My best friend died in a car crash two days ago. We have known each other for 15 years. My eyes hurt and I can't stop crying. I haven't been able to think straight and I think I might be depressed. I feel empty and sick all the time. My life seems so pointless now I just had to get this off my chest.
Wow man, I'm sorry for your loss. To put it short: It sucks. What I'd recommend (which is probably what everyone else will/would) is to find someone to talk to it about, I think a professional might be the best. Venting to someone who has experience in the field and who can help you overcome it, is probably the best way to go. Good luck, and once again, I'm sorry for your loss.
This. I remember when m grandfather passed away. I felt exactly what your feeling tight now. The best thing to do is to talk to someone about it. Your parents, or a professional. Bu never keep it inside yourself. That is the worst thing you could do. Hope this helps, and good luck. If you ever need got talk, don't be afraid to PM or something ok?
I lost my best friend at the age of 13 (a few days before our fourteenth birthday... so we'd known each other 14 or so years as a rounded estimate) I'd known her for my whole life, so I had grown up with her. ...and I was the one who found her. But I will not go into details here. ...Basically, as hard as it might be to believe... I completely understand what you are going through... it will hurt for a long time, but just don't be afraid to talk to people. The way you are reacting is normal for what has happened. I didn't want to talk to anyone myself when I was going through this, so I can't tell you to force yourself to do so. ...It will take time. :/ Just know that there are people who will and do want to be there for you. I am so terribly sorry for your loss, and my thoughts go out to you and your friend's family and friends. If you want to talk, feel free to drop me a PM. Sometimes it does help to talk to someone who has shared a similar or same pain. I'll be here if you wish for such a thing. Again, my deepest condolences.
Oh my god... I'm so sorry... What you really need to do is try to get involved in things like sports and try to get into the community take the place for your friend get double the friends. Your friend would have wanted you to be happy not depressed and sobbing and empty. I'm sure he or she is looking at you asking what you're doing being upset. He/She probably wants you on your feet and only remembering the good times you guys had together. Also if someone says to forget about them don't listen to them you HAVE to remember him/her. They were part of your life and you can't let go of something that is part of your life. Do everything productive in life that your friend wanted to do and keep him/her close in your heart but don't get upset! Always remember though. It's okay to cry never hold it in. If you ever really need someone to talk to you can talk to me or anyone willing to help on the website. You can even talk to your parents a sibling or even a close friend. You WILL pull through this it's hard right now but it will be okay.
I'm so sorry for your loss.But she will always be in your heart and once in a while.You might even see her in a dream.Again sorry for your loss
i know how it feels one of my friends died last year just when we got out from school it was summer and he a dirt bike ascdent with his older brother but his older brother survided and he didnt he wasnt my best frined though
The same thing happened to me ten years ago. I' m afraid it' s something only time will mend (as much as such things can be mended), lots of time. As people already said try to talk about it. I hope you have other good friends to rely on, you' ll need them to move on. Moving on is slow, tedious, it probably seems pointless to you right now since you realize now more than ever that nothing is eternal, but it' s the best thing to do. We recognize happiness at the deafening sound it makes when it leaves, use this as a lesson, every once in a while try to ponder on what or who around you makes you happy, and enjoy them to their fullest before they make that sound. I' m sorry for your loss. This also happened to me and it wasn' t exactly a pleasant experience. At some point you have to wake up and realize the horrible truth. Again. As long as his/her death hasn' t really sunk in those dreams will be painful.
Oh my God... I am sorry for your loss... I never lost someone so close to me as my bests friends, and this is also my greatest fear. Well, don't worry about crying, don't hold it. This would only make you get worse. Find someone to talk, talk and talk until you tell everything you wanted to say. I can't say "forget about that and overcome it", because this will be the worst thing to do; a best friend is someone you love so much, you can't just delete him from your mind and keep up living like he never existed. He did exist and does exist in your heart. Don't matter what happen, he's now watching over you. And I'm sure you can feel him inside of you, he doesn't want to see you crying, he is now watching you and want you to see that he is with you by your side wherever you go. There is some things that never fade away, the bond you have created with him is a example of those things. This bond, this connection you have with him will never be broke, don't matter what, this bond has everything to stay strong, like love and affection... many things. The proof lies in your times together, do you remember? Again, I am sorry for your loss... and if you ever want/need to talk with anyone, PM me and I will be most glad to talk.
I went through just about the same thing with the loss of my maternal grandfather last year. He made a point to be involved in both the lives of myself and my sister. He came to every single performance the school band put on. He came to both my 8th grade and High School graduation. Holidays. I get a little misty eyed that he's not going to be around anymore and I do still miss him but I look back and remember just how much time we spent together. You can do the same thing with your friend. I know the circumstances of her death were sudden but just think of all the great times you spent together. Grieving is a hard thing to do. [If you ever need to vent or talk to someone, drop me either a VM or a PM. Just to put that out there.]
Life goes on. It is sad that you lost, but you will not profit from grieving. It is harder to do it than say it, but you should either grieve hard for a little while and get over it or not grieve in the least. Find out what you want to do now. If you want to bring this person back from the dead, then devote your life to it. If you do not think it worth pursuing, then find something else that you want. Consider efficiency before everything. Mourning what has happened is inefficient. Instead, think about what you wish to do now that it has happened. It is more important to move forward in most efficient way than to be sad that your friend is gone.
First off, I'm terribly sorry for your loss. I know what it means to lose someone you cared deeply about, I really do. It's already been a while since you posted this thread, so I can't really say for sure how you're currently feeling. If you still don't feel any better about it, talk to someone; at the very least, do what I do - I write a lot, so that could help you if you feel like you don't wanna talk to anyone or that they won't understand/help you. Try not to dwell on the death too long, it's not very healthy. Death happens, and life goes on, it doesn't do the heart well to grieve for too long. I hope you feel better.
