*I never thought I would have to post here, but I guess things change **The following post will contain three of my problems, which all relate to each other in the end. Okay, there's this girl at school (Yes, this is another crush help thread). She's incredibly pretty, and seems to have an awesome personality. Her locker is right near mine, and we usually sit next to each other on the bus. Now I bet you're saying, "what's the problem?". And do... My problems with her: 1. I just literally realized she exists only a week ago 2. I am extremely nervous when it comes to trying to talk with her 3. I'm a Sophomore, and she's a Senior. She's far too out of my league. 4. I also like another girl who is in the same grade, who I shall refer to as Dani. And here's my description of them both; Dani: Has been friends with me since the 8th Grade. She's got soft brown eyes, and this giant ass hair puff which, when taken apart, reveals her amazing hair. We were enemies during those times, eventually growing to hate each other by the start of ninth grade. However, through the revival of myself, I apologized, the hatred turning into mutual friendship. Eventually, by March I believe, I had developed a crush on Dani, which had blossomed greatly over the summer, but not to the point of where I consider it to be love. Anyhow, Dani is unlike any other girl I've met, as she doesn't believe in that preppy crap that's been plaguing society lately. She also isn't a stoner/*****/selfish/egocentric/stupid person, which makes her completely unique. She also doesn't wear makeup, which I think natural looks > makeup and that facial crap that those "fashion" people are so into. Dani is mostly interested in being herself, and doesn't care about what people have to say or think about it. Though, I do dislike her taste in screamo-rock music and mayonnaise, but that's perfectly tolerable. We talk a lot during the school day, more increasingly in this year than others. The last time we've ever talked about our "relationship" was in May, and the matter hasn't been touched since. While I would like to talk to her, I don't want to burden her with my issues and stuff. Even if I may be suffering on the inside, her smile replaces the pain with joy. The Mysterious Girl: I know absolutely nothing about her. She's a senior and is likely to graduate this year, and I don't even know her name. All I know is that she listens to music a lot, and has a locker in the Creative Writing hallway (I saw her at her locker earlier today). I have no idea how I've come to be infatuated with her, but all I know is that I am, and am extremely curious on getting to know more about her. I'm sure she doesn't feel at all the same way, we're complete strangers to each other, but there's this one instance in which she literally ran over to the seat next to mine, even the there were only FOUR people on the entire bus ride. She has fierce blue eyes, and dark brown hair. We've held eye contact about five times, all of which I had to turn my head away from her amazing looks. She also constantly listens to her iPod on the bus, even if there's something hilarious going on. Most of this is caused by my severe introversion, which I don't even know why I cannot defeat. I do have plenty of friends, but I recently noticed I'm not as close to them as I should be. I don't want to change myself in order to please people, but I feel as though I'm an outsider looking in on their fun in life. Can someone please give me advice?
Oh wow, this is like a reflection on what happened to me the other day. ^^ Well I'm not usually good with love/crush advice, but I might have somthing for you. You like them both... And I see you list the pros and cons. It seems like you like Dani more simply because you know her. If you think the senior mysterious girl is out of your league, maybe you shouldn't go for her. But if you feel strongly about it, just start out by saying hi. But then again, hooking up with a senior wouldn't be such a smart plan, since they'll be gone in the next year. That'll lead to heart aches and loneliness... Best I can help you with buddy. ^^; Good luck
Personally I agree with Friendly Heartless, it sounds like you have a crush on Dani for good reasons. Not so much the senior girl, it's probably just the fact that you don't know anything about her that's making you interested in her. But it still may be a good idea to get to know her just in case, you never know what you'll find out. I understan what you mean by her being out of your league, but that's pretty much something that only the preppy kind of people that it sounds like you hate think of anyway worry about. But yeah, I'd say Dani but it's obviously up to you to figure out which is better.
go with Dani. I don't think you should date a senior while your a sophomore. It's just not a good idea
You could at least try to get to know Mystery girl better? Dani sounds like a good choice, but you can't really hold them on the same level if you barely know one.
I find your problem easy and so is the solution: 1. thought you may not want to admit it she is a tad out of your leage I say go with the younger girl (but only if you feel strongly of her) 2. corny as it is be yourself she may even like you back 3. If you have to aproch this other girl and ask her feelings of you, age diffrence is only a number andyou may still have a chance Hope this helps.....
go with Dani. You've known her for much longer, and paid more attention to her, as she as too. You're more likely to have a good chance with her :)
Dani sounds awesome. I could definitely get along with her. Heavy Metal/Rock ftw. You two have history which is really important. Also, because you have gotten over the conflict that both of you shared in the past, that shows that you are able to work things out. That's good material for a relationship right there. Now, by the way you described her, it shows you like who she is as a person. That is outstanding. It also makes me think that she's worth pursuing. Feelings like this don't come about very often. ^ You're such a romantic : ) I never realized. As for mystery girl, just talk to her. It's as simple as asking what she's listening to. If you've held her gaze before, then I doubt she would just blow you off. Who knows; you could become close. Worst case scenario, neither girls are interested. You have nothing to lose. ----I think it is perfectly fine to be a little closed off from the world. It just isn't okay if you've built a wall. Let your guard down, Plums. People may surprise you.
Really, thanks for the advice everyone. You have no idea how much it's helped me. I feel much better about the situation now, however... Sorry for the bump, I thought I should update the situation. So, during my school's Hispanic Heritage Concert, I asked Dani to talk (I would've done it then and there if it wasn't for the teacher running the concert, for she's incredibly like "I'm right, you're wrong, so stfu") Anyway, I couldn't find her, but I found the Mysterious Girl, who even though she was right there, I completely disregarded to search for Dani, which helped me to realize that I'm far more interested in Dani, who I saw after school. We began to talk about it, but then she had to catch her ride. So we're going to finish talking tomorrow in the morning. Any ideas on how I can not look like an idiot while unfolding this "web of feelings" to Dani? EDIT: We talked over AIM. The situation remains at friendship.
