I'm starting to get aggressive towards my father and sisters... Please help me

Ever since my mom is gone, the family is starting to fall apart...

Y'know, my youngest sister starts crying all of a sudden, my other younger sister(12 years old, and having... 'girl problems' and such, I dunno hell how to deal with those things) starts annoying the crap out of others...
I seriously doubt that my father can take much more...

Today, my youngest sister started crying again for 'missing mom'. My other younger sister told her to shut up, my father seemed to have heard that, and wanted to send her to her room y'know, to cool down and all. But I was upstairs too. When my father finally managed to get my sister upstairs, she started yelling some nasty things to me. I kept myself quiet, being the only non-****** of the family. She just kept on and on. I seriously don't know how she received the guts to insult me like that...

And then she entered my room, and I exploded... I couldn't help myself... I grabbed her by the shoulder and just raised my fist in the air. She started screaming, and dad came upstairs to stop me. He tried to hold me, but I was too enraged about the whole situation and then I kicked my father on the shin...

I don't want to tell the rest of what happened, I just want your advice...
What can I do?
I can't handle with things like this... I don't like to admit it, but I'm scared to death...

 

what i would do is to just try and talk to your sister or your dad because sometimes that can help. Like your sister is probably just being mean and such because she is upset about your mom and that is her way of handling it because she doesn't want to cry.

 

What if it doesn't work? I just know it won't..

 

Your sister is going through a tough time, losing her mom...scarred heart is right, its her way of taking her anger out on someone. And as you get older, you start to fight with your parents more. Me? i've fought with my parents......8 times more last year then the year before...it didn't get physical...but next time that happens, turn your music way up, and try not to listen. You are probly going through a tough time too, just try not to get physical with anybody. Try talking to a friend or someone about it, or write it down in a book, and don't listen to your sister. The fact that you regret doing it means you probly won't do it again.

 

well just try talking to her and saying stuff like you are there for her if she needs you, and even if it seems like she's not listening to you she probably is. Or you could try to talk to your dad about the situation

 

Chances aren't big of something good will happen. He looks like he's collapsing under a weight. What can we do to finally set things right? Families aren't supposed to fight with each other.

 

I would say that perhaps you should try talking to your dad alone sometime and saying that you want to help him and be responsible but sometimes you feel burdened and rather alone in dealing with things. Tell him you want to help your sisters out because they do both obviously feel bad and the middle girl there with the tude also needs some attention and distraction. Say why you were aggressive and so upset to your father; about her screaming at you and then bursting in your room when you walked away to avoid the fighting and say you want to help stop the fighting in the family.

If your dad knows that at least one of you is going to try to put forth some effort and work with him on keeping that family together, it may comfort him some and also let him know that you are trying to do the right thing but you are being pushed too and so he should not feel so alone. Your sister is going to take the concentrated efforts of both you and your father to deal with. She's angry her mom is gone. She's angry that your youngest sister won't stop crying and she's just very upset in her own way. So perhaps if you and your dad can come up with game plans together on how to deal with her, perhaps she will see that her anger isn't getting her very far and also you won't feel so prone to losing your temper.

As for your youngest sister, seems to me that maybe you and your family need to perhaps try to do some things together and well try to at least go out to a movie or something. She misses your mom terribly but she's got to start doing other things and getting some joy out of life again. Try talking to her perhaps as well when she's sad or just go give her a hug if she'll let you. Sometimes just being there is a comfort and you really don't have to give advice or do much of anything else. It can at times be more appreciated than anything anyone can say. Also, as said, maybe try with your dad to organize some kind of family outings or at least games or something you can do together to try to realize that although your mom is gone, you guys all still have each other.

I do hope things get better for you and your family.