I have a jelaous friend T.T

So yeah the title says it all.
I have a jelaous friend!
¬¬.
Well,shes my best friend
(weve been friends ever since 6th grade)
but when high school started she changed ALOT.
The thing is,she critizes my other friedns alot and says that they dont deserve me
and theyre not my real friends,and thats not true at all.
but heres the thing.
I have another best friend,shes really nice to me and weve been friends since 8th grade
and my OTHER friend doesnt like her at all.
shes always critizing her and gets mad everytime I hang out with her.
and now,2 days ago,she wrote in her personal message "Just replace me already!"
and I really dont know what to do. D:

(Btw.sorry if I posted this in the wrong forum)

 

Okay, I'm not really good with Relationships and such but I think you need to tell her that your friends care for here. Just tell me, do your friends like her?

 

well some of them say that she thinks shes the boss and some of them say that shes really hot tempered and its true.
I just dont want her to feel replaced.I want to tell her but I dont even know how to start
:(

 

Oi, your problem is one of the worst problems between you and a friend. :/
I had such an experience...it didn't end well. He felt like I was replacing him, and he got jealous...Eventually he got too annoyed and ended the friendship.
*sigh* But I guess it was partly my fault. I did kinda neglect him...

Like you said, your friend is just feeling replaced and jealous. You have to make her feel like she isn't though, explain it to her, talk to her.
But be careful, using the wrong words can hurt the friendship...And the last thing I want is to see you hurt No-no.

 

Thanks Forsaken-kun,Ill do so,and Im sorry about your friend and stuff *hugs*
Thanks ^^

 

People change a lot. Especially as you get older and your personality starts coming out. Now that you're in high-school you're becoming adults, and when you get in the stage then you start looking at people in a different way. When you were in elementary school, she probably wasn't worried about how many other friends you had, but now that you're in high-school, she's starting to notice and is probably questioning 'do you like me?' or 'am I weird?'. It's simple the life-cycle of humans.
Before I was taken out of public school, I had a friend at this Christian school. We could talk to each other, but then later on in the school year we had an arguement. After that there was a lot of animosity between us.
All I'm trying to say is that people never stay the same. From what you're saying, I can pretty much say that she might have a little jealous side and is a possesive person.

 

you have a point there.
she is very possesive
thanks for the help :3

 

Include both of them. Its hard because theyre not exactly BFFL but maybe they just dont know eachother?
Id pick the older friend since 6th grade. I think if you two have gotten along so well thus far then you should be good to go.

Ive had the same best friends since 1st grade. Im really lucky-theyre identical twins and then in 4th grade we picked up another best friend. Its hard because the twins and I go to a different school than kat, so we really gotta go outta our way to incorporate her. We <3 her and dont want her to feel left out :3 so i can kinda see where youre comming from, I know its hard ;__; good luck!

 

Thanks!<3
I mean,both of them are friends..but my best friend starts to critize her when shes not with us
and that pisses me off
¬¬

 

Oh boy...
The same thing happened to me.
There's only 7 or so girls in our grade, so there's slim picking anyway, but a few years ago, one girl that was my friend since 1st grade suddenly kept saying I hang out with losers and that I shouldn't be friends with them anymore if I wanted to be cool.

But you know what? Screw that.
I kept hanging with the people she called "losers", and they're the best friends I've ever had.
For me, being cool doesn't mean s***, as it won't matter in say...ten years.
Your employer won't look at your school record and say, "Whoa, this person was cool in 8th grade, they're definately gonna be hired."
No. They'll look at the people that have good grades and have a good school record. They honestly couldn't give a crap what you wore in gradeschool.
And you know what? That girl is now in the lowest math class, while my "loser" friends and I are in the highest.

So basically, sometimes if this person is giving you and your friends crap, you'll know if that person is a true friend or not. Don't listen to them.
As the saying goes, "A friend will be there to bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be in jail with you saying, 'We really f***ed up this time.'"
Anyway, if this continues, I'd suggest letting go of this person.
And I hope you know that I'm always here for you if you need to talk to someone. ^^

 

Gosh, that seriously sucks. I cant imagine my friends doing that, I even hate when they talk about people I dont like. Gossipy stuff bothers me.
Sorry! I wish I had some ideas...good luck:o

 

Thank you sdo much dp-oneechan
I was thiking about letting this friendship go...
but Ill talk to her about this situation...
thanks again ^^

-C_S_I_Girl-
thanks!

 

Hmn, what I would do, is I would try talking to her. If that doesn't work, nothing will.

I've never been in that kind of situation before, so it's hard to give advice...Sorry, No No!

 

Not a problem at all, No-No. ^^
I've been through lots, so you can always count on me to be someone to tell your problems to, no matter what.
And I hope this works out in your favor. I really do.

 

its okay!
:3
and I will Dp I will :3

 

I used to have this same problem...though I was the jealous one. What we did to fix it was just get everybody to hang out together...that way, we had inside jokes and the like. Now we're all best friends.

Course, I'm moving away from them in...three days.

But really, try and get them both to be friends. It'll help a ton!