Hmmmm

No, I don't. You should be happy for your friend's success, not jealous and bitter. It makes your friend feel really lousy when they should feel proud of whatever they've accomplished, and that's not fair. I don't know how many "friends" I've had who have been horrible to me because they realized I could do something better than they could.

Personally, I'm impressed with people who are good at something, like I have one friend who was doing calculus when he was 10. I was never jealous of him, just very impressed and if anything it motivated me to work harder on my math. Another friend of mine can run a five minute mile, and when I heard I congratulated her on her accomplishment, because I knew it was something she'd been working towards for a while.

Your friend should also feel safe coming to you and saying that they accomplished something without being torn down. If they don't, then you're not a very good friend. For instance, I received an 1190 out of 1600 on the SAT when I was 12 (that was quite a while back, I think the standard score now is 2400) but there was only one friend that I could tell that about and celebrate with. If I'd told any other "friend", they would've gotten angry and been vicious to me.

Try putting yourself in your friend's shoes. If you just did something great, possibly better than one of your friends, how would you feel if you told a friend and they were nasty about it? Or even if they didn't make it that obvious, but you could tell they were bothered by it? Would you feel as good as you should about whatever you did?

I'm not saying that you're a horrible person if you're ever jealous of somebody, or that you shouldn't wish you had whatever they had or could do what they can. Everyone, including myself, gets jealous sometimes. And there is a difference between wishing you could do what your friend can, and being jealous. It's especially hard not to do if the person keeps bringing it up and rubs whatever they did in your face. Just don't make a habit of being jealous, that's all.

 

It's not saying that he is horrible to his friend whenever they succeed at something, just something inside of him dies.

Are you being sarcastic? I couldn't tell, honestly. I mean, are you saying that you don't have any friends who do that, or you have a lot of friends who DO do that? I'm pretty clueless when it comes to situations like this :\
I didn't read the rest of your post, I'm too lazy today, so sorry if I misinterpreted any of it wrong when it was obvious to understand.​

 

That does make a little more sense. But I still think that if his friend succeeds at something, he should focus more on being happy for them than on whatever of him "died", simply for the friend's sake because generally people can tell when you feel like that even if you try to hide it. But yes, I see what you are saying.

It's alright :) I meant that I have a lot. friends who do that. As in, almost all of them. I can think of exactly four who don't. The reasons I put quotation marks around "friends" is because most of them have turned on me more than once, and that's not what friends do to each other.

 

my friends are happy for me when i succeed so i figure i should return the favor. besides, i have plenty of successes, enough not to get jealous of theirs, and vice versa.

 

No I don't really agree with this statement, who would feel bad that they're friend succeeds, you'd have to be a bad friend​

 

maybe. we can never be sure but i know that when it is something major dont let your guard down

 

It doesn't make you a bad friend, it makes you human. What would make you a bad friend would be if you let the feelings of jealously become a factor in your friendship. It happens to everyone, it is subconscious and we feel it without meaning to. All you have to do is admit it to yourself and then ignore the feeling.

 

I mostly disagree with the quote. If you're friends with someone you should be happy when they succeed at something. However, I'm not saying this has to happen. It's human nature to be a little envious when your friend succeeds at something that you don't. It happens, but it shouldn't be something that would ruin a friendship.​

 

if the person is really your friend and someone you care about then their success will make you happy as well

 

You don't have to be bitter to your friend to be a bit jealous. Actually, I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I feel that no matter how much someone were to say, "You should be happy for your friend," everyone feels a bit jealous when their friend does better than them. You don't have to act on it; most of the time you probably don't(or you could make a joke of it), because they're still you're friend, and you can be envious of your friend and happy for them at the same time. It's not like "Omg, you beat me, I hate you!"

 

It's hard to say. Maybe. I think that if it was a close friend and they did something that I always wanted to do, then maybe the jealousy would kill a little part of me. But at the same time, I'd be happy for them.

 

Maybe if they are not truly your friends... Real friends would love to see each other suceed in life and wouldnt care if one surpassed the other you know?

 

i agree a little bit.

 

I believe that if you are truely someone's friend, you should be happy to see them succeed in life. Same thing goes if the situation was switched, I would want my friend to feel happy for me and not be jealous if I did well with something. So no, I don't agree with this quote, not to say that some people do feel that way.