Long-Distance Relationships

I don't think this is enough to be make a good relationship. I believe that a loving relationship needs effective communication, which includes body language. And though it is nice that internet relationships often mean that you are appreciated for who you are instead of how you look, I do think that all relationships need a bit of physical attraction. This being said, I don't deny that people can fall in love over the internet nor do I belittle anyone in a long-distance relationship

This is the point I was trying to make, about people being mature enough to pay for visits and pursue intimate relationships in the future.

 

Hmmm... I notice people bring up the part about miscommunication. I can greatly understand that, but I also know a very simple solution; roleplay. I don't mean one person takes on the role of a knight and the other a princess, I mean emoting what you say. Like, instead of saying " you suck! " say " -jokingly- You suck! " It makes the saying much less hurtful and the person understands what you mean.

Also, the whole idea that people cannot visit their online or long distance loves is rather weak... When I was 14 my stepmother drove me 11 hours to see a girl I'd been in a relationship with online. That was before I ever had a job or a car or could support myself enough to take a trip. Roadtripping to see someone is not as difficult as people make it seem, hell it can be rather fun. Just treat it as a vacation. You have the time, we all have the time, you just have to have the endurance and not be lazy about it. Take it seriously and it'll work...

I know, I'm probly contradicting myself since I originally said relationships suck, but... Hey, just because -mine- suck doesn't mean yours will. xD

 

This isn't really a rebuttal, but while I believe that to be true, sometimes the 'physical attraction' comes after you've already become attached to their personality and who they are. Kind of like, the other person appeals physically because you've already established a genuine bond with them. In the end, what I'm trying to say is, as long as you cherish a deeply-rooted relationship with that other person, what they 'look like' won't matter at all in the end.

But let's not get into extremes, like "You'd still be physically attracted to them even if he/she was 900 lbs and couldn't fit through a standard living room door", because first of all that's just a health hazard and would need to be corrected regardless.

"Love is blind" they say, but that's both a good thing and a bad thing depending on the situation.

 

Exactly! And good point on miscommunication! :)

 

I think they can work great if theyre meant to be, one of my best friends met his wife on Final Fantasy XI and now theyve been together for 4 1/2 years, and are married lol. They visited eachother on weekends and then she moved with him, and they couldnt be happier. So yeah, I think long distance relationships are equally as likely to succeed as a close distance one. Mine have worked pretty well also.

 

Yeah, I agree with you. They work very well if you can be dedicated and persistant on making it work.

I, also, have had mine work pretty well. I've only done it 2 times besides the one I'm in now, but this is the longest one every by far.