Help with Life

Hhm, yuo have to stand up for yourself, nobody and when i say nobody I MEAN NOBODY can tell you what you can do and cant do, follow your own way, if those friends cant except that they arent good friends.
Love......, Love is a great thing if you feel that way about that guy, Ignore what those girls say about him.
Let your feelings be stronger than the words those friends of yours say. I'm sure you'll find really good friends that will help you to pick up your books when they fall down, and listin nobody in this world is Perfect!
Just be yourself. Start standing up for yourself;) you have the power, all you need is courage and will power, and everyone has that:D.
You are what you are, just be proud that you can be....

 

easy solution, ignore them, and just be yourself. they can only hurt your feelings if you LET them do it.

also..........

what is with all these people cutting themselves?! is that like the "cool" thing to do now or something? because i dont' understand why anyone thinks that would solve their problems. it doesn't even feel good for god's sake. (hopes that paragraph doesn't offend anyone)

 

Yeah, its not good for you guys health:(

 

Yeah sometimes life can be unfair you feel. It can't be help. I agree with EvilMan_89 too. Remove them from your friendlist. Why in the world would you befriend with someone like that? Wash those thickskulls and skinnytwits far away from ya. Why would you want to imitate being somebody else instead of being yourself? Is it that bad to be you? Plus those idiots just toying with ya all the time. I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you can't stand for yourself, why would others? I believe you are a great person yourself and outside looks doesn't really matter! Why suffer so bad just to be so 'perfect' like them? I agree if you want to lose some weight, but your way is so wrong. And cutting yourself aren't gonna help you either. Don't throw your life away just because of a few down words. Believe in yourself! And about having boyfriends, you can see for yourself that you still own that great personality! Or else, why would others that doesn't even have boyfriend would irritate you with mocks? They're just jealous because you are a better one then them. You have your own charms. Leave their words... Be yourself. If I were you, I'd do that because I don't want to end up in the counselling room for the freaking hours. I believe you can change and you will have my support.

 

I understand your pain. I'm in the same situation as you are in now. I thought I was imperfect as I don't have many friends. The only place where I have friends is here. Before I came here, I was alone. I ate alone in classes, alone in classrooms, no one to talk to except this one girl who greatly appreciated me as one of her native country. She didn't go to any of my periods that time so I was planning for cutting my wrists until after my grandfather died. After he died, I came here and made many friends almost immediately. I was happy then. You should stay living and find..... interesting things in this world like meeting me here. :3

 

*hugs* xephos , *cries*

youve gone through a lot and so have all of you(including me of course)

as for me , i try to be nice to everyone , even when they try to treat me like dirt

when i treat them nicely , they just cant help but to not bother me , because im too nice

 

I tried that tactic about two years ago.

 

still * hugs*

have you made any new friends ?

outside of the forums?

 

pfft. Maybe two.

 

Just try and find peopel your comfortable with, Youll find some good friends, trust me.

 

Eh. I guess I'll try.

 

help me out :

ive got a friend of mine who is driving me crazy, he's the kind of person you, like to kick in the booty

why?

1.because he's a mama's boy(he's 16....16!!!) and its not the fact that he lives with his mother(that doesnt mean youre a mamas boy) its just that he acts like a little kid , a kid who deserves everything , i mean, his mother pays him for helping around the house(and doing a lousy job at it)

2. he thinks all teenagers are stupid that are driven by peer pressure(he thinks everything is peer pressure)

EXAMPLE:

ME: oh, let me see what others are doing

friend 1: we are listening to X band

ME: ok, lemme listen ...there good

Friend that im talking about: oh, youre always doing what everyone does

see!!!

3.is an ignorant , and doesnt like admiting he's wrong (so childish)

4.Complains a lot(school mostly), i dunno why , he's in the easiest class, im in the hardest one.

5. is a slacker , a liar, he tries to pretend hes good at school and has a good life( OMG, hes freaking wreck)

6.manipulates teachers(a teacher gave him 3 A's in three test he turned in blank!!!!!!)

7. starts saying that i have worst grades than him, im gonna describe a conversation whe had wich made me really mad(for the first time)

im in a school group wich requires you to have good grades.

Him; i dont know why youre even in the that group your grades arent that good anyways, (and i remembered that his mother grounded him for, manipulating the teacher, liying to her and the teacher, for turning three test in blank , and still getting A, and i start thinking "the nerve")

ME: you shoulnt talk about me , because you know how you are

other friends where around, and they looked like me has if i should say it

ME: im not gonna say anything else...

HIM: yeah , because if you do , youre gonna get it (this got me really mad ,REALLY MAD!!!)

ME: im not gonna say anything else you know the rest, beside im not gonna embarass you here

and then i just kept quiet

And he doesnt understand , that just because i like something, or wanna do something that someone else is doing , doesnt mean im a "sheep" as he called me , (wich bothered me too) , and i told him , all i do , all i say is me, not a immitation of other people, and he just tried to correct me saying im a "sheep"

What!, no one else has a right to say who i am , but myself , and his "smart **s attitude wasnt helping either

he doesnt do anything , he just uses the computer till who knows wich hour and then blames school for feeling tired.

"i blame school for my stress " he says , when he is in no clubs, no collaboration, nothing, just his videogames and his computer

and im sick nd tired of that "stupid attitude of his since 4th grade"

help me

 

Then don't be friends with him. That's one way.

 

Tell him that. if it doesnt work, go to the next step and blatantly point out his mistakes. if that doesnt work, be cruel, and get people to shun him.

or yknow, try to explain to him how you feel and that if he cant try and change you cant be friends with him anymore.

