Ok here's the thing, I want to be different. What I mean by different is change my image and be more outgoing. Problem is I dont have the slightest idea how to do so. I already brighten up my attitude (meaning Im less down and more cheered up then usual). I want to change my image like to a point to where people from a week ago wouldn't recognize me. I've never had a piercing or dyed my hair so thats a start right? Maybe try to get gauges. I also would like to be more like-able to people(9 out of 10 people are scared to talk to me just because Im always quiet minding my own business). I kinda would like to change my sense of cloths (I put on what ever I can find in my closet). Another thing is I want to stand out and be more playful. I might add more but this is what I can think of at the moment. EDIT: I wouldn't have to throw a freaking table at your head (inside joke Lol) to notice me thats how bad I want to change.
Just be yourself. Do what you like, and be someone happy, I know you are. I used to be like this, but now, I'm this cheerful boy who is always smiling. Don't forget to keep smiling! There is always a way. If you really want to change, then don't give up. Be yourself, be who you wanna be. Sometimes, cloths don't many any different. Some people will not recognize you if you change your attitude, changing your attitude you can know what best fits you. I understand what this is. Happened to me before. But I simply didn't give up and changed so much to be like who I am today. Just wanted to be who I wanted to be, and that happened. Just keep searching the right things to put, and you will start to know yourself better, maybe you're not this scary person you think you are. Hope you feel better, anything don't be afraid to VM/PM me, I'm always here. =)
I understand changing oneself, but your method I raise an eyebrow with. When I say, "I want to change myself", I also wish to do it in a way that is me. It still defines me for who I am and not what others want from me. If a piercing and a tattoo are what truly define you, then so be it. But don't change for others. Sure, being more outgoing and talkative is a great way for people to know and remember you, but i know it isn't easy. If it is hard for you, take it one step at a time. Start slow, or with a friend near by as guidance and support. I may be rambling and none of this may apply to you, but think about it none the less.
The best advice I've ever heard on changing is simply if you want to change, change. Changing for the sake of changing is not inherently bad, so long as you maintain a grasp on who you are--and who you are right now may not match your true self, if that makes sense. And that's okay, if that's the case. But I would advise getting to know yourself before taking drastic action--just experiment. Try something new. Pick up a new hobby, play a sport, talk to someone you've never spoken to before. If you discover something you never knew you loved, great! If you find something you're not passionate about, that's good too! Our dislikes define us just as much as our likes. The approach is different for the person, but think of the person you are outwardly, the person you are inwardly, and the person you would like to be, and attempt to bridge the gap. Take the best of each incarnation and be that person.
i don't think this change is going to come easily. what i found that helps attract people to others is a positive attitude. smile a lot, and when you're walking don't look down (a lot of people do this, i don't know why), train yourself not to do this. look forward and make eye contact with the people you pass by. it can be hard to have a positive attitude, but you just have to remind yourself to think positively from time to time because you will forget to. i'm not sure if this part is good advice but i would suggest not spending TOO much time fiddling on your phone when you're somewhere with people you would like to get closer to. i say this because i personally don't like talking to people who are doing something on their phone, because they look busy and i don't want to bother them. that might just be me though. i'm not sure that the hair dye and the piercing idea is a good one though. one more thing, this change probably won't happen quickly. it's really hard not to change back. i think it's better to take baby steps and work on issues one at a time. be VERY realistic about what you can change about yourself and the time you think it will take you. if you try changing too much at once and fail, you'll end becoming frustrated and most likely will revert to your old ways. also, if it's possible try looking for a role model or a mentor (it doesn't have to be someone older or in an authority figure by the way) that has the qualities you want. these people can help you go a long ways if you have someone's behavior you can observe and learn from and these people can inspire you to change so that you won't get frustrated with yourself. i hope this post helps, use what you can from it and just disregard the rest :)
I've been in that situation, I wanted to be popular and stuff, wanted to do it to get a girlfriend and all kinds of crazy things that I wanted to have fun in school. But I realized that if I were to change myself, I would most likely want to change myself again and that would affect the people around me, and eventually I would do it so much to where no one would ever know who I really am, and then I wouldn't even know myself! My advice to you is don't change yourself, not for anyone, if you want to change because YOU want to then do it, if you feel that you aren't making friends or your achieving nothing then try to find the source of that problem and correct it, but don't go into the trouble of changing yourself completely. Now I agree with EvilMan, don't pierce or dye your hair, it's personality that will get you ahead not your appearance, well actually your appearance may change a person's views on you but you wouldn't want that, trust me.
