Help with Life

... and then we just talked about school. I think she's still angry.

 

Eek, she's clearly just going to be obstinate about the subject. I suggest you just try to cheer her up in anyway you can and just forget about trying to get her to understand. She most likely won't.

 

She likes this wesley guy, as in Like like him and i think she might have just got the courage to ask him out and since she couldn't she Took it out on you.I've seen it before.A girl who's a friend of mine did the same thing to me.

 

I think she's still just upset and frustrated. As I said before, how about talking to her about something else instead like other friends or events and stuff? You made your point and I'm sure she gets it but doesn't want to talk about that particular situation anymore. Then, she won't be so mad.

 

Ouch. Misty, I suggest you apologize to him/her now. I know how it would feel if that happened to me so that is my suggestion.

 

I'm not feeling too well at the moment. Only because I went to a family friend's wake today. It's my hairstylist's husband and my mother's friend from highschool. He died of brain cancer and I'm crying but I didn't even know the guy that well. I believe that death has had a long term effect on me because this town I live in has had a lot of death happen in the past five years, I remember a few like a girl in highschool that died of a asthma attack at a track meeting, and my friend's brother who died of cancer two years ago, now this. I didn't even know these people at all just who they were, and yet I still cry for them.

And school has become harder too knowing the fact that in a few weeks school will be out for summer. So, all the classes are trying to get projects and other things done, it's stressing me out a lot and I've been so tired too, to think that I get the proper eight hours of sleep and yet I'm still tired.

I don't feel like sleeping right now because of all these emotions in me. Can anyone help?

 

Sucks for her really, be blunt and if she doesn't like it then oh well. But she can either get over it now or she can get hurt by it later on. Just let her make that decision, but let her know what is going down. But yea high school relations are pretty much useless, she'll get caught up in it and think its something good when it turns out not to be, just hope she doesn't go far down the road but make it clear that shes gonna get hurt at some point.

 

Well Dove... it means you have a good heart. For me as an example. I watched sad movies and cry. I also lost a grandfather. I've cried only for death but not from pain. So the main thing is you care for anyone else no matter who they are.

 

Yeah, I'm coping with the whole thing now. I'm getting beter.

 

I agree with Xephos that you are a caring person and sensitive to your own feelings but also very much to others' emotions as well. Death is a sad thing to cope with and I hope you will feel better. *hugs*

 

I'm feeling more better right now. I went home from school early and slept for a while. I think I am starting to cope with it. :) *hugs*

 

Well there's another problem solved.

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Btw, nice Avi Dove. :3

 

Alright so...Hey guys.

Set up:
10 year old brothers name is: Joey
2 Year old brothers name is: Christopher (aka, Ochi.)
3 year old brothers name is: Paul

Uh, this morning at like...7:03, Joey and Ochi got hit by a car. I was putting Paul in his seat, and our car was across the street so we all had to cross. I was already over there and then Joey and Ochi crossed. My stepmom was at the house and then Ochi saw her he started to run back across the street and a car was coming and I was busy helping Paul but Joey saw Ochi run across and ran after him. Then Ochi got hit in the head by the metal bumper, and passed out (you could see his skull, plus blood was running down his face and on his clothes and everything), and then Joey had gotten his leg ran over and it broke and he was yelling for me. And my stepmom ran out of the house screaming and crying for Ochi and the police questioned me like twice, then the traffic officer questioned me too and Ochi, Joey, and my stepmom went to the hospital in the ambulance. Paul has absolutely no idea what happened but he's crying and asking for his brothers and my dad got here and he was pissed. He was yelling at the police and asking for blood samples and drug inspections and trying to see if the drivers were drunk (the driver was with his two sons, I doubt it. He looked really sorry, he was shaking and crying.) and my dad was yelling at me and asking me why I didn't see Ochi running and why I didn't stop them and then he left me to head for the hospital.

So the problem is, I feel really really really responsible. I'm the oldest out of all of them and I should've been watching. They all left for the hospital so I'm home alone with Paul and I dont know what to do ><. I know I couldn't have predicted Ochi running, but if he dies I'll probably be near to suicidal. I just need some support right now, I know you guys cant heal my brothers...any help?

 

That's rough. I'm really sorry to hear that, but I'm sure things will be okay. There was honestly nothing you could have done. You were putting Paul in his seat and Ochi decided to turn around. I'm sure even if you had tried your very hardest, you wouldn't have made it to him before the car did. Don't ever blame yourself for something like that. It was an accident and there was almost nothing that could have been done to avoid it. Joey will most likely be completely fine. Do you know what kind of break it was? If it was anything other than compound, it will heal fine.

