Help with Life

i've tried to tell her she still does it and i really like her (as a friend of course) i don't want to ditch her

 

What did she say to that?

 

look i had a similar problem
this is how i dalt with it
i told him off and made him look soft in front of his friends whenever he tried me to look cool
then we were hangin once and i warned him about doin it again
he did it and i stopped hangin with him plus every time i saw him i pushed him and bothered him
then he said he would stop and he did
look dont do all that just tell her off and warn her
if she does her again IGNORE her when she talks to u
cuz if she does that shes not a real friend

 

usualy i tell her when she's making fun of me so she'll just go off with one of her other friends and not say anything

 

I dont think she's worth it...There are better friends out there for you to make. If she's going to treat you bad, don't be a push-over and let her. Real friends wouldn't do that. Not saying that you can't be friends, just saying maybe you guys need a break or something. You should consider making other friends and hanging out with them

 

thats messed up
just ignore her
dont even talk to her
if she ignores u when u tell her that then she's not really ur friend
stop hangin with her
shes not worth it

 

I think I agree with what others said and just stop associating with her. Keep it 'cordial' but she's obviously someone you should label as an acquaintance rather than as a friend. She's the fair weather friend that seems to just be using you when no one is around so you may have to be 'friendly' to her but don't vest too much trust in a real friendship with her. The sister seems more a friend so keep hanging around her but when this girl is around other people, don't even bother being around her as it's not worth your self-esteem and she seems to just be using you to 'up her image' by making fun of you. I wish you luck with this. Maybe after some time of realizing you only do 'hang around her' when the sister is around will make her realize you aren't putting up with her tactics and she'll stop it.

 

Well believe this or not, it's a bit different, because I'm guessing my problem has a different meaning. Someone very close to me, a family member, will constantly cause me hell in life, by joking around. Instead of acting like an adult, and I'm just now getting over it, they don't usually try to go out and be mean, but I get so fed up with some of their joking. I've even explained this to this person over and over, but they're so accustomed to it that it's taken them a long time to fix the habit. We get along better now, but they still have their times when I want to knock them flat and tell them where they can put it.

But you shouldn't have to take abuse from someone that you consider a friend. But at the same time, even though they know what they're saying is hurting you, they may not be truly trying to actually hurt you. I know that sounds very contridicting of what I just said, but it's the honest truth. I've even caught myself doing something similar, perhaps not as harsh as your friend, but it's extremely hard once you get on a roll, to tell yourself that these jokes are hurting someone close to you and that you should really just calm it down. It's taken me a bit percent of my life to remind myself of that and I still do, since in my nature I'm overly bold and a bully. But I'm not afraid to admit it, but I blame that on how I was raised. (See excuses)

But it also may be time for you to be more harsh and open with your friend about. It can destroy a relationship, but a friend must be able to over look your outburst and change themselves so that they no longer do these mean jokes. I've lost friendships this way and hurt like no tomorrow, but in the end I felt better knowing that I wasn't going to have to look forwards to their vocal abuse on my behalf. But sometimes it's hard to know what to do right. Think it over, go over all of your options and then put them into gear. Remember, a true friend, if they truly feel that way about you, will work to stop and put an end to what they say to you. Even if that's how they naturally are. And if they reply back saying something like 'they're too cool to be around you' that's when you can walk away and end it, or do what I would do without thinking, and make a childish retort and tell them where to stick it in very interesting vocabulary. But my option isn't very nice. ^^'

But do what you feel is right, but don't let it continue.

 

No!! Violence is definitely not the way to solve the problem. If you're an acquaintance with the girl you have a crush on, but she likes this guy (who sounds like a complete jerk), then it definitely sounds like a problem. Does the girl go along with his making fun of you? If she does, ask her to stop, and then maybe try and get her to stop the guy she likes, too. But do you know for sure she likes this guy? How well does she know him? Just try and ignore him if he doesn't stop, and if you're moving out of town, you'll be rid of him soon anyway.

 

.................wait what? What problem was this one? *shuffles through stacks of paper that was full 9of problems*

 

I chicken out at each time I try to kill myself and it's driving me insane....can somebody help me through PM?

 

Pm? Let's see. If you want to PM someone, go to their profile and then click to PM that person and then write what you want and then click "send message" at the bottom and then It will send to that person privately. :3

 

Yes Xephos lets PM random people about my suicidal thoughts.

 

Hmmmm. As long aas they aren't teh mods. They'll ban you if you send them the PM's. Btw, you can send up to five people per PM. If you want to do it manually, then go to send PM and then type teh first letters of the person you want to send it too and then it should show a list of people who you're trying to contact and then click that name to be in the list and then choose up to five people. You ned to do this after 60 seconds after every PM.

 

Thats just stupid...the only people who can help is the people who know me as a person...

 

Who are they?

 

Only 1 person here but shes the main reason.

 

Oh her. Why don't you call her? Or atleast try?

 

She got her phone taken away and she was texting me with her friends phone 8 hours ago

 

So you made contact. WEll try to keep in touch with her that way and why did her phone get taken away?