Help with Life

xJayn, if he keeps harassing you, another option is the police. If he keeps hacking away so he can continue to bother you even after you've told him to leave you alone, you could probably get some help from the police if you're willing to go that far.

And thanks...my parents haven't actually grounded me yet, and despite what I say to them, they still kinda regard me coldly. I know they want me to do well, but there's only so much I can do.
Ah hell, I'll deal with that burning bridge when I come to it.

 

Well, I hope they don't ground you since it's summer and all but what you might want to do to get back in their favor is try to go to the library or read up on some subjects that you might be taking next year to show you care about your grades and tell them you are disappointed in the grades and will do better. If you don't mention the grounding part they may let go of the concept if they are pondering it then. They just need to see you are applying yourself as they seem to regard education grades as very important. I wish you luck.

You should be able to block him from any email or MSN unless for some reason you gave out your password to him for these things. You may want to go ahead and change your password to your email and MSN accounts and that may help you.

As for what to do, if he's on MSN, you have to think that you aren't even facing him 'personally' so get up the nerve and tell him to just leave you alone. He even trips and says to block him throughout the conversation you two had so if he talks to you again, just tell him he's on 'ignore' and that you are moving on with your life. Tell him you didn't play games and that things just didn't work out and that talking about it isn't going to change things and say goodbye. Make it -real- and you don't have to be mean but just then if he messages you, ignore the messages. If he calls you, look at the caller ID on your phone before picking it up. If he emails you, block the address and automatically delete the emails. Keep the fight up to ignore him and if he continues, do your parents know about this person? If so, you may want to tell them this guy is -very- persistent and will not leave you alone and sometimes a parent has no qualms about telling some stalkerish boy to back off. Dads are especially effective as this but a mom who can be strict is also enough to get it through to them by saying 'if you don't stop, I will be calling the cops'. Your parents may be upset at you but they'd pretty much say what others have and to just 'ignore' him and never respond to him regardless of what he says and/or they may just call the cops if he's getting that weird on you any way.

The biggest thing here is to not entertain a person like this. He's saying 'ignore me' and 'block me' etc. Then he insults you and whines and moans as you two talk. You are basically making yourself a victim by talking to him at all anymore and where I cut off the convo above is exactly where you should have told him "we aren't ever getting back together, you need to move on. Peace be with you. I won't be guilted and neither should you be. Let's just move on. I won't be talking to you anymore or responding so don't message me. Goodbye". Something to that effect. He's clingy and being this way because he's not used to rejection but really it is a fact of life he's going to have to face. Better he learns it when young.

KHManiac101

What you are doing is normal as Marluxia said. Teenagers question many things and it is good you do. If you don't come up with answers, that is fine too. A lot of people are compelled to have to find the answer right away and fill something with anything to get by and you don't have to do that. You can have the right and ability to just say 'at this moment I do not know' and keep searching. It helps keep your mind open. Explore things and try to not be hard on yourself as this is a great transition time for you. If you didn't think about things, something would be wrong. The world is a big place and there is so much out there to think about and some of it will make you sad but other things can make you happy too or help you to think on what you would like to do in your life and help you set up goals for the future and what your occupation might be. I hope you will feel better about things and more confident.

 

My parents thought that I wouldn't be talking to him ever again. (So did I) but apparently...And if he really just doesn't stop, then I'll tell them and figure something out. And he doesn't have my password or anything. He's on my ignore/blocked list and still messaged me which freaked me out...He doesnt actually call me on the phone, he can text me and I haven't answered back. The next time he messages me, I'm going to tell him straight that I don't want to talk to him.
That's what I told him right before I blocked him. I literally said "Alright well...I'm really glad you moved on, but at this rate, I really never want to talk to you. I mean it like...Ever." (Which is why he said "ur the one who left (again)" And he STILL messaged me then. Even after I said that. But honestly, thank you for your help. It really did help.

 

I hope it did help and you did the right thing. Best thing to do with those sorts is to just be straight up and sometimes you even have to get mean about it to get them to understand. Some people just are very possessive and you've got to declare your independence from such people. It's good you are going to ignore him and hopefully he now gets a clue. Stay tough!

 

yes , do remember that if you need any advice

we will be happy to give it.

 

i just wanted to say thanks to everyone who helped me with my problem

 

i need help again
and its with my same friend.

so yesthuday.
we went ice skating with a bunch of friends.
and the whole time. i was with her. holding hands.
and when she sprained her ankle
i just got off with her and stayed with her the whole time.
we hugged alot.
we held eachother also
and she gave me a massage and at some times she got up. and gave me a hug from the back as i held her arms.

my friends..well 5 of the friends we hung with thought we were going out.

but we werent. We're just best friends.

But today. i had a interesting convo with my other friend who said that maybe we passed the line of best friends without knowing and he knows that I could be the best one for her instead of any other guy out there since he knows how much i care about her. And he knows she cares about me too as much as i do for her. Other then the 5 people, theres around 7-9 more people who thinks that we shoudl go out or eventually we will.

But im asking if theres a chance that she could like me back that way. and if i should take that chance of telling her how i feel and asking her out.

 

i think that she likes u
i mean really likes u
at least ask her out
cuz if she says no (which i highly dought) then u guys can still be friends and u can try again later when u got a better relationship
its better when a girl breaks up with u or rejets u cuz u can still be friends
so u aint got nothin to loose
go ahead and tell her

 

OK well I decided to suck it up and share atleast 1 problem here *ahem*

I've been on some serious rampages where to the point people are afriad of me and people have gotten hurt and now it's starting to effect my personaility....so I need to find a way to control my anger before it gets bad.....I feel like a monster when I get angry i'm mean seriously people have gotten hurt badly becuase of me hurting them so hard....so please can someone help me control my anger?

 

so just calm down a bit
when i was ur age i used to get agry as hell too
just try an smile that will help
only get angry when ppl mess with u
if u get extremely mad just close ur fists real tigh and take a deep breath
somethin that works for me when i get pissed is
i close my hand to fists and hit my right first with my left 3 times fast and has hard as possible
u gotta do it fast though and the pain (which aint much) distracts me and immiatly calms me down
its silly but helps a lot
just try an calm down
and do u mainly smile or frown?
cuz i always used to frown and got really angry
frowning means ur down and any little thin can set u off
or at least it used to set me off

 

I tend to smile more but if i'm just sitting like now i'm neither frowning or smiling.
But my problem is that i'm to reckless to be calmed down easliy....so I can't take a deep breath or beat my fists together.

 

yeah i know wat u mean now
look im kinda similar sometimes
i just punch stuff
i wanna get a punchin bag cuz that always calms me down
punch stuff always helps
like i punch my pillow to death till its all good and it helps
so y cant u calm down?
what do u do when u go all reckless?

 

Punching only fuels the anger and I punch anything that comes to site....mainly walls....and I do it till my knuckles bleed...when i'm infurated I just can't stop till my arms/legs give out.

 

Now what Jesus?

 

Well I decided to share one thing that I've been bottling up from everyone >.>

 

What would that be?

 

My anger problem and if you look at the past 2-3 posts it explains my anger problem.

 

Why are you so emotional or mad these days?

 

Thats the big problamo cuz you really do have to be in my shoes to understand.

 

When I'm mad i just kick the walls till they are cracked, not till my knuckles bleed! Maybe you should get into bowling, It's a good way to get rid of your anger. Another thing you should try is rewarding yourself when you are well controlled. I've given my friends bloody noses and even broke one's foot...ripping paper is another good remedy. i've known so many people with this problem, including myself. Just try everything and more. You could also try hitting a brick wall with a baseball bat.