, Here's the Deal.

Discussion in 'Help with Life' started by Scott Pilgrim, Nov 27, 2008.

  1. Repliku Chaser

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    Basically, what I'd suggest is studying yourself. Are you really clingy and always calling them and have to be around them etc? There are many girls and guys that can't deal with someone who is too co-dependent and clingy so maybe you might want to check if that's the problem and well, give the girls some air. Starting relationships should be relaxed and enjoyable, getting to know each other and well, basically a more refined friendship with some perks.

    On the other side of the coin, are you showing enough depth? If you act too cold or do not take time out to understand the girl etc, that's not good either. Ask the girl about herself and show interest in learning about her. Also, if you are cruel to others and the girl is noticing it, that may be a turn off too in that they don't want to be with someone who could become potentially abusive and they might have thought you were rough around the edges, but aren't finding any substance inside that says you aren't cruel all the time.

    Think on how the relationships have worked, what these girls have seen of your personality and well, measure it. Think back on how they reacted to some things you've done in public or private. I do think it is likely that the flaw is somewhere within your attitude since you can -get- girls but not keep them. 3 girls in a row seems rough. If you want this 3rd girl, maybe you should consider asking her about stuff and say she's cool to be with etc. Maybe she'll tell you what bugs her. Then you two can talk it out. Of course, if you normally act like a 'tough' guy, you may want to show her some sincerity so she'll actually want to talk to you about something so personal. In a relationship, trust is very important.
     
  2. Phantom Sora Destiny Islands Resident

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    Okay well, first of all it's probably because of well.. err.. how do I say this.. uh.. your "image", you know, school, and all that junk.
    I'm a young kid and at my school that's all the ****ty girls at my school think.

    Another possible reason is how much time you spent with them, you don't want to be with them 24/7. But then again you don't want to spend like only 3 seconds talking.

    So hey, why don't you talk to one of them?
     
  3. daxma Hei Long: Unrivalled under the Heavens

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    Someones spreading rumors about you...not unharming rumors but serious rumors.Just ask them what've heard around about me and she might give you the answer.
     
  4. Defame King's Apprentice

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    You should probably just spend time w/ them and ask them what's wrong
    If that doesn't work; keep on trying!
     
  5. Destined Working for WDW

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    Maybe they can tell that you aren't being yourself around them, or they believe you to be one way, you might say or do something in the manner of how you really are, and they want to break up with you before it gets out of hand?

    In my experience, girls want guys that can be themselves around them without holding back or having another side, they can sometimes view it as a secret or you are lying to them.

    It might be a stretch, but it's a possible reason.
     
  6. Styx That's me inside your head.

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    You're a pushover. That's what's up.