 

Eh..tough call,first off I hope they'll both be ok..too young an age to have broken bones and such.Im knew at things like this,and I dont like to sugar coat what im saying ,just warning you.

The fault is the driver's for not watching out,and Christopher should know better than to run out in the street when a car is coming.But overall you should have made him stay with you,rather than have a 10 and 2 year old cross alone.But you didnt know a car was going to hit them,so them being sent to the hospital was not your fault.

Just pray for them..Im not sure how your feeling right now since im an only child,and a case like this has never happened to me before.and im sorry if what I said is harsh or cruel,but its just my opinion on this.

 

Joey's ankle was broken, but I called the hospital and they said he'll be fine. They just don't know about Ochi yet...Thanks for helping. It means alot.

Nothing you said was too harsh, or mean. I understand what your saying. Another reason I feel responsible is because before Joey and Christopher crossed, I was going to just take Chris myself. But he kept complaining about wanted to stay with Joe, so I just took Paul and waited for the other two.

The driver was drving a truck, and Ochi's short so I dont think he saw until Joey ran after him, then he swerved and only hit Ochi with the side of the bumper, instead of head on.

I know I should've probably stayed with them, so I feel bad...
But thank you for helping out. I really need this, I havent anyone else to talk to...

 

That's really tragic. I hope Ochi will be okay. Has he woken up at all yet? I'm so sorry to hear this. This is a tragedy though that the kid ran across the street on his own when seeing the step mom. Joeyl did what he could and perhaps did make things much less than they were, we can hope.

But these things happen. People like to say it's someone's fault if something happens where a little kid takes initiative but -accidental death- is real. You had -no- intentions of this happening. Your step mom could be held at as much fault as you for walking out and the boy deciding to run to her. In the end, if you see nothing wrong with what she did, because it was her act of walking out that encouraged the boy to take off, then you yourself did nothing wrong. Normally a 10 year old IS sufficient enough to walk a 2 year old across the street. I am sure Joey blames himself as much as you blame yourself because Ochi took off and he was not ready. Ochi is two. He couldn't have known better, but in the end, if there was fault by what I can tell, it's that he's a 2 year old that saw his mom and before anyone could act, tragedy struck. I have a hard time even faulting the driver, but it seems your dad is the sort that -needs- a bad guy or girl so there's a target for his anger. I'm sure that driver is pretty horrified.

Truthfully, even had you remained back there with your other brother, you don't know if Ochi would have tried to run or if anything could have changed that. You had the 3 year old, which may have been also very likely to take off. Accidents do happen and these kinds are horrible. They leave the worst scars because they really are genuine disasters that no one intended and it is something you will need to forgive yourself over. You, Joey and that driver.

I do hope you will be alright and your family will recover. Your dad is just extremely distraught and people say things when in that nature at the time. I think you and Joey are going to also need some help and support as well as the rest of your family and let's hang in there and keep hope Ochi will pull through.

 

It does seem like my dad needs someone to blame. He was yelling at the driver, the police, my step mom, me...Then he kept blaming himself for working two hours away from home...

I've called several times to see how every one's doing, but there isn't any word on Ochi's actual condition. Every one's just loitering around waiting for news. He did, however, wake up at one point and was crying, then they put him back to sleep. I also heard that he said he wanted to go home, so I'm glad he's talking and responsive at least. If he hadn't woken up at all by now, my worry would've deepened.

Thank you so much for reassuring me that it's not my fault. Ultimately, blaming people won't save Christopher. I'm just trying to be strong for Paul and I'm praying for Ochi. I hope he'll be okay...

 

You are absolutely right. Blaming people and pointing fingers won't help Ochi. I'm sure your dad feels guilt over it too because it's just a horrible thing to happen and he wishes he had been there. When he has time to calm down, he will see that as horrible as it is, it was just out of the power of people to do anymore than what Joey did. It is good that Ochi is responding even though they had to put him out again, so that's a positive. I was worried he'd be in a coma or something after that. You are going through so much but seem to be handling things with a sober mind so keep hanging in there. *hugs* Keep watching Paul and keep hoping.

 

cool beans, not so cool anymore

I'm depressed. It seems everyone around me is so dumb, and not a lot of people use common sense. I'm talking about religion, I need some comfort peeps.