If you're mrsbaggins, rusty_rocks, Tana_Panda, AxEL0220, misamisa, Princess_of_hearts, or chiqabananas, DO NOT READ THIS. Forget about finals... I can deal with them. What really bothers me is what's going on with my friends. Someone I really care about is in the hospital with Swine Flu; it's been about a week. I know he's strong, but I'm still very worried. My great-grandfather just died this week. I didn't know him like the back of my hand, but he was still family. I just found out today that my sister drinks and smokes sometimes. My brother has to drop out of theare because of his grades. One of my best friend's dogs just died the past week. Sure, they're hers, but I'm very close to them. I just found out about his death about an hour ago. I'm confused, and I feel alone. There's so much that I have to deal with, and I think it's too much. How am I supposed to handle all this?
Okay, I'm rather bored so I'm doing this in cruise control. BECAUSE THIS WORKS SO OFTEN AND WILL TOTALLY PREVENT THEM FROM READING IT HAVE YOU SEEN THE DEATH RATES OF SWINE FLU? I GET THE FEELING THAT IF THIS DUDE MADE IT TO THE HOSPITAL THEN HE'S GOING TO BE FINE. JEEZ, THAT SUCKS. I DON'T CLAIM TO KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH HERE BUT I CAN OFFER THIS; PEOPLE DIE, IT HAPPENS, IT SUCKS BUT IT'S THE NATURAL ORDER OF THINGS AND YOU CAN REST ASSURED THAT HE'S COOL NOW CHILLIN' WITH JESUS WELL, THAT WAS HER CHOICE TO MAKE AND IF YOU CAN'T CONVINCE HER TOO EASILY TO STOP THEN SHE'S PROBABLY ALREADY ADDICTED AND YOU SHOULDN'T STRESS TOO MUCH ABOUT IT. IT MAY SOUND INSINCERE BUT REALLY SOMETIMES THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN DO. WELL, YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO GET WHAT YOU WANT AND ONCE AGAIN, THIS ONE MAY NOT BE YOUR PROBLEM. I'D BE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT THE GRANDPA YOU HAD THAT JUST DIED. DEAL WITH THAT FIRST, AT LEAST. SIMPLE, MOST OF THESE AREN'T YOUR PROBLEM. RULE OUT THE DOG, YOUR BROTHER, AND YOUR SISTER AND YOU'VE CONSIDERABLY LESSENED YOUR LOAD. SOMETIMES PEOPLE NEED TO MAKE CHANGES IN THEIR OWN LIVES AND YOU REALLY CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. I SHOULD KNOW, I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM OF INTERFERING TOO MUCH. BUT OTHER THAN THAT, SOMETIMES STUFF JUST HAPPENS, AND YOU CAN REALLY DO NOTHING BUT HOPE FOR THE BEST AND MOVE ON, NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT SUCKS. AND IT SUCKS A LOT.
First off, my friends and family respect me, so I know that if I ask them to not read this, they won't. Second, my friend's been in the hospital for a week. In my opinion, that's cause to worry. Third, I'm athiest. There's no comfort for me in saying that my great-grandfather is with Jesus. Fourth, SHE'S MY SISTER. I think I've got every rite to be worried about her health and well-being. Fifth, my brother is the only person left that I feel close to since my sister and I don't really spend time together. Now that my brother can't be in theatre with me, the time that we spend together will be less and less. I don't want to lose him too.... Sixth, Gipper was a great chihuahua, and quite frankly, I knew him better than I knew my great-grandfather (but that's just because Gipper didn't live across the continent from me). Gipper was a dog that could always make me smile. Sometimes I think he knew what I was thinking. He had these big baby-seal-like eyes that could break your heart when he gave you the "I'm innocent" look. He was a bit of a spaz, and sometimes ran into doors, but that's what made him so great. He would bark his brains out at a dog ten times his size, and then come running back to you when that dog approached him. He sillyness brought brightness through all that crap that I'm going through. To some people it may sound wrong, but I think I'm going to miss Gipper more than my great-grandfather. Seventh, I can't just let things go. It's not something I can do. I've always been there for the people I care about, and I'm not going to turn my back on them now, no matter how hard it is to help them.
Ok, out of all of these, If I had to guess, I would say that what's really getting to you is the fact that your friend is sick, in the hospital, with the swine flu. Correct me if I'm wrong, but usually when people get upset about something, they tend to drag in all the little things to make it worse. I'll go over a few of the other things, but I'm going to start with your friend. Ok, I believe I went over this before with you. The swine flu is really nothing that you have to worry about. It really is just a slightly worse version of the flu, nothing more. The death rates are EXTREMELY low for this illness; it isn't anything to worry about. The media just likes to play on people's fears and they find ways to make the statistics seem worse than they are. Also, keep in mind that media never tells the whole story about something. They only use whatever they think will keep their ratings up. I guarantee you that your friend will be absolutely fine in no time. So don't let the media scare you like that, ok? :) ok, about you great-grandfather...... well if he's a great-grandfather, then he was obviously old. It was bound to happen sooner or later. these things happen. what you need to do is mourn a few times and move on. The pain will go away shortly. As for your big sister, I can see how this could be quite a shock to you. You probably look up to her and see her as a role model. Let me tell you from experience, Role models are never perfect. Now, I can't really say that I think it's ok for her to be smoking and all, but that is really her discussion. About the drinking part, that doesn't surprise me in the least. She is around that age where teenagers do that. If you disapprove of her decisions, then all you need to do is not make the same ones yourself. Also, keep in mind that if you badger her about the smoking thing, then she will likely not stop. The rest of what you wrote, I think are minor things that you dragged in. All I can say is, the pain from those things will vanish in time. Best of luck, ~Pezz
Well I could tell you to worry about this stuff and feel really sorry for you but you know what I get from this post. I get that you really want to worry about all of this stuff. Not worrying about stuff is not letting things go. It's just not killing yourself over something you can't control. Trust me on this, if you can't control it, don't stress over it.
