Okay, there's these few people who seem to do everything I do after I do it. I mean, I don't mind it if they try something I liked but I mean EVERYTHING! Like... I get into a certain artist.... they listen to them, learn everything about them... talk about them until I'm over them... after I buy the CD's I like a certain book... they read it... try to make discussions... It's dead... I play a game... they play it... won't shut up about it... dead What's sad is that people also literally steal my phone and iPod off me... which they know I dispise because I don't like people touching my stuff... then they kill everything I have on them... I mean come on.... I'm pretty much wasting money here. Even on msn... I've changed my avi and styles one million times because of it. It's even happening on my favourite websites... I've completely changed my style of music because of it. It's not that I don't like talking about these things... I mean... the book series was because someone told me about them... but only talking about it over and over again... makes me attempt to pull my hair out.... thank god my hair is healthy. I just want to be me... I like being me.. but I hate changing me... I can't really ask them to stop, I mean I've tried... it doesn't work, and my new found random anger explodes just make them want to talk to me more.
Yeah, but with books, I read them at school sometimes because it's distracting at home... but music I can probably shut up about... to certain people... I'm really into a band, okay I love them... but it wasn't until I let my friend watch a vid on my iPod that I discovered she was more obsessed than me, if I we're to tell the Life Stealers then my love will die, I will become emo and the fact that I'm getting the CD soon will break my heart.
To be unique, is to be your own person. And as humans we are all unique, one way or another. I actually like being unique. You don't have to change the way you are to stop someone else. I understand that it gets annoying for you, (I have a younger sister who copies me all the time so I'd know how you feel). Like Kites said, just try to be a little more exclusive and keep to yourself when it comes to these things. It could be because they idolise you or depend on you as their source for music/books & whatever else it is they copy from you. I'd keep confronting them about it (in a nice way) and asking them to stop or just build confidence in themselves so they can find their own path to life.
but she doesn't like ruin it for me... in fact she's more of a person who can make anything boring in her life extremely entertaining.. like science class or something plus she's like 2 years younger than me.. so she's still going through the teen obssesed thing... so I don't mind really that she likes them more than me haha idolise C: so I basically got to learn to keep my mouth shut.... damn that's gonna be hard
That would explain why she keeps obssessing over the same interests as you. It's good that you don't let that get to you too much, especially since she's younger. Duck Tape? >:3
but she isn't life stealer... other than the love of the band and the fact we both like Fairly odd parents... we don't have much in common... but she's very entertaining and optimistic and I love her for that
I didn't mean to say she was a life stealer. So your other friends are the ones your calling life stealers? I'm a little confused now.
sorry I mean there are people who if i say one thing (either book title, song etc) they will start to like it then ramble on and on and on and it drives me nuts. that girl wasn't one of them, we just liked a band I mean, she saw my iPod and said "I LOVE YOU, YOU HAVE (insert awesome band here)'S SONGS " so she knew about them and loved them before I mentioned them
I would recommend cutting connections with these people as much as possible, block them from MSN, don't talk to them if possible and if you do, make sure it's nothing about you or anything you find interesting. Make sure your the oppsite of personal with them. Try to do things more in private and eventually they will likely get bored of doing nothing, because your doing nothing, and either find their own interests or leech onto someone else. This is just advice and you don't have to take it.
Just make sure that you are 100% correct about it, and that you don't overreact... Besides maybe you should talk things over with such people, I've done it many times and it works. And really, don't act so superior towards someone just because they want to approach you. If you really liked somebody it would only be natural to learn things about him/her. So my suggestion on this is to talk things over...
My advice to you is not to worry about it. Who cares what others do and how they act. It's probably just a faze they are going through. Just continue to be who you are and move on. That's all you can do. You can't change people no matter what. Don't change anything about yourself unless you want to change.
I've actually tried this... didn't work one bit, I'm still trying this method as it's easier than talking to them I am leaving school this year... though I wonder if I can survive for another three months.
I don't think you should change yourself for anyone. The people who are copying your personality and your likes and dislikes will eventually find themselves.But since you are closer to finding who you are as a person,I honestly don't think you should change yourself.Getting tired of certain things is normal,and changing is normal.Everyone goes through it. Hell,last year I was posting here about how much I love Twilight and Robert Pattinson,now I can't stand either. And it's not because someone told me or influenced me not to like them,it's because I grew up. And I think that's what you're going through.Just don't let anyone influence you to dislike something,but then they are becoming yourself,and I think the only person who should be in charge of what you like is you. If it bothers you that much,disconnect yourself from the person for awhile,or tell them that they need to gain some originality in a nice way,that they should have their own interests as well. Sure,they can like a book that you've read and enjoyed,but they shouldn't try to copy you to the point that you are noticing it. Maybe they also need time to find out what they like to do.
