How do you deal with it?

I am glad that they have showed their true colors to me. I listen to the **** they have to say and I move on, glad that it wasn't as bad as could be.Have a nice life. My mentality is that if you don't like me or have a problem, leave me alone.

I personally am never suprised.I am not open to losing friends, and I usually can mend a relationship but sometimes I have to let people out of my life because they are toxic.I have never went emo over a lost friend.I don't think I ever will because if they were wrong it gives me no reason to.

I call people like that undercover.If they weren't your friend at the start then they never will be.

 

I don't forgive and forget.For one thing,I've always became 'friends' with people that would end up hurting me.I'm never the first person to go up to a person and say. "Oh I'm sorry with whatever I did." No,I don't do that.I either wait and see if they say something or move on with new people.​

 

Quite frankly, you should always forgive your closet friend or family member. Even if they've did you any harm. Personally, I couldn't go for revenge because in the end you will be hurting yourself.

Even if they lied to you, do you think that done it on purpose or to protect you from something. It's good to forgive, but not to forget. You didn't go through all of that just to forget. Remember that situation and use it at your advantage. So the next time it happens you can explain why it was done.

 

I usually forgive and forget
If they did stuff like that why bother hanging out with them again when there's a chance they might do something like that again the future?

 

I don't forget about it, but I don't get revenge either. You just.....learn to live with it, I guess. I haven't ever really replaced them......I still remember them, and wonder what would have happened if they weren't that way. But don't try to get revenge. That will ruin your personality, and you will regret it.

 

Well, I've almost, several times really, been stabbed in the back, but I'm just going to go and say it was their fault, but here's the thing, it was zed mine to begin with. And I for one, am not surprised. Always does happen to be mine, but it usually points back to the other. What happens after, well, forgive and forget, that's all it really is. Nothing more I can say on this subject really.

 

I lost count the number of times i've been betrayed by friends. I've not always been the popular, or most attractive kid during middle, and high school, but i never let it effect me. I try not to let it show when i've been hurt, but those who really really know me, even online, know when i'm hurt.

I take everything personal, always have.

I really don't want to get all pyschological right now, so i'll just say that I take everything personal and react dependant on the situation.

 

hmph..
they always turn their back on me.....
i hate them..
that's why i don't want to trust anybody..

 

I remember having a situation like that years ago. At that time, me and my only two friend were bullied a lot in school, mainly verbally, and me especially, being the most fragile and weak of us, could've really used some support from them. Instead, they sorta ganged up in me, and put me down, started treating me like crap, made me feel like they couldn't care less about me, made me think I was some weak, pathetic excuse of a girl, and generally made me even more miserable.

And still, despite all that, I tried my best to cling on to them, because I was so scared of being alone back then. This in turn, made me feel like they thought of me as a follower. I always stayed practically on their heels. I was always the one who was last, whether it came to sports, grades, or just deciding what we were gonna do. I felt stupid and weak around them.

I didn't get over this, until we went to middle-school. The 'leader-figure' of us went to a different class, leaving me and whom I had considered my former best friend in a entirely new situation. I made new friends with her, and for once, I was equal with them. I still stayed in contact with the other friend, since we had a few classes together, and I got surprisingly close with her during the last year of middle-school, despite feeling some anger towards especially her.

Now, me and my family moved away from the area I grew up in. I'm still occasionally in contact with my older friends, but I still feel some bitterness, and regret for not being strong enough for standing up against them. No, I never really forgave them, but I tried to forget all the sh*t they made me go through. I guess I forgot enough to still stay as their friend.