Okay, TMMM, back off for a moment if you please. This person is having quite the bucket-load-o'-crap on them. The fact is that the swine flu has only had one official death in the whole of the United States. It's not likely that his life is in danger, so please worry about it a little less. Your sister..... you have every right to be worried, but why don't you go think of ways to help her get over this instead of being here? Your brother can't get back in by raising his grades? Animals and humans die, it's just a fact that everything we care about will be lost eventually. Keep the good memories and cherish them, it's the only thing that I know humans can definitely do. =) You're a good person, I think you'll be able to help out the people you care about.
No, TMMM is right. These are all pretty unnecessary to stress yourself out about. It's like worrying that the earth is going to crash into the sun, or the ice age will return or stuff like that. Really, a load is when you have people who thought that were your friends only till when you find out they were planning to embarrass you in front of the guy you like by telling everyone in the school that you're a lesbian. (it's not happening to me but to some poor girl out there...) anyway, no one can help you comfort yourself except you. If you want everything to be okay, then believe it will. If you can't control it then don't worry about it. Do what you can and when you've reached the limit of what you can do (that's constructive) then leave it. If the people that loved you found that you died from stress, how would they feel?
My grandmother and grandfather died in Febuary and I know how you feel. I am starting to feel deserted and alone sometimes.Like nobody cares nor wants to reach out except for a few close friends and my family.But even they sometimes give me a hard time. My advice to you is what my mom told me to do: Spend time with the people who you really care about and the ones who care about you,and try to think of how lucky you were to have them in your life,and how one day, you will see them again. EDIT:Regarding your sister,it's her body.I know this might be hard to hear and it's hard to say...but,she is in control in this one. I would try to advice her not to do it and tell your parents.
This summer, I get to spend a week with my true friends, the ones that I can talk to about anything. See, I moved recently and they're 800 miles away from me now. I know that I can always call them, but these are things I'd rather talk to them about face to face. I'd like to thank Famous, Zexion of the Twilight, and allisonlove90 for their help. ^^ You three have kicked the rational part of my brain back into gear.
lol TMMM, that was awesome. Swine Flu? You sure its not a regular flu? Well, whatever. People get sick and luckily doctors have the technology and medicine to get us through almost anything. Worrying about is unnecessary. Worrying won't do anything. Send 'em some flowers, a get well card and be on your way. S/he'll be fine. Then just have faith and know that he is ok and resting in peace. I can relate, because my mother passed away, but dwelling on it isn't the way to go. Just accept it and move on. Being sad all the time won't work. You do, but again, worrying can't do ****. You've asked her to stop, but (and I'm assuming here) she's grown and she can and has made her own decisions. I know you've seen those scary tobacco commercials, but most of it varies because each person is different and each person's body will react differently. Again, worrying won't do a thing. He has to work on college stuff. He has to think about his future. I mean, would you rather him being a dude who takes orders on the drive thru at Wendy's or a successful man with a college degree? You have to understand. College is important and if you don't hang out with him enough, adjust. If he's going to play basketball, go and watch or play 1 on 1. If he's going to go get some gas for his car, go with him. Its a dog. Don't worry. They'll probably replace him within a month. Think about the people who are in your life now and not those who've passed and are gone (especially if its a dog). Well, you have to let things go. Coming into a thread saying you've got a heavy burden and being reluctant to let things go? Come on. Just forget your "problems" and live your life. Holy ****, you're back.
Kay then. You need to stop, slow down and just breathe for a second. You may be overwhelmed with these tradgedies, but you have to stop worrying. Even though you werent very close to your great-grandfather and closer to your dogs, deal with his death first. You should've paid more attention to your family and gone and visited him even though he may have lived across the continent. It wasn't your fault he died, have sympathy for your family and get over it. Your brother & your sister shoiuld be next on the list. Help your brother improve his grades and sooner or later I'm sure you will find that he can come back to theatre. Once again, not your fault. Your sister is probably overwhelmed with problems of her own and that's why she has taken up drinking and smoking. Talk to her about it, and sometimes you can do nothing but listen to her. And sometimes that's just the best thing. One of your friend's is in hospital? Go and visit him. Make sure he is okay. If he has been diagnosed with Swine Flu and he's in the hospital and got there on time, if he's receiving treatment, he'll be okay :'D. Once again, it's not your fault, don't worry, all you can do is be there for him no matter what, if that is how much he means to you. Your best friend's dog died? Fine then, I know what it's like to loose a pet, but the pet wasn't yours! Even though you may have been closer to him than your great-grandfather, get over it. It takes some time yes I know that, it's not like your going to wake up in the morning and say "Oh, I don't care about that anymore". The only thing you an do is cherish the moments you had with that dog, and MOVE ON.
