Help with Life

I've got a bit of a problem right now...Okay, so one girl at school has been getting on my nerves for close to a year now. She used to be one of my best friends, but, last year, she became a flirt. Now, she flirts with whatever guy comes within a hundred yards of her, and she acts super cute and ditzy to where you just want to heave. And, on top of this, she hates me now. So now it's total war. Unfortunately, she has my best guy friend on her side, and I really don't want to lose him. But she's been saying that I've been mean to her, when I've actually been quite civil. I'm just not acting all buddy-buddy with her anymore, and now I'm instantly mean. And her mom's trying to recruit others against me, too. And naturally, she's going to have all the guys on her side, because every single one of them is against her.

And then, on top of all this, I'm having major problems with self-esteem. I mean, I'm happy with who I am, but I feel like no one really notices me. But...considering all the guys only notice this girl I hate, do freshmen guys only notice girls who are complete ditzes? I'm not like that at all. I like things like Invader ZIM, Death Note, Anchorman, fencing...are guys just not into girls like me?

 

Hmm though sound like very good ideas to use on K. I've already told C that she can live the way she wants, with K we had a huge fight about her stop calling C names also the same with the movie. K is very stubbon this way an d she doesn't let things go. I think I will tell J this course I already know he's reaction 'why the hell are you mad at me for?' 'how am i annoying?'

 

Who do you not consider as a friend anymore? And when you mean abortion to end the pregnancy, is it like forever you'll never get pregnant?

Ouch. That is a problem. It's the same thing as me. Most of teh people pretend I don't exist so you should just let them be and get your own friends.

Okay then. Good luck

 

Your friend 'K' sounds very stubborn and you say she's very 'sensitive' but also she's not sensitive to other people's feelings, including your own when you talk about your girlfriend. She shouldn't even mention to you that she -tolerates- that you are bisexual. That's your choice and if you and your girlfriend are happy, good for you. What I'd tell her is something along the lines of 'You are sensitive and set expectations for others and act like anything we do is bad to you...did you stop and think of how mean you are to us to think you have a right to tell us what we can watch or do?" Then I'd add that regardless of her opinion, you are going to keep doing the things -you- feel are right and so aren't others. She needs some sensitivity training in regards to learning benevolence. Christian, Atheist or whatever, everyone sometimes needs to learn what they do harms others and if they want friends, they should cut it out. She really has no -right- to set expectations on others.

Person C...well, she is making her own choices. If she does get pregnant or something happens because she's high energy, if she's willing to deal with the repercussions, then no one really should say anything to her in the negative except her parents or teachers who might want to help her out. Religion isn't going to help her. Her own willpower will. I think it was right of you to defend her and she may end up being the most open-minded of those you discussed.

As for J...I doubt he'd really bug you so much if you didn't have to deal with the K and C problem. J seems to just want your attention and seems kind of high strung, maybe though not as bad as K. He's being over enthusiastic and maybe you just need to tell him sometimes that you are busy and he will get the hint. Maybe also you should talk to him about C without K being there so he will chill out about her and then you can have all of your friends and not feel so forced to make choices between them. This doesn't always work but it gives a chance.

I wish you luck and hope things get better for you.

Well, this is a hard thing to say. Girls that act ditzy get the wrong kind of attention any way really so if I were you I wouldn't worry about it so much. She's making herself look like a floozy for attention and some guys will be all over that because she makes herself look 'easy' and all.

Not all guys though are into that sort of thing. 9th grade, you are asking a lot for a guy to be committed to much more though since high school is well...experimentation in relationships time for guys. This is not to say that there are not some good sensitive guys too but acting how you do, you are more likely to get a -good- boyfriend when you do, than one that just is out for the giggly ditz. It may take you more time to find a guy, but believe me, it will probably be more worth it if you stick to your values and be 'real'. As for this girl, I would try to move on and ignore her if you can. She's talking trash and it's a shame her mom and others have to get in on the bandwagon but you can move on around her and have real friends too. People like that make it hard to be real but doing so makes you a better person in the end and you'll likely end up with better friends who also are more into being themselves instead of fitting some lame stereotype. If that's how she wants to go, let her go and don't let yourself be brought down by it. Keep your self-esteem high because in the end she'll get what's coming to her which will be a lack of anything positive but attention. The attention you'll get will be more sincere, real and validated. If you think that's more important, hold your chin up high and let her get her fake tude on. These boys hanging around her too will learn how fake she is sooner or later too so any that actually are nice will move off her soon enough, including your male friend that is just intrigued.

