My Dad,Oh how I hate him xD

Okay-this is something some if not most of us experience-*Sighs* My dad is an arsehole xD

Lately he is real grump at me-There are four other kids in the house but it seems he's out to get me :P I know because just yesterday I walk into the Kitchen and he comes up closely-puts his finger in my face and is all like "You wanna calm the **** down-I dont care if your getting older-I'll break every tooth in your head-I'll ****in break your jaw if you dont stop that attitude!" I just kinda look at him like WTF-But I didnt say anything cuz I know I didnt do anything wrong-Cuz all I did that day as stay in my room,Watch a movie or two listen to Nirvana and sleep (That was only because it was raining) and later he start saying how im a lazy **** that doest talk to anybody and how my type grows up to be arseholes! XD but likle does he know that he grew up to be the arsehole.

So does anybody know what I should do-Or has this ever happened to you???

Oh and before you say talk to somebody and bare it-I talked to my Mum-She said let it go in one ear and out the other-Which ive gotten pretty good at doing at this stage =P

 

Hmm it is a difficult position to be in.

Firstly I am sorry that you aren't getting much support from your mom over this. Though at least she acknowledges that there is an issue.

Have you tried to talk to him about? You said you spoke to your mother, but what about going to your father directly? Prepare what you're going to say beforehand and make sure to be calm. Maybe he is under pressure in his life from somewhere else and is taking it out on you because he thinks you're the one best able to deal with it. It has been said before that when we are down we tend to lash out more at the people close to us because we know that ultimately they'll be the ones who forgive us. Obviously that isn't true for every case, but it is a possible explanation.

You say he has been quite threatening and agressive, has he actually physically hurt you though? For now if it is just empty threats, then yes, whilst it is distressing, it is easier to cope with, the moment it crosses into physical violence is the moment you take it to your mother again.

I do just want to say that sometimes we can act out/give an attitude without realising we are doing, I know that I have a habit of rolling my eyes when my mom is giving me a lecture over something, but I do it without thinking about it. You said you pulled a "wtf" expression at him, next time he flips out try to keep yourself completely composed

Lastly, speaking from my own experience, I have two sisters and I always feel as though I am getting the raw deal, but they both think the exact same thing about themselves respectively, it is possible that he is being generally grumpy with everyone at the moment, you just don't see it as much with the others because it isn't directed at you.

I'm sorry if this isn't much help to you, but I can only make speculations based on the information you have given, feel free to PM me if you want and we can discuss it further <3

Good luck and I really hope things get resolved for you soon~

 

I'm not sure how to help you with this other than try to ignore him or if you really feel threatened by him, then call the police. I recently read a book called "A Child Called It" and from what you say, it seems similar to the book. If he does any form of abuse to you or anyone else in you family, don't just ignore it. Find someone you can talk to (if possible) and try if you have to, to stop the problem before it gets really bad.

 

theres a zillion free numbers to call in the UK to talk to people confidenially...Only thing I can think of right now is phone one of these numbers (for whatever country it is you live in) as I said its always confidential and they give advice and stuff...

This hasnt happened to me...but my step-dad is a cock...He spends every second he possibly can in the pub drinking his life away he comes home has a go at me...only every smiles when he makes me sisters cry...only other time hell so much as smile will be when hes too drunk to think straight :| but yeah the best thing to do is to talk to a professional about it

 

Sounds a bit like my dad except he doesn't threaten to break all of my teeth (the other parts are similar to what mine does though) but yeah...what I do is don't fight back, it'll make it worse. Just ignore it, and find a counselor or someone you can talk to about it and find the best option.

If your parents were seperated like mine, I would've suggested living at the other one's house if it got to that extreme level. Hopefully this will pass, at least your mom is on your side and understands what he's doing is wrong.

I hope for the best D:

 

Thanks Guys!

Okay first off-He didnt physically hurt me but id be wrong in saying "He had never physically hurt me"

I dont actually give attitude when im being giving out to-I just stand there and let it all just slip through my head =P

My mum is on my side-I should have explained that we kinda hate im Equally (Along with my older sister)-She is considering leaving him-I found that out when we were randomly discussing weird dreams (Were that close)

And one of the last things I want is to talk to a professional-There are 4 other kids (Two older,Two younger-Im the middle child!) and attention would be drawn and then Social workers would get involved and we could all be separated and I wouldnt do that to my Mum =[