Help with Life

My mom and dad have been divorced for 13 years. I'm not getting them back together. I can't do that either because my dad has a girlfriend.

 

So your dad is right now obsessed with his new gf?

 

My dad plans on marrying her considering they've been together for about four years. My dad and mom can't stand each other and if they are divorced now, why would they get back together anyway?

 

They might have missed each other since maybe but I dunno. how is your mom and dad's personalities nowadays eversince they were divorced?

 

My dad likes his girlfriend. Hes happy and nothing has changed much about him. My mom is more stressed out over the new marriage. Plus she just had an unexpected kid. Shes trying to be happy but I don't know if she really is with my stepdad drinking all the time.

 

Hmmm. The stepdad is out of teh ballgame. If your mother wants, ask her if she wants an abortion. Then your father is okay so leave him out of this now. Tell her to get a new bf.

 

Unexpected child is already born. Tell who to get a new boyfriend? My mom is married. Im not asking my dads girlfriend either to find a new boyfriend either anyway. What for? My dad likes her and so do I. I don't want my mom and dad back together.

 

I see. So is there a problem anyhow? Like anything for you?

Anyways. Just tell me the problem and I'll try to help tomorrow. I g2g now. Later.

 

Reading back through your comments, I have to say I am sorry for what you are going through. It's very stressful. However, I want to assure you that if your step dad does decide to divorce your mom, you are right that forcing your mom and dad back together won't probably happen and would just make things rougher for you. I also want to assure you that though things may be hard for your mom, she has places she can go for help to get money to take care of you guys and not have to work herself to the bone. For the new child, she could get WIC, which helps women without support to get food, some money and such for young children and babies. She can also get help with food stamps from the government and some help with things like her electric bill. Depending how old you are and if you are willing to help her, you could possibly help babysit when you are home, but also there is assistance for day care if she needs it too. There are things out there to help her in her hard times if this guy is going to bounce out on her, plus he would owe her some kind of child support as well. So, don't worry too much about the 'money' side of things.

The more difficult thing is the personal barrage it places on you and your siblings and also her. Having been through one divorce already, it's rough to imagine having to endure it again. Hang in there though and I hope you can still see your mother and father, despite the fact they live apart. They do love you and this step dad seems to need to grow up some and get his priorities straight, but if he can't and is drinking all the time and refuses to work things out, then it may be that your mom is better off without him. She will need support as will you through this so help her out if you can. You aren't going to be a burden financially if she does the things she needs to. Help is available to her and these are exact reasons why it should be used so don't think that way. I think you and your mother and siblings may need to stick through a lot and come together and maybe this step dad will work things out and perhaps he won't, but if I were you, I'd support your mom's side and let her know that you are there for her, if you can. Your step dad is obviously going through some negative feelings and insecurity and I hope he wises up but the sad truth is sometimes people ust won't. I wish you luck and hope things resolve as well as they can. Sorry though that there isn't much else I can think of to do.

 

Thanks. I do get to see my mom and dad equally. I help as much as I can by babysitting and I'll hopefully be getting a job soon just in case that does happen. But thanks for the support. I really needed that =D

 

hello everyone. I'm here because well... title says it all. I feel a bit depressed because of my family. They want me to become all these kinds of things when I grow up. They want me to become a doctor, a supermodel, and a fashion designer. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE. Iv'e been feeling this way since I was 9. Sometimes I had thoughts of suicide. I use to think that the world would be better off without me, and I still think that way. I don't want to be any of those things I just want to draw. I love it, i'm good at it,and it's the only thing that makes me happy. But i'm afraid of dissapointing them.

 

Have you told them that you don't want to be a doctor or any of those things? Tell them that you prefer drawing. That you love it and enjoy it. They shouldn't pressure you to be something you don't want to be. Tell them that you are happy with drawing and that you wouldn't be happy being a doctor or whatever. They should understand.

Eh I hope thats helpful =D

 

Tell them it's your life! Stop letting them control you and show them who's teh boss of your life! Go and tell them that you like drawing instead!

 

I'm on the very edge of killing myself right now i'm not even kidding :/

 

Now what HJ. -_-

 

It's the private stuff I kept from you that has now gotten way worse and now I can't trust the friend who I waited for 1 week

 

Ahh great. Now this is gonna get bad. You joined any famillies in this websit?

 

yes but I rarley talk there.

 

Why rarely?

 

becuase it's either it's did or I have to deal with "her"