Hidden emotions.

This is just a little something that came to mind during the random times in which I talk to myself.

Is it possible that a lot of your own feelings are hidden from you? I know you can hide them from others, but can they be hidden from you, and not reveal themselves until the need arises? It seems kinda weird, as we usually think that we know how we feel about someone or something.

Think about this scenario: You and your parents are walking down the street, minding your own business. You've had a few, for lack of a better word, "arguments" with your parents over the years, and there's somewhat of an emotional gap between you and them, possibly even going as far as to say you hate them.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, a car comes speeding down the road, right at your parents. And then, despite your supposed hatred towards them, you instantly push them out of the way without giving a second thought and take the hit, risking your life.

In this situation, you think that you hate your parents until their lives are at risk, and you find out that you actually love them and react to save them.

Thoughts, KHV?

 

I agree, no matter what you think you feel, there's always some part of you that only surfaces in the case it is needed. This story about the person and their parents is an excellent example.

 

I agree, it was kind of a bad example. It was just the first that came to my mind.

And, I guess you're right. It could just not be genuine hatred and could just be teenage angst...

OK, here's a kinda sort of possibly not really better example.

Say you're a guy who's friends constantly say that he really loves a girl. He denies it adamantly, not only to his friends, but to himself. Deep down, he really cares for her, but he doesn't even consider the thought. Not even a little bit.

And, one day, he finds out that she's moving away (let's say across the country) tomorrow. He catches up with her, confesses that he loves her, blah blah blah.

All these examples sound a lot better in my head than when I actually post them. :/

 

Not really hidden, but I have a lot that's very similar. I've taken way too long to accept certain feelings. I mean, it took me two years to come to terms with being in love and even longer to tell her. It's sort of the same thing as a homosexual coming out of the closet, which is sort of like hidden emotion. The only difference that you're aware of it and are hiding it from yourself.

Only other thing I can think of is that I've recently shown many feminine personality traits, including having a strong fixation on romance over other things, but doesn't really have much to do with emotions, does it?

 

I know they exist.... I myself have noticed them... Me and my mother aren't attached but I every day am fine with it and I live with my dad and we ignore each other. I'd go into detail but I'd rather not bore you with the story. She just down right is Female dog that rhymes with witch. She kicked me and my sis out of the house to "live her life." that should be enough.

Up until maybe 2 months ago it never got to me I was like w/e I'm living my life happily :D and then one random day I just thought and realized stuff and just broke down one day. It was terrible especially since it was in school and because no one has ever seen me cry because i'm the tough girl that hates crying so it was really embarrassing and it was terrible... :[ so yeah. It really is possible and true...

 

I believe it's possible to hide your own emotions from yourself. I'm thinking more about your subconscious and stuff. Sometimes I believe we do it to protect ourselves, other times it's reflex.

I don't know...Um...For a really awful and brutal example, let's say when you're young you witness something really traumatic like a murder, or something, and go into some sort of shock. In order to help you move on with your life and function, the memory might be locked away in your subconsious somewhere and while you're growing up, you can't remember anything from (insert age here) and back, because your mind is hiding your own memories from you. Doesn't mean they're not there, just means it's blocked out.

Scientifically speaking, that's entirely possible so I don't see why doing the same with your emotions wouldn't be. The mind is an amazing thing.~ That's why people have to go on self-discovery journeys and stuff sometimes, I suppose. To rediscover things about yourself, and find what's the truth. I believe that everyone masks their emotions at one point or another, and you can entirely convince yourself that the 'mask' is reality. You lose yourself.

Then one day, hopefully, something happens to crack that mask and you realize you cared all along, or that ____ isn't reality, ___ is.

...It's hard to explain for me, lol.​

 

I can see what Jayn is saying, and I agree with it. Sometimes, emotions can be blocked out by the mind over time. And sometimes, they can even be fostered under the surface of our knowledge, in the subconscious, and only be called out by something that happens either consciously or subconsciously. Fear is probably the most likely of culprits as a "hidden" emotion. We repress memories of things that frightened us (sometimes at a greater, other times a lesser, extent), and we fall to an unawareness of our own fears. Those fears only surface again when we're pushed into a situation in which we need to face those fears in some way.

 

Emotions are feelings. Feelings are fleeting. What you feel now will not last. Do not worry, if you feel hatred for those you love, when the time comes your true emotions attached to someone or something come to the surface.

Emotions are not hidden, they are always there, howeverno no one ever looks for them

 

^ This.

Thing is, a lot of people don't want to admit to emotions they are feeling. They are not hidden though, you're just telling yourself that you aren't feeling a certain way, while in reality, deep down, you are. But, as I said, they are not hidden, only pushed away (temporarily, they will float back)

 

This is how I feel about it, but a bit differently. You may hate someone now, but a few things change when a situation changes.

You hate having your parents close to you and doing certain things. You hate things about your parents. You also do not love the girl as she is. These equate to wants. Let me explain.

In the first example, you want your parents to change and be better for you. This does not mean that you want them gone.

In the second example, you want to stay where you are with the girl more than you want to be with her. This does not mean that you will be okay if she leaves.

In both instances, a change occurs that did not line up with your wants. This forced you to act to protect what you wanted the whole time. Hating your parents is a simplified way of saying that you want them to be nice to or understand you. Not loving a girl is a simplified way of saying that you do not want to get closer to her.

Not wanting either your parents or the girl to leave ties into both of these wants. While you appear to want nothing from the girl, what you actually wanted was for things to stay the same until she approached you. When she was going to move, your want for 'nothing' was slipping away, and you had to act to avoid something that you hated.

With your parents, you want them to love and understand you as you are. When they are dying, your wants are slipping away, and you will rebel against them.

Naming what you want correctly is more important than saying that you hate or do not love something. Find out what it is that you want and you will know what those 'hidden emotions' are quite easily.

In a way, but I still think that they are avoiding the question of what they want and instead stating how much they like something in the state that it is in rather than pushing them away.

I am surprised that no one has brought up the "you don't know what you have until it is gone" argument. Isn't that what this thread is asking? If that statement is true or not? Either way, I do not think so. People do not always clearly define their wants, but they are there. Defining them badly does not change their underlying meaning.