My grandpa just died

Well....today actually, this seemed so sudden, I'm kind of depressed right now, but my family is going around crying their heads off, I've talked to them but this seems to only make things worst, I've decided not to talk until all of this is over. So yeah :-l

 

First of all, please accept my sincerest condolences.

I lost my grandfather on 11/22/2010, so I know what it's like.
He also happened to be a famous artist.

Anyway, you've just got to keep telling yourself that things will get better.
Maybe not now, maybe not in a few weeks, but things will get better.

Talk to a trustworthy friend and see if they experienced something something similar and ask what they did to get through it.

 

I'm very sorry to hear that, I know how awful it is when a family member dies--unfortunately, though, it happens.

Not talking to your family may not be the best option right now, especially if some of them were very close with him. You don't have to talk to them I suppose, but just a hug and giving them a shoulder to cry on can do wonders.

It's natural to be depressed, things will get easier, trust me. Just try to remember all the terrific things about him and be there for your family.

 

I'm sorry for your loss, you have my condolences. If you don't mind my asking, did your grandfather die of old age, or was it something else?

Anyway, back in 2006, my grandfather died as well. They wouldn't let me wear black to his funeral since I was only twelve. If you were used to him being there a lot or being around him quite a bit, it's gonna take a while for you to get used to the fact that even though he used to be, he's not anymore. If you were close to him, this will be hard to accept, and with your family in an emotional state like this, I doubt they will help you much with your coping because they'll be going about their own coping.

If you're anything like me, you'll stay away from others until you're ready to talk. To be honest, I never did, but you might need it. If you have to, take some time to yourself, even if your parents or your family think that this is a good time for the family to be together; if you need it, you need it. If, on the other hand, you want your family and you want to share your pain with them, spend as much time with them as possible, have them know that you love them and that you can all be there for each other.

It's going to take a bit of getting used to, your grandfather being gone, but you have your family to help and you know that KHV is always here for you if you need us.

 

It was from cancer, fatal cancer that is. And yes I have gotten over the fact that he is gone, I knew about this a while ago and accepted it before it came. The main problem is my family is acting like its the end of the world, I understand how that feels, like the time I lost the girl I loved, but later I accepted it and went on with life, I've given them hugs attention everything, I just think that they need time to think by themselves also. Thanks for the advice also ;-)

 

It not easy for them to move on my lill cuz miamia(nickname for her). Lost her grandpa and her another grandpa.When the 2th one pass.They told her about her another grandpa.Now she don't care about the one that died:/ it not easy what so ever to move on.Just give it some time.DON'T ask them for ANYTHING! it will just make them mad.
Sorry for your lost good luck

 

My condolences to you, man. It's not a fun thing, losing people.

I, personally, have been lucky enough to have yet to lose anyone close to me, so I may or may not be helpful in this matter, but I shall be certain to assist you where I can.

My Stepfather recently lost his mother, who I'd only met a handful of times, but he too got over it before it actually happened, so I believe he was actually in a similar position as you. It's good to leave your family alone sometimes, but make sure you talk with them as well. Even just sitting next to them and watching TV or whatever is great.
And don't pretend you're not completely unaffected by his death. Perhaps it wasn't as traumatic as the rest of your family, but don't shut yourself off.


...This post is rather abstract, isn't it.

 

There is nothing that you can do to make them let go of him, and I am not sure that you should try. If you live your life normally and honor his memory without grieving, then they will see what you are doing and act accordingly. Showing them that they are producing their misery is the best way to make them stop crying. When my relatives have died, I have been ready for it beforehand and I was not emotional about it at any point before or after the funeral. I cry more at weddings than funerals. Other people need time, but we all cope with things in different ways. It is only a problem if your grieving is stealing your time away. Everyone is dying. We should not waste the time we have living in fear of or despair at that fact. If we do, then we deny the value of living and devote more of our time to dying.

 

I'm sorry man I lost my father in 2004 and my grandma in 2003 so I know what it feels like.

 

man, that's harsh. My grandfather had 3 cancers, with the 3rd being his last. He died about 2, maybe 3, years ago now. I think I was the only person that wasn't really upset. I don't know why. Not a lot of things really upset me to the point of crying. Sure it was sad for him to be gone, but that's really it.

Oh well, just make sure you remember those memories of him.

 

My deepest apologies, I lost my grandpa when I was little, both 2003 (I was five), and then, both grandma 2004 (I was six)... in that time I didn't understand what was "death" or "loss"...
And now, I have lost one aunt on 11/6/2010 (I was 12); I didn't know her very much, she was in Telemaco Borba, Paraná - Brazil, I just see her in some vacations, when my family could go there, it was very hard to go...
And other dearest aunt 8/2/2011 (I was/am 13), I always saw her, in 5 weeks I certainly went there. She was always smiling, don't matter what, always ready to help everyone... So I arrive home 8/2 of this year and my mother told me... "she... she was taken to the hospital. And... around 1 hour ago she... she...".
Next day (wed) I went to school and my bests friends "felt" that I was sad, somehow they felt it, maybe because I always am cheerful, but that time I was quiet. They asked me what was going on. I couldn't stand, I started to cry. But then, they started to cry with me, like they were feeling the same thing, just looking at me.

Try to do the same thing, try to talk with the people you're close. Everything will get better. I am sure of that, and you too have to be sure.
Don't ever carry sadness alone, everyone that loves you will take "shared" this sadness; and tell to you "everything will get better" and then it will.

Don't forget this.