Just yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me. I really don't know what happened, we have been dating for 6 months now and all of a sudden this brake up. I mean yesterday while we were talking she said ''can we be friends?'', that's how it started. The thing is now that we are broken up, well i still love her and can't get over her. Not to mention i don't even know why we broke up. So i just wanted to know, how can i forget about her. I've tried but everywhere i go she is there, msn, facebook, even today. When i went to the store she was there and we walked right past each other, nothing was said. I really don't know what to do.
First things first. You do deserve an explination as to why she broke up with you. Sometimes you won't get an explination you might get "If you loved me you would know" or "Well I just like you as a friend". Don't be mean when talking to her, and know when to give up. Some girls are won't break up with you nicley, and there is nothing you can do about it. The last thing you want to do is argue with her. After that give up on her or else you will look like a stalker; unless of course she wants to get back with you. Then go find new girls to date, or whatever gender you are into. Whatever you do don't give up on love. Keep on going. FYI: This belongs in the help with life section.
First thing's first find out why. Second: You can never forget them because there are usually more happy moments than terrible ones. What you want is closure and the ability to get used to your own company. That said you need to produce some space between yourselves. First block and remove her from all your chat programs facebook, etc. But don't make this permanent because if she still wants to be friends completely shutting her out is a dick move. After she's been been removed, try to avoid a few of the places that you know she'll be unless you absolutely have to go there. Going to places associated with the relationship just make you wallow in sadness even more. With that in mind see if you can find some new places to go to that are engaging and fun. Hang out with other friends, preferably those that aren't close to her. With time you'll be fine.
^ Pretty much this ^ Definatly, girls can have REALLY biitchy breakups, thinking that they're in the right and the boy is wrong. But first, just casually ask her why. If she gives you an odd answer like "You should know" or "If you loved me, you'll know why" then don't get frustrated. Just think it over slightly then move on. Second, try not to wallow in sadness. Like pets, relationships can die, teaching you a small lesson in where not to cock-up and such. You must think of the happy times with her! Third: Try to move on. Don't talk to her so much to increase your sadness and find a new person, girl OR boy. Hanging with your friends and staying level-headed about it will make you feel better, you may even stay friends with your ex too.
Hm, i guess i can try those suggestions, thank you everyone. I actually feel a little better, weird lol. It's just that, arghh i still love her :( , not to mention i didn't even get a reason as to why we were breaking up. Also like i said she is everywhere i go, it's like i go on facebook and there she is, of course i want to talk to her but, i know it probably won't make a difference :(
I'm going through the same things right now and really, talk to her. I'm gonna do that too with my girl, talk to her about it, ask her why? You have to have an answer to that question in order to move on. This you have to promise me 'cause otherwise you can literally make yourself crazy thinking what went wrong. If you get an answer, then that's the reason and won't have to think about it again. I know what you're going through but we'll get through this!
OK i will besides, i know i actually didn't do anything wrong, which is another thing that is just eating at me. Thanks, and yeah i guess we will :)
Ok here I go... 1. Delete EVERYTHING that reminds you of her (includes presents, pictures, phone number, etc etc.) 2. Defriend her on Facebook, Myspace, etc. 3. Get a hobby to keep yourself from thinking about anything besides the hobby 4. Do NOT daydream about her Hope this helps get her out of her head. ^^ And I hope I didn't sound too forceful. ^^;
I wouldnt do what Shadox D. suggested, I wouldnt do any of that. First, figure out why, It could be a mis-understanding that if you fixed you could be back together with her. Second, if it isnt that and there is a reason, do something to get your mind off her, Hang with friends, learn to play an instrument, get a new hoobby, something along those lines. Third, look for someone new when your ready, if you would like to jump right into that to get your mind off her, it might help, but if not, wait until your ready to. Something that might help take the pain away is still hang with her, be friends, still do stuff with her but I wouldnt just completely avoid her.
''First'', hmm never thought of that. ''Second'', i know, been trying that but, it hasn't been working out lol :( ''Third'', no way!!! lol i dunno about that lol.
OK, I'M DONE FORGET ABOUT LEA, ARGHH. Ok, well i decided to talk to her and she if maybe we could work things out or something and she told me.......she was just leading me on, the entire time, i mean six months c'mon that's a little long to be leading someone on. Arghh i'm so f'ing mad right now. Ahh whatever, no amount of advice could help me now so whatever. Ok ****, please excuess my language, this is killing me. I was talking to her earlier today, and she was saying how she still loves me, but she is afraid of love. I tried to show/tell her there is nothing to be afraid of and well, we are going out again. This has been the most confusing day ever, i need a drink. off topic, yes a ****ing drink lol, a nice beer or alcohol will do, even tho i'm only 15.
Just calm down, if you want a relationship then go for it but if she is saying stuff like she's afraid to love it's an indication that she has commitment issue's. She's afriad to love because she's afriad of restriction or boundries.
Try to move on. Find out why she broke up with you and then go from there. You'll find another girl one day and forget all about the other girl. My brother and friend had the same thing. Brother - break up and crying and not eating for a week. friend - seeing her everywhere. I got stuck trying to help them with their break ups. I finally got them to just be friends with their ex-gfs and everything was fine after that. Hope everything works out for you. <3
