Well, I have a ****ing problem: I still love my ex. I try not to show it, but most of the time I do. I cry at night because I know he hates me and probably wants me to go kill myself or something. I've tried talking to him as a friend, but he's always being an *******. Once I tried talking to him in the lunch line, but all he did was quickly get his food and complain about how the line was too slow (he said that because I was right behind him in line). And he won't even look at me. When he does, he just glares. I keep making little notes in homeroom and paintings in art, and my friends IRL have given them to him during lunch and break. They said he actually looks at them, then he lets his friends look at them. I told them I was sure he was thinking, "My God, why won't she ****ing leaving me alone? I guess I'll show my friends how stupid she is" or something like that when he passes it to his friends. Speaking of which, whenever I make a painting for him in art, the girls at my table call me stupid and crazy. They also try to ruin my paintings by pouring a bunch of paint on them. I don't know what to do. Pretty much everyone has told me to move on and quit being a ****ing crybaby. I told them that's so easy for them to say, they don't know how much I loved him (and still love him).
I'm sorry to hear about that. I"m in the same boat as you; i still like my ex, but she donesn't want to go out. I try to get over her, but it's hard. If he treats you like sh-t however, that's just cold. If ye does that, he's not even a good friend to have. The only thing i can say is to find someone else. I know it's hard, but it will help in the long run.
you're not going to like what I have to say, but what you need to do is to try and move on. I'm sorry, but I don't think he's going to come back to you. us guys tend to get scared away when girls start acting too clingy. you just need to move on. you'll find love again.
If I was you I'd stop with the notes and the paintings. No offence but to me it rather screams childish/childlike stalker. Maybe if you stop that it'll make trying to get over him easier and you'll recover faster.
oh, gosh, that must have been really tough for you. Those girls who try to ruin your paintings are mean!! /I think/ the best thing for you would be to move on. Yeah, I know everyone has been telling you that. Try and ignore him for awhile. Keep your mind off thoughts about him. And maybe, just maybe, he might even still love you but kept it in for awhile. So, for the mean time, stop all contact with him and just move on.
I know you're in a difficult spot right now, and will more than likely spit at what I'm going to say, but this will get easier in time. I've been where you're at; The first real relationship I had, I had to break off because she was using me to cheat on her boyfriend. Afterward, she broke up with her boyfriend and still dated other people, but I still had feelings for her for awhile. It took me what felt like forever to get over her. I have to agree what some of the other posts say, though; it probably isn't the wisest move drawing/painting pictures that 'look' like you're ex, let alone let your friends see. If you feel you have to do that, do it at home where you have some privacy, but otherwise, your practically begging to be a target for that if you do it at school. I have to admire you still trying to be friends with him, but at the same time, the way he's acting, you might want to give him a little distance. He doesn't sound, at the moment, like the most...charming person to be around, but at the same time, guys can be extremely grumpy and bitter when they just get out of a serious relationship. I'm not excusing his behavior, but at the same time, this may be his cro-magnon way of saying 'give me space'. Just hang in there. I'm a hopeless romantic, and if I was able to move on from a relationship like I was just in, I know you will get better from this, too.
honestly, I would just move on, you will probably hate me for saying it, by the way he is acting towards you, it would probably be better to give him a little space. If people make fun of you for drawing pictures for him, then draw the pics at home or somewhere private.
You have to make the final decision here. If you see no possible way of changing his feelings, then there's no point in wasting your time over it. However, I can tell you that the drawings aren't helping. It may make him feel a little guilty, but you don't want a relationship founded on guilt. Plus, it also makes you look a tad immature for not being able to let it go. More importantly, you have to reflect on the relationship you had with him. Was it actually a good one, or were you just blinded by love. Considering the way he's acting, he may have been an ass-hole all along, but you didn't notice until after your relationship ended. You don't need to chase after him and try to resolve it right away. If you absolutely insist on pursuing him still, give him some space for a few months. If you can, find out why he is upset with you, if you don't already know. Try to make amends after a while, in the least dramatic way possible. That being said, your best choice probably is to just let the relationship go, and if he stops being mad, try to become friends later on. I hope it works out well for you! ^^
