OK, well I don't usually rely on the internet for help with life, but KH-V seems really honest. Ok so at school, about 3 months ago, there was a girl I really liked, and I was good friends with her. Let's call her... "Shannon". I liked her in secret, and not even my best friend new. Once I was going to ask her to a dance, and I got out: "Hey 'Shannon' can I ask you something?" and she said "Sure, one moment, Riley." (Riley is my name) then she turned around to talk to her friend for a second. While I was waiting, my friend Tim grabbed my hood and dragged me out to my bus. I didn't wan't to tell Tim why I was frustrated, then he would laugh. So I never got a chance to ask her. So, about a month and a half ago, Tim found out the truth, and sweared he wouldn't tell anyone. It must have slipped out somehow, because I know Tim wouldn't break a promise. All of a sudden my friends, whom were girls, were obsessing over it. Apparently Shannon found out somehow, too. So I was acting in denial. Then one of my friends told me Shannon would go on a date with me. I gathered up the courage to ask her if that was true. She said yes. So, that Friday I went on a date with her to the mall. (I know, real formal.) We had fun, and I thought everything would go right. Then, the next day (here's the climax), she broke up with me. She said she wasn't ready. The same day, a new kid named... er... "Brandon" comes to the school. He seems cool at first, then my friend "Drew" warns me about him. He said he's really a back-stabber. Two day's later, I here a rumor going around: Brandon is dating Shannon. Later, I find out this is true. I talk to Drew and Tim, and they both agree with me that Brandon is indeed, a ***hole. Shannon had even told me she still liked me, and said she "wasn't ready for a boyfriend", but 2 days later, she starts dating Brandon. So, now I'm confused. Brandon is still an ***hole, and Shannon won't even talk to me, so instead she sends messages through my friend and hers, "Kelsey". What should I do? Wow, that was my longest post ever...
Shannon probably told you that she wasn't ready for a boyfriend because she didn't know how to tell you that she liked someone else (this Brandon kid). Just try to move on; just because you don't like the guy she's with doesn't mean you have to interfere, unless he's a really bad guy. If he really is a terrible guy, she'll come to see and break up with him eventually. also I think a date to the mall sounds fun lol.
Thanks for reading, and for the advice. Well, Brandon is a jerk to everyone except Shannon and her friends, and is hitting on 9 other girls. I'm not kidding, either. I'll probably somehow let that out (probably on accident, I tend to do that), and if that happens, I'll kick back and watch.
Well she's a coward for just not saying she didn't like you that way.If she just plans on ignoring you and sending messages through her friends then it isn't worth the effort.She'll likely do that to other men. As misty said, try to move on.
Well, as I said earlier, that is good advice. But for some reason I still have feelings for her. Wow, that sounded sappy. But I think I'll just stay out of it for now, and see what shall happen. But Shannon isn't that kind of girl, like I said in the first post, her and I were really good friends.
i know you wont follow this but i think you should go up to [shannon] and tell her straight as in like "if you did not like me that way, you could say no" and act mature and so
If he is hitting on other girls, then think how screwed "shannon" is. it serves her right for treating you like that: telling you one thing, and meaning another. its a horrible thing to have done to you and I know from experience, so it's best to move on. life goes on, and so will thier relationship until you let it slip :) if you know what I mean. or, you can sit back and watch (mataphorically speaking, don't actually get a chair out and watch them, because that will end up in a restraining order :D) but just see what happens, because eventually, she will find out. you will get your time to shine, my friend. either let it slip or watch. :) ~emzz x
High school politics and high school social lives are the most convoluted things on the planet, even more so than real politics or religion. I personally tried to stay the f*** out of it, and mostly succeeded. I had one friend, basically, through all of high school, and I only found him in Senior year. I think I'm in better shape academically than the people who spend hours obsessing about who likes who and who is "cool" (no offense). Just lay back and ignore all the uber-drama that high school generates. Focus on your academics, get into a decent college in a degree you enjoy, and live your life.
Well, thanks for... er... the post. I know I have to focus on academics. I'm a pretty smart guy, and I have to be in order to get either one of my dream jobs.
I'd say that well, there are a few things to learn from this and then I'd suggest the thing to do is move on. One is that if you like a girl, you might want to try just asking her to go on a date with you and don't well, tell anyone unless you really trust the person or want an opinion. Don't let them do the 'middle man' message passing thing. It can make a girl think you are too shy and well, she might not want to get with you for that reason. It seems this happened to you by accident and yet that's how these things sometimes go, sadly. I know it's rough, but it does tend to work out better in the end and if you get a 'no', which we all fear, it's not so bad really. It just means to wait around until you find someone else you like and sometime you will eventually get a yes. Rejection is tough and stops a lot of people from asking others out but it's a fact of life to really strive to face so you can get over shyness. I say that part because that is probably how this 'Brandon' slips into the scene. He probably liked her and took initiative so she was more attracted to that. If you can learn the trick of the trade and not become an a-hole like he is, well, you will win in the end and so will some lucky girl who says yes. The next thing I'd say to take from this is that Shannon is someone you should probably write off as a potential girlfriend and if you like her, consider her a friend instead who's well, made a decision. She probably didn't have the heart to tell you that she wasn't interested and well, likes you as a person so she said what she did. She meant well and though I tend to feel the truth is always better, sometimes this is what people do to let someone go. It hurts, but at least she had your feelings at heart. That's what I think happened anyway. As some others mentioned, school is a weird place and there is a lot of drama and mind games, even if some are unintentional. It's where everyone is pretty much learning the dating stuff and blunders galore happen. Try to not take it too seriously if you can help it. I hope you'll meet another girl you like but if I were you, I'd move on from this girl and do some other activities and such. You'll meet someone else and hopefully you'll have better luck with her. You aren't at fault for anything really and dating in school is just a game of chance. Wish you luck with this and hope you'll feel better about things.
Yup... :china: Tim is the antagonist of this story. Nuff said. I hate those kind of ppl who are in wrong places at wrong time :P Doesnt everyone?