 

Update on my problem: I talked to one of my cheer coaches and she said that maybe I could go do my homework in detention and then go cheer at the games and practices afterwards... we have two more practices next week and one playoff game next saturday, then we're done... I am presenting my science project on monday, so the stress from that is gone... So basically, things are getting alot better, I'm not as stressed, although I am sick (but getting better ^^). Now the only thing causing me stress is my upcoming play and with me being sick, my voice sounds horrible D:

but thanks for helping me, you guys... it worked out pretty well, thanks to you ^^

 

So the plan that I gave you the idea worked? That's good to hear. :3 *purrs*

 

Well, what I would tell you is this and it's hard to hear in school...but school life doesn't last forever. These people are -not- friends and probably aren't people you are going to ever want to really associate with again after school unless they did some growing up. You seem more mature and they are just being snotty. One thing I will say is that perhaps they feel in a way you are too distant and talking to some other kids might help your situation to show you aren't so distant and aloof from them.

Having said that, it's not right how these people are treating you, but you may want to try talking to some people and sitting with some people that are more amiable and just chat to show you can be sociable if you can. That way you have some people there you can meet and you won't feel so alone and those people that bother you might move on or some of them may even change themselves. Also, what they say to you, try to think of it as not important. Some of them are probably just jealous.

You know your boyfriend isn't gay or a pervert, right? So they are just talking smack. As for your weight, there are things you can do but one of them is definitely not to skip meals. Instead, if you are really concerned about it try eating smaller meals and following some of the guidelines we gave earlier about eating some food, drinking some water before or after that, and see if you are still hungry after 10 minutes. Savor the food and enjoy the taste instead of eating it quickly as most of us do because we always seem to have to be in a hurry. A few smaller meals is much healthier for you than skipping meals any day as doing the skipping meals just slows your metabolism and you will just get more fat if you eat regular again for a while. You may also want to try to do some light exercises throughout the day such as doing 50 jumping jacks here and there to get your cardiovascular up and get the system moving when nothing else is going on.

You seem like a nice person to me and I hope things get better for you. School is in some ways more a social place than it is a place of just academics. You may want to try to see on getting more social and put your books in a bag at lunch instead of having them out. Good luck!

Chervalier:

Your friend seems to be pretty opinionated but also very introverted and doesn't like possibly associating with a lot of people at once. He also may be kind of envious if he were to see you go off with others but at the same time, this is what you should probably do and also try to get him to join you if you can. Just tell him that peer pressure would mean you would be lured into doing something bad; not doing something like hanging out with people to listen to music or some such thing. If you were bieng led down the wrong path, you have a voice and a set of legs that will take you right away from that bad sort of stuff so what's the harm in being a part of others' lives? He may need some coaxing, but you have a right also to go hang out with others whether he joins you or not. Perhaps if you convince him enough, he may find out people aren't all sheep who want to just enjoy themselves and hang out. It seems though he's very opinionated for some reason and this bias of his needs addressed. Maybe you could even ask him when alone what is his deal and explain that he is a friend but you also want more than one friend and he's not being replaced as he is welcome to go along as well. Good luck to you.

Xephos:

You seem pretty cool to me and I think we all feel displaced and bleah in school because of the attitudes of some jerks. Keep your head up and being nice helps but also I hope you don't get walked on for it much. Also, there's nothing wrong with having a few 'quality' friends rather than a ton of superficial fair weather friends. Those quality good few friends may last for years while people who are 'popular' with a ton of friends that are just there because they are in a clique fade away pretty much right after school. Stay cool.

 

Nyee~ He's a slick alright. Bossy slick. If he says you're a sheep for doing what others will do, does that made him a cow? (since cow dislike red color and drives it mad) He's rebellious. He doesn't like to be or have the same things in life. Truth is, nobody can escape from the life it was. He's a good kind, but just slightly bored with life that's all. He wants everything in his way. He wants to be the cool guy who doesn't follow the pattern of life. I mean, videogames. You can say the same thing to it whenever he says about how boring it is to follow people's same interests in a field. And about his attitude of 'I am the super almighty best in everything whereas the other teens are just lame' is normal. This type of person usually gets lonely, but he has you to bully around. I think HE is in the peer pressure problem. He just don't realize that. I respect your ability to stand the nerve being friends with him and I'm pretty sure you don't wanna break the friendship thing with him yet.
My advice, whenever he starts to nag the part about himself that you dislike to hear, just put it in your right ear and out to the left when he finishes. This way you won't hurt his OR your feelings. Okay? ^^

Destiny Star,
I wish you tons of luck in the play and get well as soon as possible. ^^

 

Alright i have a few problems i need to deal with now.
My girlfriend is pregnant. Its definately abortion, but i still feel depressed and angry about it.
And because of that, alot of other stuff is going on.
Ive started drinking -excessively- and im only 14. This is definately very bad for me, but when i try to stop, i cant.
Im back into my old habit of cutting myself, and i dont know why. i dont even want to, but sometimes if i have somethign sharp in my hand i just do it out of instinct, like im supposed to be doingit or something.
and now this kid in my class who used to be my friend, now is the biggest ****ing ******* ive ever ****ing seen in my entire ****ing like. hes a ****ing attention whore who can't get enough of m suffering.

examples:
Bens stupid and sick and ******ed, his girlfriends pregnant, thats so disgusting, dont talk to him
Oh ben is an idiot because i say so, dont include him in the grad skit that he spent a month writing
Ben is obviously gay, dont let him hang out with us

Im about ready to take one of these bottles, break it, and slit his throat.

 

Dude! Calm down! How old is your girlfriend? -_-