One last thing is that perhaps you should try to be a little more outgoing with the friends you do have and hang out with others. That may help your self-esteem some too. Be well and good luck.

 

Abortion just means to kill the baby before it gets born. and i mean the one kid who makes my life miserable isnt my friend still.

No, i just dont understand what you were saying.

 

So that means it's just to kill the baby but she still can get pregnant in teh future right?

 

Yeah, thats what happens.

 

Okay I can breathe now. *phew* Thanx for the update. Hope she'll be okay and won't get any side effects after the abortion.

 

Hmm yes I see. I know that K is very stubbon after all I've known her since the 1st grade when I was five. But now her stubboness is showing up more and more though this whole year. When I actually told her I was bi she said it straight out that she tolerated me, and she admitted to me that she was mad at me for a while. She said it was because of the whole 'shock factor' to find out that her bestfriend is bi, but the more I think about it, the more I think that it was a different reason. And your right she can't have expections for me or anyone else, really me and C have talked about what was going to happen to K after highschool. We agree that K is going to be surpised by the real world and K thinks that her good grades will set her life for her (she's a all A type of student) and she's rather shelted to the real world that me and C have experienced.

Actually C has been pregnant before, and her and her family were okay with it, but she had a miscarriage. So far she hasn't gotten pregnant just yet and she hasn't been with anyone. She really is the most open-minded person I've ever met which is why I like her more than most of my friends.

Yes for J I think I will tell him this, I really hope he gets this. And I do have time when C and K aren't around to tell him this.

Thank you very much I think that this has helped a lot. :)

 

Well this is somewhat ironic, since I am used to always being the person cheering my friends and stuff up


>.>

so yeah, suicide >.>

I can't believe I am posting on a ****ing Kingdom Hearts forum about this.

So I have this feeling like I want to curl up in a tiny little ball and die =D​

 

Oh noez, CtR D:

Well, i might be able to help if you explain why you feel this way... >>

 

Mainly because every area of my life has gone to hell you know xD and to be honest I am not sure how much **** I can deal with anymore, and I have dealt with a LOT of **** in my life.​

 

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Wow , this is a surprise

Catch the rain??

the level-headed person here, and with such a language???

its ok, everyone has his days

why are you feeling like this??

we will help you in any way we can.....please explain with detail

 

Hmm... Well, first of all, I would say calm down... Freaking out about it isn't going to help anything... And even though you've got alot of things going on, and it may seem too tough to get through, suicide is NEVER the awnser. Just think positive and say that everything will turn out okay and you can get through it. If you've made it this far, you can keep going, I know you can. ^^ But suicide is a horrible thing to turn to. The only advice I can give is to just believe you can keep going, and to try and get through it... but don't turn to suicide.

 

Cmon Kay, work through this. You helped me when i was down, now its my turn to help you.

 

I give that same advice to so many people, and I know, stay positive and hope for the best. Well, I have been doing that for too ****ing long :x

My entire life I have hid when I am down because I don't want to let people down. Every decision I make, I make it dependent on how it effects everyone else. I always have to be the sensible one with the answers, the happy one, the positive one. I am not allowed to be sad xD afterall, if I am sad then who is going to fix things?

I am tired of being hurt by people who claim to be my friend, and you know, at the end of the day all I have is myself. Everyone leaves you know, hell even my father walked out when I was like 5 xD he probably couldn't stand me either =D

Everyone leaves and all I am left with is more tears and broken feelings. One can only take so many broken hearts before too much damage is done you know.

So you see, staying postive and smiling, that is what I have done my whole damn life.​

 

Dont ignore it and stay positive for now. i know this feels like a horrible thing to say, but just cry. Cry for a while, and eventually you'll feel better. Trust me, after youve just let out every emotion you have, wihtout harming yourself, it will be much easier to think positive.

 

I do nothing but cry lately xD at night that is how I get to sleep.

How ****ing pathetic is that? lmfao I am such a ****ing mess

xDDDD it's funny when you think about, I can help others and solve everyone elses problems, but I can't ****ing deal with my own lmfao how lame​

 

Alright, talk to me on msn a bout this, itll be easier to say some things.

 

that happens to all of us , (now youre making me cry)

sometimes , we try to be strong so everyone doesnt worry.

youre really strong, remember that , and youre a bright strong level- headed girl

cry, you can cry but keep going , let your tears flow as you remain strong.

you deserve your tears, because youve suffered much, once you cry you must keep going .....we all must