Need A Lil Advice =/

Okay, So...I Really like this guy, and as far as he tells me, he likes me too. Now, for the past year and a half, He's continously told me he loves me, always been really sweet and such when no one's around. Yet, when someone else is around, he completely ignores me, and then argues with me because I have supposedly 'ignored' him. We already have alot of problems between us, seeing as there is a three year +six month age gap, Because of this, we've been almost going out and then been 'just friends' for over a year. Whats worse, he purposely flirts with other girls infront of me. Lateley, he's been telling me he really doesn't want to lose me, but then again, once we're in public, he act as if I don't exist.
How do I sort this problem out with him, when he doesn't want to just sort this out maturely, and can never speak to me in public? And what exactly do I do, when I haven't let him go myself?
I'd appreciate the help <3

 

i should not give advice since im recently turned single but what it sounds to me when he's around his friend they are more importent so what you should do is do the same thing he is doing to you when you have friends around

 

wow.......

he sounds like a pig.......ever heard the song "flavor of the week"?

yeah......just ask him what the hell is wrong with him.

 

No, I haven't..
Everytime I ask him what the hell is up, he somehow manages to pin it onto me, because I've been 'ignoring' him, when It's actually the other way around...=/

 

he sucks.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u514QzM7KPw


lyrics and song.....

 

I disagree.

He sounds a bit embarrassed to be around you as a girlfriend (not in a bad way). By what you're telling me, it sounds like he's a loving and caring person, but he sounds a bit afraid of other people's thoughts about you himself. I think you need to have a talk with him. If anything, say that you want a full time commitment and you don't want him to be with anyone except you. You deserve better than this. I feel that tis predicament is HIS fault, so don't think it's yours.

Make sure you have his full attention while talking to him. I'm sure he loves you, without a doubt, but he does need to know some limits if you two want a true relationship.

 

Thanks for the advice <3
I'll try to have a serious conversation with him, but Everytime I do, he manages to wheedle his way out of whatever I'm about to say. He's always talked about a true relationship with me, but never actually attempts to make one.

 

and i'm winning this argument on this guys piggy-ness.

 

The way it sounds is that he is the kind of person that may not react if you talk to him about it. But have you tried REALLY sitting things down and laying them on the table. Hopefully hell stop. if not, maybe he isn't that good of a boyfriend. im sure you could find someoen better.

 

He doesn't take anything I say seriously. I've had many talks with him in the past year or so, and he never takes it seriously.

 

Well it sounds like to me he isn't good enough for you. Even if you like him a hole lot still.

 

if you listen to that song, then yeah.......it matchs.

 

It sound's like this guy is all-talk-no-show, if you know what I mean. I also agree that it seems like he feels embarrased around you, when being in public.
If having a serious long talk about your issues isn't being taken seriously, then threaten to cut him off completely. At this time he should start paying attention, because he should then realize what he could lose(If it is true that he loves you).
I understand that this method could be hard for you, and it could even backfire, but if you two really want to be together, then the broken pieces will quickly repair themselves.

EDIT: Wow. I had no idea I could talk with such cliche.

 

It may be cruel of me to say this, but he could be playing you along, to see how long he can milk your affection. He may have security and commitment issues, also.

 

right now id say that, with the way he's behaving, he doesnt really care about you... honestly, we may say those things like "i love you" and "i want to be with you" but judging by his behavior he cant mean it.

what you should do is speak with him about this, especially asking him if he really means what he says and how he could be sincere with the behavior he's displaying. im sorry as well because i can see that you care about him as well, and this must be hard

my boyfriend always kindly uses the phrase "actions speak louder than words." this is very true. if there is going to be an awesome relationship between you two, things need to be spoken about and then acted upon. if nothing happens then... the final result will have to be you finding someone that will treat you much better.

hope that helps... :D good luck, you can do it!

 

Hmmm, in all honesty it sounds like he does like you but that he is concerned about how his friends would react. Afterall three years is a big age difference when you are still in school.

I am reluctant to say give up, I would suggest trying to talk to him again, explaining how you feel and explaining what causes you to think he ignores you, perhaps in his eyes you ARE ignoring him and he thinks you are the one who acts different?

It is always difficult to give advice without knowing both people and both perspectives.

You have been close for a very long time and he himself said he doesn't want to lose you. Don't give up hun, try talking to him again first.

I don't think he sounds like a pig and I don't think he sounds like a jackass, I think he just sounds unsure and scared to make your friendship into something more.

 

Hmm, I'll try to talk to him again, next time I see him. He never seems the type to be scared, but then again, not everyone is exactly as you see them. The three years difference has caused a few arguments... Thanks so much for the advice <3

<3 Thanks for the advice, Like I said before, I'll take all these things into mind and talk about it to him. Thanks :}

Most of the time he never does take serious talks seriously. I Guess I'll just have to have one long talk, and then see how it all plays out.
Thanks everyone, you've all given me ways to sort this out, and I thank you for that <3

 

You're welcome, I hope everything works out for you <3

 

You need to talk to him about this problem and tell him straight forward how you feel. if he doesnt get his **** together then you need to go find a better man that will treat you the same no matter where you are. As for the age difference i am 22 and my gf is 18 so i beat you by 6 months and it doesnt matter to us about the 4 year difference.

 

Confront him about it, and if this persists......

DUMP HIM!