Oh wise KHVers, I seek your advice

you see, my cousin has been asked out by a boy that she doesn't like. How does she friendzone him without destroying his soul?

See she has asked me for advice, but I have only ever been friendzoned, I have never had to friendzone someone and thus have no idea how to help her.

KHV, I seek your infinite wisdom. What the bloody hell should she do?

 

She shouldn't friendzone him. She should tell him plain and simple that she's not interested, and she's sorry.

 

Lol tell her to tell him that she's not really interested and that she's sorry (to make it a bit less tragic). Not really that hard holy shat. This shouldn't be rocket science.

Wow I didn't read Nate's comment.

 

^this

The guy's probably gonna feel bad but that's normal. Not many people like rejection. But I'm sure he'll move on. They are plenty of women out there. Better for your cousin to let him know that she doesn't like him than for her to give him some sense of hope that they could possibly be together. It'll hurt much less in the end if she goes with the former.

 

If she doesn't like him she should just tell him that she doesn't want to date him.
The friendzone does not exist btw.

 

The "friendzone" only exists in the minds of those who are incapable of accepting that someone isn't interested in a relationship with them.

I'm sorry I just hate that word.
More like LOATHE ENTIRELY.

 

Nate, GS, Airi and Llave basically covered it, she should just say she's not interested and that's that

To add on to the friendzone bit tbh I wish neither the Asker nor Askee would use it. For the asker they take it as an inferior position in relationships in general with other people which is bs. However when the person who is getting asked uses it that also is implying a negative position (at least imo)

 

I told her to say she's just not interested, and apparently they're all good.

As for the actual term 'friendzone', don't get me wrong, I actually hate the word. Maybe I should've just said it as 'rejection' so that's my bad. But thanks for the advice everyone. Having never actually faced with that problem it's awkward trying to give advice like that to someone else. Thanks guys :)

 

There is no such thing as "putting someone in the freindzone"
People put themselves in the freindzone by continuing to be romantically interested in someone who has essentially made a point of saying "You're cool, but I'd never **** you".
It's nobodies fault but the friend in question.
So tell your friend to do just that, either say "You're cool but no way in hell am I gonna **** you"
Or say "I don't think your cool NOR will I ever **** you"

 

As a girl who is not interested in him but still values him as a friend, it is her job to break his heart in the most painful way possible. Tell her that the only way to ensure that he gets over her is to completely and utterly destroy him in a way that no girl that he could ever love would. He may hate her because of it for a while and it'll be hard for both of them to deal with, but if they really are friends, they'll both get over it with time. Let her save the nice turn downs for easily manipulated guys who she'll never really care about.

 

Well, I'd start by telling her to emphasize the word "friend" when she is around him. Tell her she has to make it clear that there's no chance of him being with her. He's nothing more than a friend. It'd be helpful if she had a boyfriend. Then she could talk to him about made up relationship troubles or whatevs, that's a clear "friendzone" statement. Basically, you get friendzoned when a girl/guy shows absolutely no attraction to you whatsoever other than platonically. For girls, it's when you're just another bro hangin out and watching the game. For guys, it's when you're someone she can confide in with all her romantic issues. This is all if she wants to keep him as a friend.

I could give more advice for making him her "toy", making him hate her guts, making him a total wreck, and even making him love her more.

If she ever changes her mind and wants one of ^these, let me know. I'm pretty devious when it comes to controlling people. Especially guys cause they're guys.

 

That was basically my advice on how to get him over her. The only way to make sure that he gets over her and stays that way is to break his heart into millions of tiny pieces, then leave him to pick up the pieces without her help.

 

You're an idiot.

 

Hey, it worked on me. I see no reason why it wouldn't work on someone else.

 

Apart from the fact you have no idea what you're talking about?

 

Oh god the destruction one word causes.

 

But I do have an idea of what I'm talking about. A girl did that to me and it worked. Unless you can explain why I'm the only guy in the world that this strategy would work on, I'm going to continue to fail at seeing your point.