I can't stop crying...

Discussion in 'Help with Life' started by Captain Hero, Feb 25, 2010.

  1. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    For a while, my dog hasn't been feeling too well. Just recently, he stopped eating. We took him to the vet today to get a blood test and he's been diagnosed with kidney failure. My dog and best friend of 10 years is going to die soon and there's not a damn thing I can do but cry. I've been coming home to this dogs love every day for 10 years. I really need some support guys. I've been crying for 30 minutes now. I don't know how long it'll be before I get better.
     
  2. Haiena.Koinu Traverse Town Homebody

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    That really sucks, I am so sorry =< I'm sure your dog feels that he could have been in no other loving home. After all with life comes death and it can be hard to handle, my grandpa died some time ago and I feel like a part of me is missing, but, time heals things. There's no need to cry, best thing to do is try and make the dog as happy as he can be before it's time...
     
  3. Korra my other car is a polar bear dog

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    Ah man, I'm so sorry...similar thing happened with me and my dog of 16 years.
    I'll be honest...there's really nothing you can do to help him.
    But there's a few things you can do to remember him.
    If you have pictures from all the years you've had him, find those; take a few now before he passes on, too. I did the same, and made a scrapbook of all the pictures from when my dog was a pup all the way up to her last few days. I still cry whenever I look at it, and it's been almost a year since she's been gone, but the good memories it brings back are worth it. You might even want to take a picture of him and your whole family, too.

    Find all his toys. I don't know if you'll do this, but my family buries our dogs with some of their toys. Keep a few to remember him by, maybe if you have one from when he was a pup and one from now.

    And it may sound a little cruel, but you might want to start looking at a new dog - it feels bad now, and it will feel worse once he's actually gone. I was so depressed after my 16 year old dog died (who lived with my dad) that my parents (mom and stepdad) decided to get a dog to live with us. So it might be worth looking into so that pain doesn't last as long as it did for me.

    I'm very sorry for you and your dog, in my lifetime I've lost three, and it's never easy. But just remember that he lived out his days with you, and from the sound of it, every one of those days were happy and loving. It will be hard moving on, I won't sugar coat things and say otherwise, it really will be. But dogs have a special sense; if you can, try to be as happy as you can around your dog. Make his final days, however many there may be, as good as the rest of his life.
    If you need to talk about this, feel free to message me. It's something I've dealt with in the past and can try to help with.
     
  4. Catch the Rain As the world falls down ♥

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    I'm sorry sweetheart, that really sucks, I remember when we had to put my dog to sleep it was sheer hell. There really isn't anything I can say to make it all better, but what I will say is don't spend the remainder of your time with your dog being down and depressed, make sure you enjoy every last moment.

    We got my dog when I was 2, so there was only one memory I had of the time before we got her, I still miss her now, I can promise you though that although it will be really hard at first, it does get easier as time passes.

    You'll find you can remember him and smile at the memories instead of just crying at the loss.

    I personally would advise against getting a new dog so soon, I know that in my case it would have felt like I was trying to replace the one we lost, so instead I would say focus on enjoying the remaining time you have with him. Though that is just personal opinion.

    I know we haven't been talking a great deal lately, but if you want to talk or whatever or just rant and get **** out of your system, you know I'll listen.

    I'm really sorry man.
     
  5. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    .....You can't be serious? I understand you're trying to help, but that was the worst attempt I could hear. Instead of being consoling, you're telling me to put my dog to sleep instead of asking how we're dealing with this. I'm sorry, but that's flat out rude and disrespectful.

    We're letting him go naturally in the house. He's refusing to eat or drink. He knows it's his time so we're just giving him all the love that we can.

    I know you meant well in what you said, but you need to consider what you're saying before you say it. That's where the phrase "think before you speak" comes from.

    .....You can't be serious? I understand you're trying to help, but that was the worst attempt I could hear. Instead of being consoling, you're telling me to put my dog to sleep instead of asking how we're dealing with this. I'm sorry, but that's flat out rude and disrespectful.

    We're letting him go naturally in the house. He's refusing to eat or drink. He knows it's his time so we're just giving him all the love that we can.

    I know you meant well in what you said, but you need to consider what you're saying before you say it. That's where the phrase "think before you speak" comes from.
     
  6. Johnny Bravo Chaser

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    that sucks, im sorry to hear that, same kind of thing happened to me and my doggie, but she came back around, anywayz, This is like a very random idea, but maybe try to play with the dog, get it tired so it will drink and eat, that sounded alot better in my head before I typed it out.

    Or you can pray about it, pray that your dog will eat and drink so it doesnt diee
     
  7. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    He has kidney failure. I'm sorry to be a ****** about this but kidney failure in dogs is TERMINAL. Both his kidneys are failing on him so his body isn't filtering anything. That's why he's not eating. If he eats, he just hacks it back up in vomit. We're just letting him rest until he goes.
     
  8. Korra my other car is a polar bear dog

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    And that probably is the best thing to do. I commend you for letting him die naturally, rather than putting him down.
    That is the unfortunate thing about pets; the most loyal and loving ones don't live as long as we'd like.
    But again, I'm sure your dog has had a long and happy life living with you, even up until his last day.
     
  9. Chevalier Crystal Princess

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    That's really something I don't wish on anyone because it's really painful. But, if you must go through it, then at least you have your dog at home, and can nurture and love him in his final moments.

    I think DPwolf is giving you the best advice. I really hope that pain diminishes over time. And about getting a new dog, it doesn't have to be right away, but you should really consider it. This being said, we know a new dog can never replace the one that will pass away but it can establish a new place and bring happiness.
     
  10. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    Yeah. My dad's taking it harder than anyone. Right now I'm in that state where I just can't feel anything. No tears. No sadness. Nothing. But, once he finally passes, it'll all come out at once, hopefully. But I'm at peace with this now. And so is he. We're just waiting and spending as much time around him as we can. That's all we can do.
     
  11. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    I just thought I would let you guys know that my dog passed away Monday night when I was at work.
     
  12. Styx That's me inside your head.

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    I'm sorry to hear about your loss.
     
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    I'm so sorry to hear about your poor dog... ;_;
     
  14. Captain Hero Hollow Bastion Committee

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    Thanks guys. It's nice to know I have people to be here for me.
     
  15. SoraUchiha Traverse Town Homebody

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    Im so sorry to hear about your dog-I really am.

    I hope for the best for you.