Okay, so I was with this guy for almost a year. We moved really fast, and I burned out in about six months, but kept going because of a few bright spots we had after. Conversely, he was head over heels for me the whole time. I broke up with him about two months ago, because it just wasn't fun anymore. I don't want to sound like some thoughtless b*tch or something, but we're only sixteen. Relationships are supposed to be fun at this point, not staying together even though every conversation turns into an argument. Here's my problem: I thought we could stay friends, and I genuinely wanted to, but he never let me alone, and even kissed me once after we broke up (It was just a peck on the cheek, but awkward nonetheless). So I eventually started giving him the silent treatment, because I couldn't handle the constant calling and surveillance (the same thing had happened when we had been together). At the moment, we're past the point of being friends right now, but he's still trying to be my best friend, which he isn't, and tries to check up on my spiritual life (We're both Christian; I was the one who brought him to church, where he converted), which is beyond awkward for me, because I barely want to tell him the time of day, much less how God is affecting my life, especially because he's very self-righteous when it comes to Christianity, to the point of where he essentially said that I was a "bad" Christian. Well, khv? If you can work your magic, please do. I need help on this one.
>Guy bothering you, doesn't understand how you feel, still sees hope in you. I think you know the best course of action is simply to tell him straight.
I agree the truth hurts but it's best If he knows it's not gonna work and he'll get the memo to move on .
Take it from a guy who knows... Sounds to me like you guys may not be able to be friends...I mean obviously he's trying in his own way, but he clearly seeks to be with you again, which could put a major snag in any friendship...and like everyone else has said you need to make the message clear to him... What you need to do first is to make it clear that what he's doing isn't what a guy friend is allowed to do and is actually what a boyfriend would do...I mean, lets face it, guys are stupid and chances are he doesn't even realize how uncomfortable he's making you (it's happened to me on more than one occasion unfortunately)... Obviously you're having trouble getting the message across to him, so you might wanna get some help because as much as I hate to say it this guy might turn into a legit stalker and we need to make him realize that's not cool...but don't have them call him a stalker because that will just piss him off and trust me no one wants that...just tell him you need time away from him and get him to stop the whole kissing you on the cheek thing because that's just weird... Don't answer any of his calls PERIOD because when a guy calls a girl 9-10 times straight and she doesn't pick up he usually gets the hint that she'll never pick up for one reason or another... And for what it's worth, you're not a *****...my mom says you're supposed to be in a lot of relationships before you find the one...and as my dear friend Onie said "Date the bad ones, marry the good ones" here's hoping I was helpful =D
