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Actually.. A 'firm hand' as put is considered the best way to help someone...

 

Thank you again shadowjak, My parents always taught me with both sympathy and tough love and this brat needs both.It's like Yin&Yang

 

Yes, well, he doesn't need much of the negitive much right now. His self-esteem is very low.

 

Looking at it through your perspective, yeah, that's true. I don't know....some people need a wake up siren, while others need a soft approach. Either way, darkelven? Don't do bad to get relief....it's not good. Do something good to get relief.

 

I agree that being too soft can be bad thing and that sometimes you need to be tougher. However please do not refer to my friend as a brat. ​

 

Yeah...and when I talk to him calmly...he tends to open up a little.

 

I just hope he doesn't do anything he'll regret.........

 

Tough love?! Tell me when it helps to be tough on someone when they are cutting themselves and saying they wants to shot themselves!

Darkelven, I just want to say, 'S**t Happens'. I don't know the pain you going through, but I was like you, hurting myself so the pain was easier, but I realized it didn't help, after a while it just made things worse, I felt lonely, like no-one loved me, but damn it, I tried, I tried to find another way, and damn I did, I found my way, believe me, no pain lasts forever, no matter how much it hurts, I had my friends, they gave me confidence to go back into the world, and now I never look back, its like a bad dream, but the bad dreams go away aswell, don't give up on yourself,no one here would wish to see you gone, damn it, I am your friend, I won't give up on you, so you better not give up on me!
I found another way to help the pain, a punching bag I had I focused all my anger in hitting it it all went away, try it, please, don't you cut yourself any more! PLEASE!